Bathi ikhona Iindidi ezimbini zabantu, ii-optimists kunye nezinye. Nokuba kunjalo, ukuba nethemba yinto umgangatho inokufundwa. Ewe, njengoko uyiva, sinokuphinda sizifundise ukuze sibe nokucinga okuhle kunye nembono nangaphezulu kwako konke, singafundisa kubantwana bethu nakwishumi elivisayo ukuze bafunde ukuba ngabantu abagcwele ithemba.
Abantu abanethemba lokwakha kunye nokuziva uxanduva lolonwabo lwabo, kungoko iziganeko ezibi zinqabile, ziyenzeka kodwa ayiqhelekanga. Kwakhona, ukuba kukho into embi eyenzekayo kungenxa yezizathu zangaphandle, ke bekungenakuphepheka.
Iingcebiso zokwenza abantwana babe nethemba
Ingqondo yezengqondo ivelise iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokunceda amakhwenkwe namantombazana ukuba onwabe ngakumbi. Into ephambili kukuba ufunde ukuba ukukhathazeka kuyinxalenye yophuhliso oluqhelekileyo lobomi, kwaye kufuneka ujongane nayo Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Sigqithisela kuwe ezinye imigangatho yokuziphatha Ilula ukuba ishiya umkhondo wethemba kuwe, nakumntwana wakho. Ukuba sizigxininisa kakhulu kuwe, kungenxa yokuba ufunda ukubona ubomi kwicala elilungileyo, kwaye kufuneka ube ngumzekelo woonyana neentombi zakho.
- Ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle kubo, okanye engaphumiyo okokuqala, sukuyitshonisa, okanye uzame ukuyenzela yona. Sebenzisa ibinzana: "akwenzeki nto". Uya kubona ukuba ilahleka njani ukubaluleka kwezikhubekiso.
- Dlala uhleke ngokukhululekileyo nabantwana bakho. Ungabanyumbaza, ubudenge okanye uxele iziqhulo, nokuba ukuhleka kungamvusa njani uhleko oluhle kwaye oku kuyakwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho Bulela. Ukuxabisile ukutya yonke imihla, iimpahla zakhe, usapho, abahlobo, umdlalo awenzayo, impilo yakhe.
- Nangona kubonakala kucacile, baxelele abantwana bakho ukuba uyabathanda. Ungayibonakalisi ngamagama kuphela, kodwa nangezimbo zomzimba kunye nezinto ezothusayo.
- Abantwana kufuneka bafundiswe bakholelwe ngokwabo. Enye indlela yokubakhuthaza ukuba benze oku kukuqhwabela izandla nokuvuma impumelelo yabo. Yiba neqhayiya ngabo kwaye wabelane ngalo.
Olunye lweempawu zabo bonke abantwana abanethemba lolwabo ubuntu obomeleleyo, Ngelixa sithandana kwaye sikhusela abona babuthathaka nabona buthathaka.
Ukunyanzelwa kwinqanaba lokufikisa, ungakufezekisa njani?
Kubonakala ngathi ithemba kunye nokufikisa kufana neoyile kunye namanzi, ezigxothanayo. Kodwa akunjalo. Nangona eli linqanaba elinzima kwaye linzima ngokwasehomoni, kuya kunyamezeleka ngakumbi xa ufika kubo abakwishumi elivisayo banembonakalo "engwevu".
Umthambo onokuwenza nolutsha kukuthatha iphepha uze ubacele ukuba benze uluhlu lwezinto ezingekhoyo. Ezo zinto wonke umntu afuna ukuba zenzeke. Mabaphuphe kwaye babe nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wokuba izalisekiswa njani iminqweno yabo. Emva koko bacele ukuba bazame indlela yokuphumeza ezo njongo. Uya kube sele ulifumene ixesha lokuzithemba, ngoku kuhlala kukuziqhelanisa.
Kule minyaka kufuneka usebenze nzima Isimo sengqondo sethemba kunye nenkuthazo, Ngesi sizathu, kufanelekile kakhulu ukukhuthaza ukufunda nokubukela iifilimu ezikhuthazayo kunye nemisebenzi. Umzekelo, sinokuba nobuganga bokucebisa ithiyori Yonke into, ngokusekwe kubomi benzululwazi uStephen Hawking.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba nethemba
Ukuba nethemba kubalulekile kuyo yonke iminyaka. Abantu abadala, Ukuba nethemba abantwana abafikisayo nabakwishumi elivisayo abazithembi kangako, balawula ulindelo lwabo, banomdla ngakumbi ekuphepheni ukungakhathali kunye nokudikwa. Bangabantwana abanomdla kunye nolutsha olunomdla ngakumbi. Kukwanqabile ukuba bahlupheke kuxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo xa bejamelene nobunzima.
Abantwana kunye nabakwishumi elivisayo abanembono elungileyo ngehlabathi bahlala ngathi ndinomdla ngakumbi. Abayeki ukufuna ukufunda. Baqhubeka nokufumana izakhono, ezenza ukuba babe zizinto zentlalo, bathathe inxaxheba kumaqela, bathathe iimeko okanye bathethe nabantu.
Okokugqibela, inyani yokwazi ukuba izinto zinokutshintsha, yenza ukuba ulutsha lube nethemba abantu abazingisayo. Abaqhele ukunikezela kumqobo wokuqala ovelayo. Nangona thina, abantu abadala bosapho, singavumelani nezo njongo, kodwa lelinye ibali.