Uluntu esiphila kulo namhlanje lunyanzela abazali abaninzi ukuba bangabikho ekhaya ixesha elininzi kwaye abantwana abanakubonwabela ubukho babo okanye ixesha losapho. Kubuhlungu ukuba oku kuyenzeka okoko abantwana kufuneka babe nabazali babo ukuze bakwazi ukukhula ngokufanelekileyo kuyo yonke imimandla Ubomi bakho: intlalontle, iimvakalelo, ubukrelekrele… Ixesha elifanelekileyo nabantwana bakho libalulekile kubomi bosapho obulungileyo kwaye ngakumbi ulonwabo ekhaya.
Nangona kuyinyani ukuba okwangoku ukungabikho kwexesha lobomi ekufuneka libukhokelwe ngabazali kuyatyholwa kuba ukuze kufikelelwe ekupheleni kwenyanga ngokwesiqhelo bobabini kufuneka basebenze, kumaxesha adlulileyo ukusilela komntu katata bekusolwa kuba ibingumfazi ngubani lo wayehlala ekhaya, kwaye kumaxesha angaphambili yayiyinto yenkcubeko ... Nokuba sithini na isizathu, okukufuphi kukuba kufuneka kubekho utshintsho lwengqondo kubomi babo bonke abazali Yehlabathi ukonwaba kwabantwana kunye nekamva elingcono lomntu wonke.
Abantwana abayidingi ...
Abantwana abadingi zinto zingaphezulu, neengubo zegama okanye zonke izinto zamva nje. Bafuna ukuhlala kufutshane nabazali babo, babe nexesha elingakumbi kubo nokuba abanayo yonke into. Kucacile ukuba abazali kuya kufuneka basebenze nzima ukuze baphile kwaye abantwana banokonwabela ikhaya, ucoceko olululo, ukutya yonke imihla etafileni, njl. Kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba abazali bakho basebenze iiyure ezili-12 ngosuku ukuhlawulela ikhefu lasehlotyeni kwelinye icala lehlabathi. Abantwana baya konwaba ngakumbi ukuba phakathi konyaka bave ngathi ikhefu kuba banexesha losapho ... Kwaye xa kufika ihlobo, ayinamsebenzi ukuhlala elunxwemeni elikufutshane okanye ukuba iiholide zifutshane!
Abantwana abayifuni yakutshanje phantsi komthi ngeKrisimesi ukuze babalasele eklasiniOko akubenzi babengcono okuya kubenza bathande izinto eziphathekayo xa bekhulile kwaye olu luntu lwabathengi luya kuba namandla alulawulo lokusebenzisa ngokungxamisekileyo. Abantwana bafuna ukwangiwa ngakumbi, ngakumbi "ndiyakuthanda" kunye neeyure ezininzi epakini bedlala i-croquette nabazali babo.
Ndagqibela nini ukonwaba ngezinto ezilula?
Abazali nabantwana baneeshedyuli ezixineneyo mihla le esibonakala ngathi siyakulibala ukusondelelana kosapho… Uninzi lwethu kufuneka lwenze iinzame zokwenza ukuba abantwana benze umsebenzi wabo wasekhaya esikolweni, baye kwimidlalo ngexesha kwaye yonke into ime ngendlela. Kodwa ubomi busenza ukuba sihambe ngokukhawuleza kangangokuba silibale ukuyeka kwaye sonwabe kwezona zinto zilula, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu: fundisa abantwana bethu ukonwabela izinto ezilula.
Abazali abaninzi bayakulibala ukudlala
Abazali abaninzi bayakulibala ukudlala nabantwana babo kwaye ukudlala kubalulekile ebomini babo bonke abantu (hayi abantwana kuphela). Sonke kufuneka sihleke kwaye sonwabele umzuzu, siyazi ukuba sonwabile kwaye siziva ngaphakathi kuthi uvuyo lokuba ecaleni kwabantu esibathanda kakhulu kobu bomi: usapho lwethu.
Ukudlala nabantwana bethu kuya kwenza ukuba iintliziyo zethu zikhanyise kwaye kwenze nomphefumlo wethu uzive ukhululekile kuxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla, Lonke unxunguphalo kunye nazo zonke izityholo zeemvakalelo ezingalunganga. Ixesha elisemgangathweni olinika abantwana bakho lixabisa ubunzima balo kwigolide, kuba yeyona nto bayifunayo ukuze bakwazi ukonwabela ubomi kwaye bakhule benenkumbulo ezintle eziza kubenza babe ngabantu abaphumeleleyo, abalungeleleneyo nabanakho ukusebenza.
Abantwana bahlala kufutshane kwaye banxibelelana nendalo, kuya kufuneka uyibukele kangangemizuzu emi-5 ukuze ufunde kuyo. Makhe ndikunxibelelanise kwakhona naloo mntwana ungaphakathi onaye kwaye wonwabele nabantwana bakho. Thatha ixesha lokuzinandipha kwaye uzonwabele. Ukudlala kukodwa kwaye kubalulekile njengokuphefumla, Kungenxa yoko le nto kungafanelekanga ukuba ulahle eso sakhono sibalulekileyo.
Konwabele apha kwaye ngoku nabantwana bakho
Ukudlala nabantwana bakho kwaye ubanike ixesha elisemgangathweni apho ii-smartphones kunye neelaptops zingenandawo, uyakube uqhagamshela okwangoku, ukhumbule eyona nto ibalulekileyo kwaye uya kukwazi ukucothisa ixesha elide ukuze ukwazi ukubona ezona zinto zibalulekileyo: vala amehlo uphulaphule abantwana bakho behleka, ngowona mculo mhle wentliziyo yakho!
Kananjalo, ukuba ubanika ixesha elisemgangathweni abantwana bakho, uya kuba unxibelelana nabo ngokweemvakalelo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufumane ixesha lokwenza yonke imihla. Kodwa ungaziva unetyala ukuba awunalo ixesha elininzi kuba imeko yakho ayikuvumeli kwaye akukho nto unokuyenza ngalo mzuzu ukuyilungisa, kodwa yenza ixesha olichitha nabo libe lelona likhethekileyo, ixesha elisemgangathweni. Ukwakhiwa ngokutsha kweemvakalelo kuya kuhlala kuhlala kuwe.
Abantwana bakho bayakufuna
Abantwana bakho kufuneka basondele kuwe, bazi ukuba xa bekufuna, uya kuba ecaleni kwabo, kufuneka bahleke nawe kwaye bakwenze ecaleni kwakho. Kufuneka bazive ukuba ubathanda njani kwaye wonwabe kangakanani unabo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho akanamdla wokuba umhoye, kuya kufuneka ucinge kwaye uphinde uyithathele ingqalelo le nto umnike yona.
Ukuba uhlala udlala nabantwana bakho okanye ukhathazekile ngokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo rhoqo, ke awunakukhathazeka ukuba umntwana wakho ungaphambi kokufikisa okanye ufikisa, kuba nokuba ufuna indawo yakhe amaxesha ngamaxesha, uya ngokuqinisekileyo qhubeka ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe.
Ukudlala nabantwana bakho kufuna ukuba ufumane izinto zokuzonwabisa, umdlalo ubandakanya ukuba kunye. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awunalo ixesha lokudlala naye okanye ukhe uhambe ukhe uhambe ... kwaye ukuba uyenza rhoqo le nto, kuya kufuneka uqale ubeke phambili ixesha lakho, awucingi?
Emva kwakho konke, ngubani oza kukhumbula kwiminyaka eyi-10 ukuba uhlale eofisini ngoLwesibili ebusuku kude kube yintsimbi yeshumi elinanye? Kodwa ndiqinisekile ukuba unyana wakho akasoze ayilibale indlela obumnandi ngayo kunye kwi-roller coaster ngolwe-Lwesibini.
Khumbula ukuba akukho nto eyakha ukuthembana kunye nokudibana nomntwana akufuneki kuthathwe ngokungakhathali, kuya kufuneka wabelane ngamaxesha akho nabantwana bakho.