Mna nosana lwam siyancancisa. Ukudubula kokuqala.
«Bendingenalo ubisi», «walile ibele lam», «wasala elambile» ... ngamanye amaxesha, kumabali malunga nokuncancisa, kukho amagqabantshintshi afana nala endicinga ukuba iseninzi into ekufuneka yenziwe ngokwenkxaso yokuncancisa. Kwinkcubeko yethu kukho ulwazi oluninzi malunga nokuncancisa kunikwe indalo yayo, usizi lokuba ukwenziwa kwemizi-mveliso kunye norhwebo kudala ulwazi oluphosakeleyo oludumileyo: "Oko sele kungamanzi", "kukusebenzisa njengesixhobo sokuthomalalisa", "ukuba sele ilisekela» … Ewe, kuninzi ekufuneka kwenziwe. Ke namhlanje, ngaphandle kolwazi olukhoyo malunga nokuncancisa, ndigqibe kwelokuba ndibhale malunga nenkxaso, ukhuseleko kunye nokubekwa emgangathweni kokuncancisa.
Inkxaso yokuncancisa
Los Amaqela enkxaso ukuncancisa sesinye sezixhobo ezisisiseko zokufezekisa ukuncancisa ngempumelelo koomama abakufunayo. Zininzi: kumaziko ezempilo, amaqela okuba ngumzali, kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo ... Ukuba awubazi, ndincoma:
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Oomama abangabahlengikazi.
Ndikhetha ezintathu kuphela ngokulula ukuze ndingawi inqaku. Ngokwam, akukho qela lokuxhasa ukuncancisa kwiziko lam lezempilo, ke iintlanganiso zeqela lokuba ngumzali endikuzo zandinceda kakhulu kuba bandinika ithuba lokudibana nabanye oomama abancancisa abantwana abakubudala obahlukeneyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuncancisa kwam kwaqala ukuba yimpumelelo enkosi Isipho sobomi bonke, nguCarlos González, incwadi yokuqala yokuncancisa endiyifundileyo, isipho esivela kumhlobo wam uEva, leyo yayikwitafile yebhedi yam yasesibhedlele kunye namaphepha abonisiweyo… Kodwa kwiincwadi ezincancisayo ndiza kubhala enye iposi.
Ukukhuselwa kokuncancisa
Ukuncancisa kufuneka kukhuselwe. Iintsana noomama abanqwenela ukuncancisa kufuneka bakhuselwe. Njani? Kum, i-buttresses yomlo wokukhusela ukuncancisa zezi:
- Ukwandiswa kwekhefu lokuya kubeleka. Angamncancisa njani umama kuphela xa kufuneka ebuyele emsebenzini kwiiveki ezilishumi elinesithandathu?
- Nje ukuba umama angene emsebenzini, kufuneka kusekwe iishedyuli ezivumela umama ukuba adibanise ubomi bosapho kunye nobomi bokusebenza.
- Kwimeko apho ukuhlala phakathi kukamama notata, oomama okanye ootata kuyayeka: ukuncancisa kwimfuno kufuneka kuhlonitshwe, kuhanjiswe ixesha lomntwana phakathi kwabazali ngendlela ehlonipha isingqi sendalo sentsana, kuthathelwa ingqalelo esona ukondla okubalulekileyo kusebusuku, kwaye akukho meko inyanzela ukulunyulwa okungaqhelekanga.
Ukuqheleka kokuncancisa
Ekugqibeleni, ukwenziwa kwesiqhelo kokuncancisa ngumceli mngeni ukusuka kwiminyaka ethile yobudala bosana. Umfanekiso womama oncelisayo usana lwakhe ukuya kwiinyanga ezintandathu luvusa uthando kwabanye abantu, ukuya kuthi ga kwiinyanga ezilishumi elinambini, ukuthamba; Kodwa ukusuka kwinqanaba elithile ukuya phambili, ukuncancisa ngamanye amaxesha kujongwa ngendlela engaqhelekanga. Nangona kunjalo, siyazi ukuba ukuncancisa kuphela kuyacetyiswa luluntu lwezonyango kunye nolwenzululwazi kude kube ziinyanga ezintandathu ubudala, kwaye emva koko kuyacetyiswa kunye nokwaziswa kokutya okuqinileyo kude kube yiminyaka emibini ubuncinci. Yilumkele loo "okungenani", engathethi ukuba kusuku lwesibini lokuzalwa kwale / a ilunyulwe: ukulunyulwa kwendalo kuhlala kwenzeka emva kweminyaka emibini okanye emithathu, enyanisweni, iminyaka yobudala yendalo isusela kwiminyaka emibini ukuya kwesixhenxe. Imiba yezentlalo okanye yenkcubeko akufuneki ifuthe ekuyekisweni kokuncancisa nokuba kunjani. Kwaye ukuncancisa akufuneki kujongwe nangaliphi na ixesha kuba ixesha lalo kufuneka lixhomekeke kwisigqibo sasimahla somntwana kunye nomama.
Ngendlela yokuqukumbela, usemninzi umsebenzi ekufuneka wenziwe malunga nenkxaso, ukhuseleko kunye nokuqhelaniswa nokuncancisa, nangona ngethamsanqa ukuncancisa okwangoku kufumana ukwamkelwa okukufaneleyo, kwaye uninzi loluntu olukukhuthazayo luze nalo. kwaye unike uncedo ekuncanciseni oomama. Ndiyakholelwa ekubeni eyona njongo yokuqala ekufuneka sizamile ukuyifezekisa yile ukuba akusekho lusana lusilelayo ngenxa yokunqongophala kolwazi, ke masisasaze lonke ulwazi ngayo kwaye, ewe, nothando.