Uninzi lwabazali longa ithoni yabo ebukhali "kwiimeko ezingxamisekileyo." Xa ukhuseleko lungumcimbi, bahlala betshintsha isicwangciso sabo sobuzali ngendlela engqongqo. Ngokucacileyo oku kuyavakala. Ukuba umntwana wakho oneminyaka emine usendleleni, ngaba ufanele ukhwaze? EWE! injongo yakho, nangona kunjalo, ayikokohlwaya. Injongo yokukhwaza kufuneka ibe kukufumana ingqalelo. Ukuba awukhalanga rhoqo, oku kufanelekile kakhulu. Ukuba uhlala ukhala, uwenza buthathaka amandla elizwi lakho kwiimeko ezingxamisekileyo.
Soloko uphendula kwingozi ekhawulezileyo. Nangona kunjalo, uqeqesho lokulandelela lwenziwa ngcono ngelizwi elinovelwano nelichaphazelekayo. Oko akuthethi ukuba awuliphakamisi ilizwi lakho kwezi meko ziyingozi ukufumana ingqalelo yabo ngoko nangoko. Kodwa lonke unxibelelwano emva kokufumana ingqalelo yabo uya kuba novelwano lokwenene kunye nenkxalabo kwilizwi lakho.
Ungahlala njani unovelwano xa ukhathazekile
Nokuba ufuna ukutshintsha ithoni yakho, abantwana abasoloko bekwenza kube lula. Ke kwenzeka ntoni xa ucaphuke ngokupheleleyo? Ngaphambi kokujongana notshintsho kwithoni yovelwano, kufuneka ujonge ekuhlaleni uzolile. Thatha umphefumlo onzulu okanye uthathe "ixesha lokuphuma" ukukhumbula. Xa uthetha, usebenzisa ilizwi lokucula ingoma inokukunceda uvakale kakuhle xa ungaziva.
Ke ulisebenzise kakuhle uthando lomntwana wakho. Ukuziphatha kuchaza umsebenzi wethu wokufundisa abantwana bethu ukuba baphumelele njengoko bekhula kwaye bekhula. Siyazi kakuhle ukuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani kwaye kube ngumngeni ukufunda kwiimpazamo zethu. Nyaniseka ngovelwano lwakho. Khumbula ukuba umkhathalele kangakanani umntwana wakho. Xa uziva ngenene, kuya kuba lula ukunxibelelana ngovelwano ngethoni yakho.
Khumbula ngalo lonke ixesha kufuneka uqeqeshe abantwana bakho, khumbula indlela yokugcina uzolile ngamaxesha akho oxinzelelo kwaye ngale ndlela, uya kuba nemvisiswano ngakumbi ekhayeni lakho, kunye nosapho lwakho.