Kukho ootata noomama abacinga ngaphambi kokuba babe ngomnye ukuba yonke into ayiyonto, kwaye xa befumanisa ubunyani bayaqonda ukuba inzima kakhulu kunokuba bebecinga ekuqaleni. Ukukhulisa abantwana akukho lula kwaye xa bephakathi kweminyaka emi-3 ukuya kweyesi-6 kunokuba nzima nangakumbi. Bafuna ukunyanzelisa intando yabo ngazo zonke iindleko kwaye akusoloko kulula ukuqondisa kwakhona iimeko.
Nokuba unika isilumkiso esininzi kwaye uhlala unikezela ngokhetho, abantwana abancinci abayi kuhlala bekulungele ukwenza kanye oko ukucelayo. Oku kunokuvavanya ngokwenene umonde womzali, ngokukodwa ukuba umntwana wakho usoloko ebonakala ekulungele ukwenza nantoni na ukuze aphumeze izilangazelelo zakhe.
Kodwa zama ukuba ungaphulukani nokuphola kwakho ngalo mzuzu. Ukugxeka kusenokwenza ukuba abantwana abancinci babe nentsebenziswano encinci. Kunokuba uphakamise ilizwi lakho xa umntwana wakho engavumi ngokupheleleyo ukusebenzisana naye, zama ukugcina ilizwi lakho lingenabuhlobo. kwaye rhoqo xa usebenzisana naye. Usenokude uwaqonde amandla abo okugqiba ngendlela yokuziphatha. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyala ukuthabatha izinto zokudlala, mnike ithuba lokukhetha, ukwenze kucace ukuba uyakuqonda ukuma kwakhe; 'Yinyani, andinakukwenza ukuba uthabathe amathoyizi, nangona uyazi ukuba ukuba awukwenzi oko akuyi kuba nedessert emva kwesidlo sakusihlwa.'
Ekugqibeleni, ngezo ntsuku eziphazamisayo xa umntwana wakho enzima kakhulu nawe, qiniseka ukuba ucwangcise umvuzo omncinci kuwe (njengokuhlamba, ukubukela umboniso owuthandayo, njl.). Inyaniso kukuba, ukuqina xa ujongene nobunzima bomntwana oselula ngumsebenzi onzima, kwaye ufanele umvuzo wokwenyani ngemigudu yakho. Kuba ewe, ukuba ngutata okanye umama kuyinkimbinkimbi, kwaye amaxesha ngamaxesha uzinika umvuzo njengokufumana ixesha lokufunda uthule ngelixa umlingane wakho ehlamba abantwana ... akuchithwa.