Kukho abantwana abaninzi abakhulela kwiindawo apho intlonipho ibonakala ngokungabikho kwayo, apho abantu abadala bathetha omnye nomnye ngeendlela ezimbi. Abantwana ngala mehlo mancinci abona yonke into kwaye afunde yonke into, nokuba abantu abadala abaqondi. Kungenxa yesi sizathu siphambili sokuba abantu abadala kufuneka bathathele ingqalelo indlela yokuziphatha kwabo kwaye kananjalo, ukwazi ukukhokela abantwana ekukhuleni kwabo ukuze babe ngabantu abanentlonipho.
Intlonipho
Ngelishwa, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje asilindelanga ukuba wonke umntu ahloniphe wonke umntu. Kubonakala ngathi ukuba krwada sele kuqhelekile kwezinye iindawo, yaye oku akunyamezeleki kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukujongwa njani na.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba sinako ukufundisa abantwana bethu eli xabiso libalulekileyo, yaye ngokwenjenjalo, siya kuphelela ekufundiseni izifundo ezibalulekileyo ezingobubele, ukuba nolwazelelelo, ukunyaniseka, ukuba neengqondo eziphangaleleyo nokuba nombulelo. Eyona ndlela isebenzayo yokufundisa abantwana ukuba nembeko kukuyenza usekhaya. Abazali baya kuhlala beyimizekelo ebalaseleyo yokulandelwa ngabantwana.
Ifuna isimilo esihle
Ukwenza ngembeko akuyonto nje esesikweni, luxanduva loluntu. Xa abantwana besithi 'enkosi' emva kokunikwa okuthile, bayaqonda ukuba kukho ukutshintshiselana, ukupha nokuthatha. Ngale nto, abantwana bayaqonda ukuba izinto azifunyanwa ngaphandle kwembuyekezo.
Nabantwana abancinane banokufunda ukuthi ‘ndicela’ nokuthi ‘enkosi’, ngoxa abantwana abangekaqala ukuya esikolweni befanele bajonge abantu emehlweni xa bebulisa baze bathi ‘molo’ okanye ‘sala kakuhle’. Abazali bafanele bakulungele ukunika ezi zikhumbuzo kubantwana babo suku ngalunye. Abantwana banenkumbulo elinganiselweyo ngoko, bafuna uphindaphindo oluninzi ukukwazi ukufunda oku ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukuze kamva, kuza ngokwemvelo kubo.
Xa ufuna umntwana wakho aziphathe kakuhle kwindawo ethile, njengendawo yokulinda kagqirha, kufuneka umchazele phambi kokuba ahambe into elindeleke kuye kwezi ndawo. Abayazi kwaye indalo yabo kukudlala kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ukuba ufuna ukuba aziphathe kakuhle, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba umchazele into afanele ayenze nangaliphi na ixesha. Kwakhona kuya kubaluleka ukucacisa kwangaphambili ukuba yiyiphi imiphumo emibi eya kuba nayo xa kwenzeka ukuziphatha okungafanelekanga kunye iziphumo ezilungileyo ukuba zichanekile ngalo lonke ixesha.
Xa abantwana bebethelelwa ngokunconywa nangokucacisa isizathu sokuba abantu abayimizekelo emihle ibalulekile, baya kuba nesimilo esibhetele.
Musa ukubunyamezela ubukrwada
Ukuziphatha okunganyamezelekiyo kunye nezimvo ezibuyela emva zixhaphakile kule mihla kangangokuba kunokuba lula ukungayihoyi indlela yokuziphatha xa abantwana bakho bethetha amagama amdaka omnye komnye okanye xa intombi yakho iphosa isandi emva kokubhengeza ukuba ixesha likamabonwakude liphelile. Kodwa umntwana ovunyelweyo ukuba athethe ngolo hlobo nentsapho yakhe usenokukholelwa ukuba kulungile ukugxeka abanye abantu, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba abazali basabele ngoko nangoko kwihambo yabo.
Kwenze kucace ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba ucaphuke kangakanani na, ayinakuze yamkeleke into yokuba bangxolise omnye umntu. Emva koko, mncede aveze iimvakalelo zakhe ngokwenza amazwi athi 'ndiyaziva' endaweni yokukhomba ngeminwe ngemiyalezo ethi 'wena' egxeka iimvakalelo zakhe kwabanye. Unokumbuza imibuzo ukuze aveze iimvakalelo zakhe ngamazwi. Ngokunika umntwana wakho indlela efanelekileyo yokubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe, ubazisa ukuba nangona kungokwemvelo ukuziva unomsindo okanye udidekile ngamaxesha athile, oko akuthethi ukuba banokubenzakalisa abanye. Kubalulekile ukuqonda imvakalelo ukwazi oko isixelela kona kwaye ufumane indlela yokuziva ngcono.
Abantwana basafunda ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabo, ngoko musa ukumangaliswa ukuba kuthatha umonde omkhulu kumntwana wakho ukulawula umsindo wakhe. Inxalenye yokufundisa imbeko kukufundisa abantwana ukuba xa sisenza iimpazamo, sithetha ngendlela esivakalelwa ngayo, kubonisa ukuba umkhathalele ngokwaneleyo umntu ongamhloniphiyo yaye unoxanduva lwezakho iimpazamo. Ngale ndlela, ukuba wenza into ebakhathazayo abantwana bakho, ufanele ucele uxolo kubo uzolile.
Fundisa izakhono zokuphulaphula ngembeko
Ngokunika umntu ixesha nengqalelo yakho, ubonisa ukuba uyamxabisa. Ixesha alihlawulwa ngemali kuba xa sele lidlulile alibuyi. Ixesha bobona butyebi banabo abantu.
Ukunikela ixesha yenye yezona ndlela zibalulekileyo zokubonisa imbeko. Inyathelo lokuqala lokuba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo: phelisa iziphazamiso kwaye ujonge emehlweni. Ngoko fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba abeke phantsi umlawuli kwaye agxininise kuwe xa uthetha naye. Ngesizathu esifanayo, uya kufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba ujonge phezulu kwifowuni yakho xa umntwana wakho enento yokukuxelela.
Unokumfundisa ngakumbi malunga nokuba yintoni efunekayo ukuze ube ngumntu ochubekileyo wencoko, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa, ulinde ithuba lakhe lokuthetha, ngokudlala indima. Qala ngento ongamele uyenze (ukuphazamisa okanye ujonge ecaleni xa bethetha nawe). Emva koko unokulungisa izinto ofanele uzenze (linda de umntu agqibe ukuthetha ukuze agqabaze, landela oko kusandul’ ukuthethwa ngomnye umntu ngombuzo), kwaye qaphela umahluko.
Misela imithetho kunye nemida
Ukumisela imiqathango kufundisa abantwana ukuba ihlabathi alibajikelezi. kuphela: kufuneka bacingele abanye ngezenzo zabo. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba abanakukwazi ukulandela imithetho ekhaya, abayi kukwazi ukuyenza kwenye indawo. Ngokubavumela ukuba benze nantoni na abayifunayo, ngaphandle kwemiphumo, ubakhulisa ukuba babe ngabahluleki kwixesha elizayo. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukubethelela intlonelo ngegunya ebantwaneni, ukususela ekhaya.
Ukuze uhlonele imithetho yekhaya, abantwana bakho bamele bazazi kakuhle izinto eziyiyo, ngoko umele ubacacisele uze uyibhale phantsi kwindawo abanokubonwa kuyo ngokucacileyo. Kwakhona kuya kufuneka uchaze ukuba kutheni imithetho ibalulekile kwikhaya ngalinye. Umntwana wakho usenokungayiqondi ngoko nangoko indlela edibana ngayo ukuhlonela imithetho nokuhlonela abantu abayibekayo, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe uya kuyiqonda. Iziphumo zokungathobeli nazo kufuneka zicace kakhulu kwimithetho.