Khawufane ucinge ukuba uza kushiya abantwana bakho esikolweni kusasa, kwaye ucinge ukuba awubasi kwelinye lala maziko “avulekeleyo” kuluntu, apho abazali banokungena ngokukhululekileyo kwaye bathathe inxaxheba… Ukucinga, ukucinga, oko indinika kwakhona ngokukucela ukuba ube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wesi siganeko silandelayo: kamsinya nje yakuba intombazana encinane isiyekile isandla sakho, utitshala wayo ugoba ukuze abe kumphakamo wayo, wamamkela ngothando aze akubulise ngesandla sakhe, aze athethe ngokuthambileyo nencinane. intombazana njengoko besiya eklasini. Kwaye nangona okokugqibela kusenokungabi rhoqo, Ewe, liyinyaniso elokuba ngaphambi kokuba oyena mdala afikelele kwiqela loontanga bakhe, bamamkela ngokuwola nangokumthemba.. Uhlala uzolile, ndiqinisekile.
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku yonke into iqhelekile (uyavumelana nam?). Into enzima ukuyicinga lixesha apho abo banoxanduva kwiSikolo saseSaint Patrick eGeelong (ilizwe laseVictoria / Australia), Bathathe isigqibo sokuthintela ukwangana kwabafundi kwiziko labo lemfundo. Ndicinga ukuba naliphi na ixesha asiloxesha lilungileyo lokuwolwa, nokuba asingabo bonke abaziva bekhululekile xa ubani efuna ukusiwola; Nangona kunjalo, xa kukho intlonipho kunye nokwamkelwa komnye umntu, ukuwola kunempembelelo enkulu yonyango kuthi (kubandakanywa nabantwana).
Njengoko ucinga, iindaba zibangele impikiswano, kuba kubonakala kungenangqondo kwaye akukho ngokwemvelo "ukufundisa" abafundi ukuba bafunde ezinye iindlela zokubonisa uthando njengokuxhawula isandla okanye ukubethelwa kweqhosha (o nyhani?). Kwaye nangona kunjalo, umlawuli walo ugxininisa ukuba umgaqo uchazwa kakubi, ekubeni ngokwenene akukho sithintelo jikelele, kodwa abafundi bakhe bacetyiswa ukuba bazame ezinye iindlela. Isizathu abasifumeneyo “kukuhlonipha indawo yobuqu.”
Yanga ngakumbi, nceda!
I-Hugs ibonelela ngokuzinza ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane bomntu: zibhekwa njengemiphumo yokuphilisa ngokukhupha i-endorphins kunye ne-oxytocin. Banokuphumla, baphephe imiqobo kwaye banyuse ukuzithemba kwabo bayifumanayo.. Ukuwola kulula kakhulu, mihla le, kulula kakhulu ukwenza kangangokuba asicingi nokucinga ngemiphumo yako emihle.
Kuyinyani ukuba kufuneka sibavumele abancinci yenza izigqibo malunga nexesha lokufumana ukwanga okanye ukwangiwa, kwaye le yenye yeentsika ekuthinteleni Ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo: fumana amantombazana namakhwenkwe ukuba abe ngabanini bezigqibo ngemizimba yawo, kwaye ala ukuba abafuni ukuba umntu asondele ngakumbi kunokuba kuyimfuneko, okanye ukubaphatha. Ndiyaqonda ukuba xa isikolo esikhankanyiweyo sizama ukuphepha ukwanga, bakwenza oko becinga ngalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa; kodwa ngomlinganiselo baya kubhideka kuphela abantwana abaya kuthi beme embindini kwimiboniso yabo yothando.
Ayinqandeki, iyanqanda, kodwa umphumo uyafana.
Umphathi waphawula wathi ebengabhekiseli nje kukwangana kwabafundi, kodwa nakubantu abadala (ootishala) Andisiboni isizathu sokuba umfundisi-ntsapho engakwazi ukwanga umfundi olusizi. Ukuba ibinokwenzeka, besiya kumangaliswa kuba siyaqhelana nayo. ukwala uthando kubantwana, okanye ngenxa yokuba sikugqala njengento engafanelekanga, kodwa ngaba bekuya kuba sengqiqweni ukucinga ukuba umfundi ufanele achithe ubuncinane iiyure ezintlanu ngosuku engakhange afumane ukwangiwa nokuba ebeyifuna? Ngaba isibakala sokuba ungumlindi siyangqubana nokubonisa uthando? into engaqhelekanga!
Ngokuqinisekileyo ucinga “enjani yona ingqumbo! 'Bendibaxelela abantwana bam ukuba banako ukuqhubeka bewolana!'; kodwa jonga, ndinomzekelo osondeleyo kakhulu apho ukusondela komfundisi-ntsapho kubafundi (funda: babemthanda kakhulu kangangokuba ngoxa wayekwindawo yokutyela ngaphambi kokuba iingcango zesikolo zivulwe, bamenzela isangqa ukuze bamxelele ukuba bayamthanda. inkxalabo kwaye imamele amazwi akhe) ibingumbandela wokurhanelwa koomama nootata abaliqela, abakhalaza kumphathi. Kwaye oku akuzange kwenzeke e-Australia okanye kwiminyaka engama-60 eyadlulayo, kodwa kwilizwe lethu, kwaye kunyaka odlulileyo.
Qaphela kakhulu ukuba ungadibanisi umsa kunye nokuxhatshazwa, kuba i-hug ilungile nakubani na (imvumelwano, ngokuqinisekileyo), kodwa ngokukodwa kumakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana, abafuna ukujikelezwa luthando. Kwaye ngelixa ndiselapho, ndingenza ingcebiso yokugqibela? Hug xa omnye ekushiya, wange abantwana bakho, iqabane lakho, abazali bakho, abahlobo bakho,...; kodwa ngaphezu kwako konke, yanga xa bekucela ukwanga: yanga loo ntombazana ididekileyo ikwishumi elivisayo, intwana encinane ekukhalimele ngayo egqajukelwa ngumsindo kwimizuzu embalwa edluleyo ize iguquke ikubongoze ngenxa yothando, lowo ukhe wathandana nawe. usuku olubi,...
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