Abantwana abaze beze nencwadana yemiyalelo kwaye ikwenza ukuba uqwalasele inyathelo ngalinye olithathayo ngokubhekisele kubantwana bakho izihlandlo eziliwaka. Yonke into oyithethayo kuye, uyayicinga kwaye uyixabise, kwimeko yokuba ungqwabalala, okanye uvumele kakhulu.
Ukuba kuko konke oku kongezwe umhlaba oya usiba nobutshaba kwaye unobungozi, ucinga yonke into njengokuphindwe kalikhulu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuvavanya ukuba imeko-bume injani kanye kanye apho uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntwana wakho uya kukhuseleka, kuba asazi ukuba zeziphi iingozi esinokujongana nazo yonke imihla.
Iingozi ezivela ngaphandle
Sonke siyoyika inani leengozi abantwana bethu ekuya kufuneka bajongane nazo ebomini babo.
Kunzima kakhulu ukuvumela abantwana bethu bahambe bodwa ngaphandle kokubaleka ukuya kubo xa kunokwenzeka bawe, nakumqondiso nje omncinci wohambo. Kwaye oku kuyasebenza kuwo onke amabakala kunye nemizwa yobomi.
Kodwa Asinakukuphepha konke ukubandezeleka kwabo nokuba sifuna njalo, kuba kanye njengokuba kuyingozi ukubabeka emngciphekweni, kunjalo ke ukwahlukanisa nabo.
Ngaba uya kuziva ngathi akahoywanga ukuba umnika inkululeko engaphaya?
Le yenye yeengozi zokubayeka bahambe bodwa, ngaphandle kweengozi ezibonakalayo zehlabathi eliya lisanda ngokwanda, ekucaca ukuba, awunakho nokusithemba isithunzi sakho.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba usoloko unxibelelana nomntwana wakho, ukhathalele indlela avakalelwa ngayo, ngaphaya kwencoko yemihla ngemihla. Kufuneka azi ukuba uya kuba lapho ukuba uneengxaki, kwaye uyakumkhusela kwaye umthuthuzele xa kuvela iingxaki.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yalo naluphi na uhlobo kwaye uyayithoba, unokuziva enexhala ngokubuyela kuwe. Kufuneka ubenobuchule kwaye ubuthathaka xa ujongene nemicimbi ekuchaphazelayo. Nangona zibonakala zizinto ezingenamsebenzi, kubo zililizwe labo liphela, akufuneki silibale ukuba nathi besikhathazekile kwakanye ukuba ubhaka wethu okanye izihlangu zethu bezingeyiyo eyefashoni.
Ukuba uqinisa ukuthembela kwakho kuwe, uyakuhlala esiya kunina xa eziva ukuba uyayidinga, nokuba uyazi ukuba wenze into embi. Ukuba unobuchule malunga nemicimbi emxhalabisayo, uya kuyazi loo nto imigaqo ayisiyonyanzelo, ukuba ayisisiqhamo sengqiqo kunye nezifundo zoxanduva, kuba isenzo ngasinye sineziphumo.
Umntwana wakho mancinci amathuba okuba angene engxakini okanye angazi ukuba angasombulula njani ukungavisisani kwabo ukuba ubanika inkululeko, ngaphandle kokulibala ukubagcina ubazi ukuba ukhona xa bayifuna.
Ingozi yokuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo
Zonke izinto ezibaxekileyo zonakalisa ngokulinganayo. Kuyinyani ukuba umntwana wakho angaziva elilolo okanye engakhathalelwanga ukuba umnika inkululeko eninzi, kodwa ayilunganga ngokulinganayo ekukhuleni kwakhe. ikhusele kakhulu. Uyamthintela ekubeni afunde ukusebenza yedwa kwaye ichaphazela imiba emininzi yobomi bakhe kunye nokufunda kwakhe kwezentlalo nakubalulekileyo.
Umntwana ongavumelekanga ukuba aziveze, ukumgcina engozini, ngumntwana oza kukhula engaqinisekanga ngobuchule bakhe. Uya kuhlala uziva usengozini ukuba akukho mida "ekukhuseleni". Akazukunxibelelana ngendlela eyoneleyo noontanga bakhe abakwiminyaka efanayo, kuba uyakuhlala efuna indawo yokuhlala yabantu abadala ukuze amnike ukhuseleko alunalo.
Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo kuyingozi kuphuhliso lwentlalo kunye nokuzithemba kwabantwana bethu. Esinye sezikhokelo ezisinika amanani abalulekileyo kwezemfundo njengoFerrer i Guardia noMaría Montessori, kukubaAbantwana kufuneka bazifunele kwaye bazilingele ngokwabo. Yiyo kuphela kwendlela yokufumanisa umdla obashukumisayo kunye namandla ekufuneka siwakhuthaze kuwo.
Isitshixo sokulinganisela
Isitshixo sokwenene sokulinganisa uhlala umamele umntwana wakho. Kuphela kwendlela eya kuthi isazela sakho sibe msulwa. Ukuba uyamphulaphula, kuya kufana nokuzimamela ngokwakho, nantoni na ayithethayo, uya kuyazi indlela avakalelwa ngayo kwaye uya kuba nakho ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo. Landela ithuku lonyoko kwaye ungazigxeki ngeempazamo, kuba bonke oomama banazo.
Kunzima njengoko ukwazi ukuba umgca uphakathi kolumkiso kunye nokuzikhusela okungaphezulu, Ukuba ungumntwana okhulayo, owonwabileyo, osempilweni kwaye ozithembileyo, siyakwazi ukuba siqhuba kakuhle.