Ootata noomama abaninzi baya kukuxelela ukuba ababangxolisa abantwana babo kuba besazi ukuba oko kubi, kodwa inyaniso isenokwahluka kakhulu. Kuqhelekile kuluntu esizifumana sikulo namhlanje ukuba abazali baxinezeleke kakhulu, phakathi komsebenzi kunye nolunye uxanduva lwemihla ngemihla. Ngesi sizathuUkuba ngaxa lithile uye wangxola kubantwana bakho, kufuneka wazi ukuba awuyena utata okanye umama ombi emhlabeni, Okubalulekileyo kukuba oku kungabi ngumkhwa ombi kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuba uwulungise ukuze ungabi yinto eqhelekileyo xa ukhulisa abantwana bakho.
Yenza iingxaki zokuziphatha zibe mandundu
Ukuba ubangxolisa abantwana bakho rhoqo ngexesha loqeqesho, uya kuyenza ibe mandundu indlela abaziphatha ngayo. Oku kunokuba ngumjikelo okhohlakeleyo, kuba ukukhwaza kuya kwenza abantwana baziphathe kakubi kwaye oku kuya kukhokelela ekungxoleni ngakumbi kwaye ke: ukukhala ngakumbi, ukuziphatha okubi, ukukhwaza, ukuziphatha okubi ... kwaye umjikelo uyaqhubeka.
Ngaphaya koko, xa ungxola kubantwana bakho, kuphelelwa ngamandla ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye umntwana oqhele ukungxoliswa uya kuqalisa ukuqhawuka kwinto abayithethayo, ukongezelela ekubeni nenxeba elikhulayo ngokweemvakalelo entliziyweni yabo. Kwakhona, ukuba uyabangxolisa abantwana, abayi kufunda ukuphucula ukuziphatha kwabo... Ukuba umntwana uyangxoliswa kuba ebethe umzalwana wakhe, akayi kufunda ukucombulula iingxaki ngoxolo; Ngaphezu koko, uya kufunda ukuba ugonyamelo, enoba lolwasemzimbeni okanye lolwezwi luvumelekile. Kodwa ngaba kunokwenzeka ukubaqeqesha abantwana ngaphandle kokungxolisa?
Misela imigaqo ecacileyo
Awufane ungxolisa abantwana bakho ukuba bayayazi into oyilindeleyo kubo ngamaxesha onke. Ukuba unemithetho ecacileyo ekhaya, kuya kufuneka uyigcine. Uluhlu olungqongqo lwemithetho ekhaya lonke ixesha lubalulekile, luhambelana nemithetho kwaye xa luphulwa, ukuseka iziphumo ezicacileyo ngokunjalo.
Xa imithetho yaphulwe kufuneka kubekho isiphumo esicacileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba wenze indima yakho kwaye uxhathise imiphumo yokukhwaza okanye ukufundisa kuba amagama owathethayo akayi kufundisa umntwana wakho ukuphucula ... Kwelinye icala, umzekelo wakho uya kuba ngoyena mfundisi ubalaseleyo kuye.
Thetha ngeziphumo zokwaphulwa kwemithetho phambi kokuba kwenzeke
Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakho bazi imiphumo emibi yokwaphula imithetho ngaphambi kokuba bayaphule. Sebenzisa ixesha lokuphuma, susa amalungelo, okanye usebenzise ingqiqo okanye iziphumo zendalo ukuze umntwana wakho aqale ukuqonda kwaye afunde kwiimpazamo zakhe. Xa esenza impazamo kwaye eziphatha kakubi, kufuneka afunde malunga nokwenzekileyo kwaye ukuba uyamngxolisa, Into oza kuyenza kukuzivala ngokwasemoyeni.
Umzekelo, unokuthi izinto ezinje: Ukuba awondluli ibhedi yakho ngaphambi kokuba uye esikolweni, akusayi kubukela umabonwakude ngaphambi kokuba utye.. Ngoko, kuya kuxhomekeka kukhetho lomntwana wakho enoba wenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo (okanye akunjalo) ukuze zibe nemiphumo emihle (ukubukela umabonwakude) okanye ezimbi (ungamjongi). Kuya kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba zeziphi iintlobo zezigqibo ezizezona zilungileyo kwaye zeziphi iziphumo ezisebenza kakhulu kumntwana wakho (ayizizo zonke iziphumo ezisebenza ngokulinganayo kubo bonke abantwana kwaye kuya kuxhomekeka kwizinto abazithandayo kunye nezinto abazithandayo).
Nika ukomelezwa okulungileyo
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba alandele imithetho esebenzisa ukuqiniswa okulungileyo. Ukuba kukho imiphumo emibi yokwaphulwa kwemithetho, kufuneka kwakhona kubekho imiphumo emihle yokulandela imigaqo. Mncome umntwana wakho ngokwenza izinto kakuhle, khumbula ukuba iziphumo ezilungileyo nazo ziyimfuneko ukuqinisa ukuziphatha okuhle. Ungamxelela izinto ezinje: "Enkosi ngokwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo ngokuchanekileyo nje ufika ekhaya, ndiyayithanda loo nto."
Nika ingqwalaselo eyakhayo yokunciphisa isimilo esifuna ingqalelo. Bekela bucala ixesha elincinane suku ngalunye ukuze ukhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba enze izinto kakuhle. Ukuba umntwana wakho uneengxaki ezithile zokuziphatha, yenza inkqubo yokuvuza. Iitshati zezincamathelisi zisebenza kakuhle kubantwana abancinci. Iinkqubo zoqoqosho lweempawu zinokusebenza kakuhle kubantwana abadala. Iinkqubo zokuvuza zinokunceda ukuxazulula iingxaki zokuziphatha ngokukhawuleza.
Ukhalela ntoni?
Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba kutheni ungxolisa abantwana bakho... kusoloko kukho into ebangela ukuba wenze oko. Ukuba uyakhwaza ngenxa yokuba unomsindo, funda izicwangciso zokuzola ukuze ukwazi ukulinganisa iindlela zokulawula umsindo.
Kufuneka uthathe ixesha lokuphumla kwaye ulawule iingcinga ezinokukwenza ucaphuke. Ngaphandle kokuba imeko iyingozi, linda de uzole ukuze uqeqeshe umntwana wakho. Ukuba uyamngxolisa kuba engakumameli xa uthetha naye, kuya kufuneka uzame iindlela ezintsha zokufumana ingqalelo yomntwana wakho. Kuya kufuneka uziqhelise ukunika imiyalelo esebenzayo ngaphandle kokuphakamisa ilizwi lakho.
Ukuba ngenxa yaso nasiphi na esinye isizathu, uyakhwaza ngokucaphuka kuya kufuneka ube nesicwangciso esicacileyo sokujongana nokuziphatha okubi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali bakhwaza izisongelo ezingenanto abangazange bacebe ukuzilandela, kodwa bakwenza oko kuphela ngenxa yokuba baziva bengafaneleki kwaye bengayazi enye into abanokuyenza. Abantwana bayayiqwalasela le nto baze baqonde ukuba abazali babo basengxakini yaye indlela abaziphatha ngayo inokuba mandundu ngenxa yokungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo abakubonisayo.
Nika izilumkiso nanini na xa kuyimfuneko
Kunokuba ungxole, xelela umntwana wakho xa engakuphulaphuli. Unokuthi amabinzana afana nala: “Ewe… (kwaye ke unike isilumkiso). Thetha izinto ezinje, "Ukuba awuzicholi iithoyi zakho ngoku, awuzukwazi ukudlala ngeebhloko zomthi phambi kwesidlo sangokuhlwa."
Xa ukhwaza kudla ngokuphela kumzabalazo wamagunya. Okukhona ukhwaza umntwana ukuba enze into, kokukhona anokudelela ngakumbi. Isilumkiso esicacileyo, nangona kunjalo, ukumxelela oko uceba ukukwenza ukuba akayilandeli imithetho kusebenza ngakumbi.
Zingqinelani neziphumo
Kuphephe ukuthethisa okanye ukuphinda izilumkiso ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Endaweni yoko, landela ngeziphumo ukubonisa ukuba uthetha into oyithethayo. Uqeqesho olungaguqukiyo ngundoqo wokwenza umntwana wakho atshintshe indlela aziphatha ngayo aze athobele ngakumbi.
Khumbula ukuba ukurhoxisa amalungelo okwexeshana kunokunceda umntwana wakho acinge kakuhle ngaphambi kokuba aphule imithetho. Ezi ntlobo zeziphumo zisebenza ngakumbi kunokuba ubangxolisa ngenxa yokuba uziva ungenakukwazi.