Akukho ntlungu ibuhlungu kunaleyo ibangelwe kukusweleka komntwana. Wonke umntu uyayazi le nto kwaye uyayiqonda intlungu yabazali xa bejamelene nelahleko. Nangona kunjalo, xa sithetha ngokusweleka komntwana ngexa lokukhulelwa, ukubeleka okanye ukubeleka, kuye kuthambekele ekubeni kuncitshiswe kwaye kujongelwe phantsi, ukuzama ukubuyisela abazali kubomi obuqhelekileyo ngokukhawuleza.
Emva kokuswelekelwa ngumntu esimthandayo, sadlula inkqubo yengqondo yokuziqhelanisa eyaziwa ngokuba lusizi. Sithetha ngentlungu yokukhulelwa, xa ukufa kusenzeka ngexesha lekota yokuqala neyesibini yokukhulelwa. Ukuba ukufa kwenzeka kwikota yesithathu, ngexesha lokubeleka okanye kwezi ntsuku zisixhenxe zilandelayo, sithetha ngentlungu engapheliyo.
Intlungu yesini, intlungu engaqondakaliyo
Into eqhelekileyo ngokuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo kukuba usapho lufumana inkxaso kunye nokuqonda. Usizi, ukulila kunye nenkumbulo kuthathwa njengokufanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, zombini ukukhulelwa kunye nentlungu yokubeleka ihlala ilusizi abazali abajongana nalo bodwa, ngakumbi ukuba ilahleko yenzeka kwiiveki zokuqala zokukhulelwa. Ukufa komntwana kubonakala ngathi sisihloko ekungekho mntu ufuna ukuthetha ngaso. Into oza kuyilibala kwaye utyhile iphepha.
Kodwa koomama nootata abajongana nentlungu yokuphulukana, akukho lula. Abakhathali nokuba umntwana wabo uneentsuku nje ezimbalwa, iiveki okanye iinyanga ubudala. Kungenxa yokuba, ukusukela oko babona ukukhulelwa kwabo okanye nangaphambi koko, sele beqalisile ukuziva njengoomama nootata bololo sana, beveza umbono wabo kunye nethemba kuye. Kuba Unyana uhlala engunyana kwaye ukufa kwakhe, nokuba ungakanani ubudala kunye nobungakanani, ngamava abuhlungu.
Akukho mntu ukulungeleyo ukufumana ukufa xa kulindelwe bubomi. Xa lonke ulonwabo kunye nokulindelwa kwikamva ngesiquphe kunqunyulwa kwaye kunikwe indlela kwiintlungu ezigqithileyo. Intlungu oomama nootata abambalwa abanokwabelana ngayo ngenxa yokoyika ukuziva bengaqondwa kwindawo ebakhuthazayo ukuba benze isileyiti esicocekileyo.
Umama, ayikukujongana nokufa konyana wakhe kuphela, kodwa nentlungu yakhe ayiqinisekiswanga, Wenzelwe ukuba abone ukuba akaqhelekanga kwaye kufuneka aqhubeke nobomi ngokungathi akwenzekanga nto. Kubazali, ayibi lula. Ukuba kwimeko yabasetyhini, iintlungu ziyancitshiswa, kwimeko yamadoda angakhange ayenze le nkqubo kwinyama yabo, ukuba lusizi akuqinisekiswanga kwaphela.
Iintsapho ezihamba ngokuphulukana nokukhulelwa okanye ukukhulelwa komzimba azisokeli kuphela usana olungazanga. Bayasokola kuba unyana wabo, onememori eya kuhlala ingacimeki ezintliziyweni zabo, akekho kwihlabathi lonke. Kungenxa yokuba, xa oko kufunwa ngumzimba kubo kukukhala, ukukhwaza okanye ukuba nomsindo ngabantu nangokobuthixo, babonwa njengezidalwa ezingaqhelekanga. Kuba xa benokufumana isibindi sokuthetha ngentlungu yabo, uninzi lwabantu luyayitshintsha umxholo okanye luyijongele phantsi.
Kuko konke oku kungentla, oomama nootata abaphulukana neentsana zabo kufuneka badlule kulusizi olungabonakaliyo kuluntu. Usizi olukhanyelweyo, ukongeza ekwenzeni ukuba bazive bengaqondwa, kunokubenza bazive benetyala ngokungaziva kakuhle emphefumlweni. Abakwazi ukuqonda ukuba kutheni, ukuba wonke umntu uthatha into eyenzekileyo kubo njengengabalulekanga, babi kakhulu kwaye abanako ukuyoyisa.
Usapho nabahlobo banokubanceda njani abazali ngokuswelekelwa lusana lwabo?
Ukuqonda amanqanaba osizi.
Le duel yi Inkqubo yendalo, iyimfuneko ukwamkela ilahleko kwaye ubuyele kubomi obuqhelekileyo. Ixesha lalo liyahluka kwaye nendlela umntu ngamnye ayifumana ngayo. Inoluhlu lweemvakalelo, nangona ezi zingasoloko zinikwa zizonke okanye ngokulandelelana.
Ukuphika: Abanye abantu, bakuva iindaba zokusweleka okanye zokufa kosana lwabo kwixa elizayo, bayothuka kwaye Benza ngokungathi oko bakuvayo akuyonyaniso. Yindlela yokuzikhusela ukuhlangabezana nentlungu ebangelwe sesi siganeko sibuhlungu.
Umsindo okanye iimvakalelo zomsindo ukungasiqondi isizathu sokulahleka: Linqanaba apho amatyala okanye oonobangela bokufa kosana kudla ngokufunwa. Kuqhelekile ukuba nomsindo ngabasebenzi bezempilo, kunye namalungu osapho, nosana lwakho, kunye nawe.
Ingxoxo: Okwangoku, kumalunga nokufikelela kwisivumelwano nesiqu sakho, nendalo esingqongileyo okanye "namandla aphezulu" ukuya zama ukufumana isisombululo kwinto eyenzekileyo. Nangona ngokusesikweni iyaziwa ukuba ayinakwenzeka.
Usizi: Ngeli xesha, abazali qala ukwazi inyani Iimpawu zokudakumba okanye uxinzelelo zinokubonakala. Inqanaba lethutyana, eliyimfuneko ekwamkelweni kwelahleko emva koko.
Ukwamkelwa: Yamkelekile into yokuba ilahleko ayinakuphinda ibuye. Inyaniso ibonwa ngelinye icala ukuba, nangona ingazisi ulonwabo, izisa imvakalelo yoxolo. Ukuzola kweli nqanaba kunika ukubuyela ebomini bomntu ngaphandle kokungabikho.
Ukuvuma kunye nokuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho.
Kubalulekile ukuba usapho, abahlobo kunye neengcali ezihamba nesibini ngexesha lokulahleka, zivumele bonisa iimvakalelo zakho, ngaphandle kokudlala ngendlela oziva ngayo kwaye ungayithathi lula imeko. Abazali abafelweyo akufuneki bakhuthazwe ukuba baziphephe ezi mvakalelo, kuba siyakuba siyala iintlungu zabo kwaye sizithintele ekukhuleni kwintlungu yendalo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
Ukumamela izinto ekufuneka besixelele zona.
Ngaphandle kweziphazamiso, ngaphandle kokuthetha amabinzana anciphisa ukubaluleka kwento eyenzekayo kubo.
Ukuba novelwano nokuqonda.
Kunzima ukuziva nokuba liqhezu leentlungu eziviwa ngabazali abaswelekelwe ngumntwana, kodwa singazama Zibeke ezihlangwini zabo kwaye ucinge ngendlela esinokuziva ngayo malunga nale meko. Ngale ndlela sinokuyiqonda indlela abavakalelwa ngayo kwaye sibapheleke ngcono.
Ukuphepha amabinzana amabi.
Amagqabantshintshi afana no "ungakhathazeki, usemncinci kakhulu", "unokuba nabantwana abaninzi", "ubuncinci kakhulu, bendingekenziwa", "ngcono ngoku kunangoku", wenzakele enzulwini Umphefumlo wesibini esilahlekelwe kwaye ungenzi nto ngaphandle ukunciphisa imeko kubo kubuhlungu ngokungathethekiyo.
Ndiyakhapha.
Ngamanye amaxesha akukho mfuneko yokuba uthethe nantoni na, ubukho obulula kunye nokwazisa abazali ukuba sikhona kuyo nantoni na abayifunayo ixabisa amagama aliwaka. Singabanika igxalaba lokulila, ukumamela, okanye ukubambelela kwiimvakalelo. Kananjalo sinokwenza imisebenzi enceda ukwenza ukuba yonke imihla ithwale njengokupheka, ukuthenga, ukucoca, njl.
Banokunceda njani abaqeqeshi bezempilo?
Ukuvumela ixesha elithile bodwa.
Inokwenzeka into yokuba, bakufumana iindaba, abazali bakothuka. Endaweni yokubaxakekisa ngeenkqubo kunye nolwazi lobuchwephesha. eyona nto ingangcono Bashiye ixesha elithile bodwa ukuze baqonde kwaye baqonde ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubo.
Ukunikezela ngolwazi oluthembekileyo kunye namagama alula.
Abasebenzi kufuneka bazise esi sibini malunga iinkqubo ezahlukeneyo ezinokwenzeka ngokweemeko ezithile, (ulawulo olulindelekileyo, unyango, ukungeniswa, njl. Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba abazali bafumane ulwazi malunga neendlela ezahlukeneyo kulawulo lobisi olukhulayo ukuba ityala liyavela.
Ukuvumela ukuba bathathe ixesha labo.
Akukho mfuneko yokuba isibini sithathe izigqibo kwangoko. Kwiimeko ezininzi, oku akuyiyo imeko engxamisekileyo kwaye izigqibo zingalinda de babe abazali balungile ukuzithatha.
Ukuvumela abazali ukuba bakhatshwe
Ngexesha elibuhlungu njengokufa kosana, i sikhatshwe ngumntu omthembileyo kuyo yonke inkqubo, unokuba luncedo olukhulu kubazali.
Ukuphepha ukuthatha abazali ubase kwindawo yokubeleka.
Kumama notata ojongana nokuswelekelwa ngumntwana, ukufikelela kwindawo apho zonke iintsapho zinabantwana babo, ngelixa iingalo zabo zingenanto, kunokuba buhlungu. Kuyimfuneko ukuxhasa ukuba emva kwelahleko, esi sibini singena kwenye indawo ngaphandle kwendawo yokubeleka kwaye, ukuba kuyenzeka, kwigumbi elinye apho banokufumana ukuzola nokuba bodwa.
Ukwenza kube lula kubazali ukubona kunye nokuvalelisa kusana lwabo.
Ukwazi ukubeka ubuso emntwaneni wakho kwaye ubonakalise ubukho bakhe kuthanda ukwandiswa kwesililo esenziwe ngabazali. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba iziko lezempilo libeke zonke kuthetha ukuba umama notata babone kwaye bagxothe umntwana wabo ukuba bayathanda.
Ukuphepha amagama ahlazisayo.
Ngalo lonke ixesha kuphephe ukusebenzisa amagama anjengomntwana, inkunkuma okanye inkunkuma yebhayoloji. Masingakulibali oko sithetha ngonyana wabazali oswelekileyo owaphuke yintlungu. Ukuba umntwana unegama, kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukulisebenzisa. Iya kubonelela abazali ngemvakalelo yokusondela kunye nentlonipho ngomntwana wabo.
Izifundo ezikhuthazayo ezinokuthi zichaze unobangela welahleko.
Kungangabikho sizathu sonyango, kodwa kuya kubaluleka ukuba abazali bazikhuphe izizathu ezahlukileyo ezinokuthi zikhokelele kwilahleko. Ukujongana nesiganeko esibuhlungu, iintsapho ezininzi zifuna njalo Uyasazi isizathu sokubhubha kosana lwakho.
Kubazali, ukuphulukana nosana lwabo lixesha elinzima eliya kuhlala ngonaphakade kwimemori yabo. Emva kokufumana iindaba zokusweleka kosana lwabo, balindelwe ziinyanga okanye iminyaka yosizi apho kuya kubakho amahla ndinyuka kunye nokubuyela umva. Inkxaso yendalo esingqongileyo kunye nabanye abazali abadlulile kuyo kubalulekile. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bazikhathalele kwaye bazithobe ngokwabo. Ukuhambahamba, ukwenza imisebenzi eyonwabisayo, nokumamela umzimba wakho kunokunceda ekwenzeni inkqubo inyamezeleke ngakumbi. Ukwenziwa kwesiko, iileta zokuvalelisa, iibhokisi zememori, iialbham zeefoto yimisebenzi enceda inkqubo yelahleko. Ngexesha elingaphezulu kwaye, Nangona ekuqaleni kubonakala kungenakwenzeka, kuyakufika umhla xa befumana uxolo kwaye banokuncuma kwakhona.