Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana abaselula kakhulu baye kugqirha wabantwana rhoqo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo, nokuba kukugula okanye kukugonywa. Oku kunokubangela uloyiko ebantwaneni ngokwabo kwaye lube yingxaki enkulu kubazali ngokwabo.
Akulunganga ukuba babone ugqirha wabantwana njengesoyikiso sokwenyani, ngakumbi kuba kuya kufuneka ahambe amaxesha amaninzi kubuntwana. Kukho iimeko ezinobuzaza ezibangela uxinzelelo olukhulu emntwaneni ngalo lonke ixesha kufuneka aye kwiofisi yabantwana.
Uloyiko kugqirha wabantwana
Xa umntwana esoyika ukuya kugqirha wabantwana kulula kakhulu ukuba achongwe njengoko omncinci eqala ukukhala nokukhala ngokungalawulekiyo. Njengokuba iminyaka ihamba kwaye naxa badala, banexhala kunye neerves ezininzi becinga nje ukuba kufuneka baye kugqirha wabantwana. Yimvakalelo engathandekiyo kwaphela kubazali ababonayo ukuba umntwana wabo unexesha elibi kangakanani, ukuba kufuneka baye kugqirha wabantwana.
Izinto ezibangela uloyiko olunje
Zininzi izinto ezinokubangela ukuba umntwana oyike xa esiya kugqirha wabantwana:
- Yinto engaziwayo kwaye engaqinisekanga edla ngokuba luloyiko olukhulu emntwaneni. Akazi ukuba kuzakwenzeka ntoni, ke yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ukuya kule ndibano kudala ixhala kunye noloyiko.
- Omnye unobangela wokutsho ukoyika Inxulumene nokunxulumana komncinci nento embi. Ungalikhumbula ixesha owawunikwe lona isitofu sokugonya okanye wajonga kuba libuhlungu kakhulu. Oku kuya kubangela ukuba utyelelo kugqirha wabantwana ukuba lungathandeki emntwaneni kwaye uzive usoyika kakhulu ngalo lonke ixesha usiya kuyo.
- Esinye isizathu sinokubangelwa yimilo yabazali ngokwabo. Umntwana ubhekisa kubo, ke kubalulekile ukuba ungathethi ngonyango lwabantwana okanye ungabonisi inkxalabo ngaphambi kokuya kudliwanondlebe. Ukuba abazali babona ukuya kugqirha wabantwana njengento engalunganga, kunokwenzeka ukuba bayidlulisele le mvakalelo ebantwaneni babo. Ukuba abantu abadala bayasokola, nabantwana banobunzima. Umncinci akanakucinga ukuba ugqirha wabantwana ngumntu ongathandekiyo nosoyikisayo, ke abazali mabaqinisekise ukuba abantwana bayayitshintsha indlela abayijonga ngayo loo nto ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuba abantwana boyika ugqirha wabantwana
Ukuba umntwana woyika ukuya kugqirha wabantwana, isimo sakhe sengqondo sibalulekile ekwenzeni ukuba umntwana alushiye olu loyiko. Abazali kufuneka bazame ukukhetha umntu oqeqeshiweyo osondeleyo kwaye unovelwano kunye nomncinci.
Umsebenzi wabazali ubalulekile ukuze umntwana akwazi ukoyisa uloyiko lwabo. Kulungile ukuba abazali bangabonisi isimo sengqondo esibi xa bethatha umntwana wabo ukuya kugqirha wabantwana. Ukuba umntwana ubona abazali bakhe bezolile kwaye bezolile, kunokwenzeka ukuba uhambe noloyiko oluncinci kuthethwano.
Ukuba umntwana mdala kwaye uyakwazi ukuqonda izinto, unokuhlala naye kwaye nithethe ngezinto ngokuzola nangokuzola. Ingxoxo nomntwana kwaye uzive ukuba abazali bakhe basecaleni lakhe Ilungile xa isiza kuphelisa olu loyiko. Kuya kufuneka umenze abone ukuba ayisosiphelo sehlabathi ukuya kugqirha wabantwana kwaye akukho sizathu sokuba akhathazeke. Oku kuya kukunceda ukuba wehlise umoya ngakumbi kwaye uhambe ngokuzolileyo kuthethathethwano ngokwalo.
Ngamafutshane, Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana babe madolw 'anzima xa betyelele ugqirha wabantwana. Uloyiko akufuneki luye ngaphezulu njengoko oku kunokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu kunye noxinzelelo. Umsebenzi wabazali ungundoqo xa kuziwa ekoyiseni le ngxaki.