Njengomama, unokuziva uzingca ngalo lonke ixesha ucinga ngesiqu sakho, kodwa kufuneka ukwenze oko ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuba ngumama ongcono, umfazi olungileyo kunye nomhlobo olungileyo. Mhlawumbi uziva ngathi ukuba ngumama kunamanzi amdaka okanye uziva kwilizwe elinxungupheleyo lizama ukufikelela kulindelo loluntu usapho lwakho kunye nolindelo lwakho.
Xa oku kusenzeka, uyakufika umhla apho uya kujonga esipilini kwaye uzibuze ukuba ngubani na lo mntu ukujongileyo. Uphi umfazi lowo wawukhoyo kwaye unguye? Ufihle phi? Uyabona ukuba awuyazi into eyenzekileyo kuwe, kwaye awazi ukuba wayephi laa mfazi. Kodwa laa mfazi usenani, ulele ... kwaye lixesha lokuba nimvuse kwakhona.
Ngaba uzibeka usezantsi kolu luhlu?
Oomama (elowo nalowo kuthi) banotyekelo lokuzibeka emazantsi oluhlu, kubonakala ngathi yile nto bayenzayo oomama abalungileyo, akunjalo? Akukho nto ngaloo nto. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyeke ukuthenga iimpahla-into oyifunayo- kuba abantwana bakho badinga izihlangu ezi-3, mhlawumbi ezi-2 zibonakala ngathi izihlangu zanele kubo kwaye unokuba nazo iimpahla ozifunayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo awunalo ixesha lokuya ejimini kuba awufuni kuchitha ixesha nabantwana bakho, kodwa kutheni ungenakulunga? Dlala imidlalo nabantwana bakho okanye xa besemva kwesikolo. Ngaba kuye kwafuneka udle umile kuba ubeke phambili isidlo sangokuhlwa sabantwana bakho ngaphambi kwesakho? Ukwenza kakubi, isidlo sangokuhlwa lixesha lomntu wonke, hayi abantwana bakho kuphela.
Awunalo ixesha lokuhlamba iinwele zakho ngenxa yokuba uneshedyuli yakho egcwele imisebenzi yabantwana bakho? Iphi into ephambili kuwe? Anditsho ukuba uyalibala ngabantwana bakho okanye uchitha lonke ixesha uzenzela wena, kodwa nditsho ukuba ubeke phambili umzuzu othile ukuba ube nguwe kwakhona, uzikhathalele, ukuze ube nakho ukuba ngcono Umama kwaye uphile ngakumbi ngokwasemoyeni. Ivakala kamndandi? Yenze yenzeke!
Ufuna ukuyenza yonke
Oomama abaninzi banotyekelo lokufuna ukulawula yonke into, babe nayo yonke into phantsi kolawulo kuba becinga ukuba ngaloo ndlela yonke into izakulunga. Esinye sezizathu zokuba oomama bafune ukuba phantsi kolawulo yonke into, kuba bathanda abantwana babo kakhulu, ngaphezu kwabo ... kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo, yinto yendalo. Kananjalo, amajelo eendaba asibonisa ukuba oomama bafezeke. Kubonakala ngathi abantu basetyhini kufuneka bafunde ukugoba ngaphezulu kwaye bephinda-phinda, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa uthe wawa kakhulu?
Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ugoba de uye kuwa?
Ukuba uyawa, uya kuziva kakubi, uza kucinga ukuba ubomi bakho buyanyanyeka kwaye uzakukhala, uzakukhala kakhulu. Uya kube uyenzele abantwana bakho, usapho lwakho ... uya kucinga ngezinye izibophelelo kwaye awuyi kuzicingela. Ude uwe kwaye uzive iintlungu zokuwa. Umzimba wakho uya kuba kwilizwe elahlukileyo kunengqondo yakho, kuba ingqondo yakho iyekile ukucinga kudala.
Ukuze ungawi, kuya kufuneka uhambe neqabane lakho njengeqela, kodwa nibe nitshatile. Ukuba awuphilanga ngokwasemphefumlweni, usapho lwakho lungaqhekeka, umsebenzi wakho unokwaphuka, uthando lunokuphela… uya kuziva ngathi urhaxwa, impilo yakho izakuqala ukonakala kwaye ungaqala nokuthandabuza injongo yakho yemihla ngemihla ebomini .
Emva kokuchitha iminyaka embalwa ubaleka ungakhange ucinge ngehlabathi lesiporho, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba umiselwe ukuba ulahlekelwe. Uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo olubeka ebomini bakho alunakunceda, kwaye nosapho lwakho alunakunceda. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuba ngumama olungileyo, umfazi olungileyo, umhlobo olungileyo kunye nomntu olungileyo ... ke kuya kufuneka ubekwe kwindawo yokuqala. Kuya kufuneka unxibelelane kwakhona nokuba ungubani kwaye ufuna ukuba yintoni. Bhala phantsi ephepheni into ofuna ukuyiphumeza, indlela ofuna ukuzibona ngayo kwinyanga ... kwaye uqale ngokutshintsha izinto ebomini bakho de ube uyifezekisile.
Zibeke kwindawo yokuqala
Ewe, zibeke kwindawo yokuqala kwaye wena nentsapho yakho niya konwaba. Nje ukuba uqaphele ukuba kukho ingxaki, nguwe kuphela umntu onokuyilungisa. Ke yile nto kanye ekufuneka uyenzile. Khangela injongo kuqala, kwaye ewe… ungabeka usapho lwakho nabantwana bakho kuqala, kodwa akuyomfuneko ukuba uzibeka phantsi kwabo, kodwa ecaleni kwabo.
Abantwana bakho banokonwaba xa besenza into enye kunye nawe endaweni yokwenza izinto ezintathu ... ungacwangcisa ixesha lomsebenzi wakho, unganqamula kwifowuni xa uziva ugcwele ... seta imida. Fumana umsebenzi olungela ubomi bakho ngcono, nokuba ufumana umvuzo omncinci kwaye uhlengahlengisa ngaphezulu. Nxibelelana neqabane lakho kwaye nibe nobusuku kunye namaxesha okusondelelana apho aningobazali kuphela, kodwa nesibini kunye nabathandi.
Qala ukubeka phambili umzuzwana emini ukuze nidle kunye nosapho, nokuba sisidlo sasemini okanye isidlo sangokuhlwa ... ukusebenza kwiingxoxo ezingaphazanyiswanga, ngaphandle kweTV ... okanye iifowuni. Thatha uhambo losapho ... zibophelele kuwe nakwintsapho yakho, yenza izinto kunye okanye kathathu ngeveki kwaye kungekudala izakuba yinto yesiqhelo kwaye uya kuba nakho ukufumana ixesha lakho. Thatha ixesha lekhefu ngeCawa emva kwemini ungakhange uzisole ... Injongo kukuba xa uchitha ixesha nosapho lwakho ubakhona, uyonwabele ...
Ulonwabo lwakho lubaluleke kakhulu
Ufanele lonke ulonwabo emhlabeni ngenxa yendlela olwa ngayo. Ukuba awunayo inkqubo yenkxaso - iqabane okanye usapho - unokucinga ukuba olu tshintsho alunakwenzeka. Inyani yile yokuba baya kuba nzima ngakumbi, kodwa akufuneki babekho nzima.
Ungathetha nabahlobo, abamelwane okanye izalamane ezikwimeko efanayo neyakho. Ningatshintshana ngokuhoya abantwana, ninokupheka kancinci ebusuku ukuze kungafuneki nipheke kakhulu emini, ninokudibana nabahlobo ngelixa ninabantwana bakho… cinga ngendlela onokuyifumana ngayo, kwaye wenze.