Izilo eziphantsi kwebhedi, umbane neendudumo, ubumnyama. Onke amakhwenkwe anoloyiko, nokuba zizinto zokwenyani okanye ezicingelwayo. Kwaye njengoko bekhula, kunjalo nokukhathazeka kwabo. Ngaba amakhwenkwe kwiqela lebhola ekhatywayo aya kundithanda? Ndiza kwenza kakuhle kuvavanyo ngomso? Uninzi lwabazali bayakwazi ukuthuthuzela abantwana babo kwaye banciphise uloyiko, kodwa kwezinye iimeko uxinzelelo luyeka ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye lube sisifo.
Umntwana akafuni kutya kuba esoyika ukukrwitshwa; omnye woyika izilwanyana; Intombazana iyala ukuya esikolweni kuba yoyika ukungabikho kunina imini yonke. Ngethamsanqa, abazali baneendlela ezahlukeneyo zokunceda abantwana babo balawule uxinzelelo.
Ixhala liyinxalenye yenkqubo yokukhula nokukhula, utshilo uMarie Cumming, ingcali yezomtshato neyosapho yaseWaterloo, Canada. Kuqhelekile kwaye kusempilweni ukuba abantwana bakhathazeke kancinci, kuba ngale nto bafumana izixhobo eziyimfuneko ukumelana nemiceli mngeni yobomi. Ukuba novalo ngaphambi kokuba udlale umdlalo wesikolo okanye ngaphambi kokwenza uvavanyo olubalulekileyo kukhuthaza abantwana ukuba basebenze nzima kwaye benze konke okusemandleni abo. "
Ukukhathazeka okuncinci kunceda ukwakha isimilo ebantwaneni kwaye kubeka imiceli mngeni abanokufunda kuyo. Kukho neenkxalabo zokuba, endaweni yokuba ubanike umngeni, ubakhathaze. Umntwana onenkxalabo enjalo akanakukujongana noko koyikayo; umzekelo, iqhina esiswini sakho likuthintela ukuphuma emotweni ngaphambi nje komdlalo webhola ekhatywayo. Abantwana abanolu hlobo loxinzelelo badinga uncedo ngakumbi kunabanye (kwaye mhlawumbi nogqirha wengqondo). Okungaqhelekanga kukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo olukhulu, okuthintela abantwana ekusebenzeni ngesiqhelo, njengomntwana owoyika ukungcola ohlamba izandla amatyeli amaninzi elandelelana. Aba bantwana badinga unyango lwengqondo olunzulu kwaye bahlala bethatha amayeza.
Esengumntwana, uAmanda Sprague * wanamathela kubazali bakhe kubantu angabaziyo, walala ucango luvulekile kwaye iholo likhanyisiwe, kwaye wayesoyika izinambuzane. Abazali bakhe babecinga ukuba, kwiminyaka yakhe yobudala, akukho nanye kwezi engaqhelekanga. ULaura, * umama wakhe uthi: "Kodwa xa wayeqala ukuya esikolweni, intlungu yakhe yaya isanda. Xa uqhwithela luthe lwawa, usana lwaluzisonga phezu kwebhedi, lukhubazekile luloyiko, kwaye nje ukuba lubone amaphela amabini eluphahleni lwegumbi lakhe, laphuma likhwaza lala ukulala apho kwakhona.
Ukutya nako kwamenza waxhalaba, kuba ingcinga yokuminxeka yayimoyikisa. Xa wayeneminyaka esibhozo ubudala, ngenye imini wayeka ukutya. "Watsho akakwazi ukuginya kwaye wayenento emthi nca emqaleni," utshilo uLaura. "Ugqirha wethu wakugweba ukusuleleka, kwaye i-X-ray yabonisa ukuba wayengenasifo somzimba."
UAmanda wayenxunguphele kangangokuba umqala wakhe wawuvala, emthintela ekugingeni.
Kwiintsuku kamva, uAmanda waqalisa ukoyika ukufa. Ngexesha lokulala, wayeya kukhala ngokungathi intliziyo yakhe ibetha kakhulu. Emva koko wangeniswa esibhedlele, apho kwafunyaniswa ukuba unengxaki yokuxhalaba ngokubanzi. Wayekhathazeke kakhulu kangangokuba umqala wakhe wawuvalile, umthintela ekugingeni.
Ityala lika-Amanda ligabadele, kodwa lingumzekelo wengxaki enkulu abajamelana nayo abantwana nolutsha namhlanje. Nangona kungekho manani asemthethweni, kuqikelelwa ukuba phakathi kwe-8 ne-10 pesenti yamakhwenkwe aphakathi kweminyaka emi-5 neli-17 abanengxaki yokuxhalaba njengo-Amanda. Abanye baneengxaki zokuxhalaba.
Abantwana bahlala behlupheka bethule kuba bengakuqondi okungalunganga okanye bengakwazi ukuchaza iimvakalelo zabo. Ngokwabo, abazali banokungahoyi inkxalabo yabantwana babo, bayinciphise, okanye bazitolike gwenxa iimpawu, njengoko abantwana beveza ixhala ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo; umzekelo, ukubonisa iintloni ezigqithileyo, ukuba nochuku kunye nokuvukela.
“Ukufumanisa ingxaki kubalulekile. Unxunguphalo olungagungqiyo lunokukhokelela kukuzithemba okuphantsi, ukungazithembi, uxinzelelo, ubunzima ekumiseni ubudlelwane obusempilweni, kwanokuzibulala, utshilo uBarbara Ward, unontlalontle nomlawuli-mbutho we-kidsLink, iziko lezempilo yabantwana eSaint Agatha.
Uxinzelelo olungaqhelekanga ngexesha lobuntwana lwonyusa ukubakho kokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kubomi babantu abadala.
Iyaqhubeka ngokoyika abantwana (Icandelo II)
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Kulungile ndiyakuxelela ukuba intombi yam encinci eneminyaka emi-3 ubudala ibingafuni kutya kangangeentsuku ezimbini kuba iyoyika ukukrwitshwa, ngalo lonke ixesha sisa ukutya emlonyeni wayo ikhala ngamandla kwaye nangakumbi ukuba iqinile ngathi incinci irayisi okanye i-noodle. Ngokwenyani iyandikhathaza le nto kuba ebesoloko esitya kakhulu kwaye kwiintsuku ezimbini ezidlulileyo ebengatyi, ndinoloyiko lokuba angagula okanye kwenzeke izinto ezimbi; Nceda ndingathanda ukuba undikhokele malunga noku kwaye uphendule kwi-imeyile yam. Enkosi.
Unyana wam uneminyaka eyi-8 kwaye iiveki ezintathu wenqabile ukulala egumbini lakhe, nokuba simxelela ntoni okanye simcacisela ntoni, uthi nje ufuna ukuba kwigumbi elinye nomyeni wam, Uvakalisile ukuba ufuna ndibeke ibhedi yakhe egumbini lethu, zonke iingxoxo zam ziphelile.
Molo Yacky!
Ukuba ulele egumbini lakho ngaphandle kwengxaki ngaphambili, kungenzeka into eyenzekileyo kuwe awusafuni ukulala wedwa. Zama ukufumanisa ukuba ukhe waphupha kakubi, umntwana umoyikisile ngento okanye nokuba ukhe wavuka ebusuku uye wakubona ulala ngesondo ungakhange uqaphele. Isandi esenziwayo xa usabelana ngesondo ngamanye amaxesha siyababhidisa abantwana kwaye bacinga ukuba uTata uyamkhathaza uMama, ke bazama ukumkhusela ngokuqinisekisa ukuba ayiphindi yenzeke kwaye bavuka ebusuku, ngengxolo encinci bazokubona kwenzeka okanye bazama ukulala kwigumbi elinye.
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Molo NDIDELELE TEMGO INKWENKWANA ENEMINYAKA EMI-6 KWIMINYAKA EMITHATHU EMVA KWESIQHAMO AHLASELE KUYO NGOKUTYA, NDIFUMANE KAKHULU UKUBA AKADLI NANTO. UFUNA KUTSHINTSHWA UBISI OLUFANELEKILEYO KUNYE NEZINYE IZICELO ZE-LIQUID ZOKUSETYENZISWA, NDICELA NDINGAZI UKUBA NDINGASENZA NTONI UKUZE NAKUBA SEBOMILE, KUSETYENZISWA UKUTYA OKUNCINANE. NDazama UKUTYA KOKUQALA NDIMBONISE UKUBA AKUKHO NTO EYENZEKAYO, KE NDIMBONISE UKUBA UKUBA UTYA INTSHUMAYELO NEZIGANEKO WIYIQHELEKILEYO NGOKWENENE NOKUBA NDIYINTOMBI, KWAKWENZEKA OKWANYE ME NDILUYISE NGONCEDO LWENGQONDO, KODWA ANDIFUNI ATHE OLUFANAYO NCEDA NDIFUNE UNCEDO OLUQINISEKILEYO NDENZAKALISEKILE KAKHULU KULENKQUBO NDINGAZI UKUBA NDIYISETYENZISWE NJANI, NGOBA ANDINAKUYICELANA NENGXAKI NGOBA NDIYAYAZI INDLELA EVAKALELWA NGAYO, KODWA ANDINAKUMVUMELA ENDIMNYE KUPHELA AYEDLULA UBISI, ENKOSI NDIFUNA IMPENDULO ENGAPHAMBILI.
Molo Analia,
Mhlawumbi eyona ndlela yokumenza woyise uloyiko kukuqala ngokutya kwakhe, oko kukuthi, ubuyele kwi-purees kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe wandise ukwenziwa de ufike kwiziqwenga kwakhona. Kodwa okokuqala kukho konke ukuba nomonde omninzi kwaye uyeke uhambe kancinci kancinci, uyakubona ukuba woyisa njani; )
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Molweni, ndinexhala kakhulu.Ndinonyana oneminyaka eli-9 ubudala owaminxa ukutya ngoJanyuwari, ukusukela ngalaa mzuzu woyika, akafuni kutya inyama enethambo, ekuhambeni kwemini ucinga ukuba nantoni na enokwenzeka kuye ibeke emlonyeni wakhe ukuba ikrwitshe, uhlala eyazi ukuba kukho into esemqaleni wakhe. ndingayinceda njani
Eyona ndlela yokumnceda kukumqhelanisa nokutya kwakhona, ngomonde kwaye umbonise ukuba ukuba utya ngokuzolileyo kwaye uhlafuna kakuhle, akukho nto kufuneka yenzeke kuye. Ukutya ungakubonisa ngamaqhekeza amancinci okomzuzwana kwaye ukonyuse ngokuthe ngcembe, kuqala unganyanzelisi kwaye, ukuba ubona kufanelekile, unokufumana uncedo kugqirha wezengqondo. Unethamsanqa! 😉
Molo, ndingathanda ukuba undincede, unyana wam ukusukela kwiminyaka eyi-3 utya ngokufanayo (utya inyama yenyama, iisoseji eziluhlaza, iikeyiki zeetapile, inkukhu enemifuno, kunye neesuphu zerayisi) kwaye akafuni ukuzama izinto ezintsha, ngamanye amaxesha sele edikiwe kukutya ngokufanayo Kodwa akafuni ukuzama ngoku uneminyaka eyi-6 kwaye ndiyoyika ukuba wagula okoko wangena kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi kwaye andazi ukuba ndimnike ntoni ukuzonwabisa. ndifuna ukumnika into entsha uthi akafuni kwaye uqala ukugabha nokukhala ukukhala de ndingayivumeli
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