Baninzi abazali abafuna abantwana babo bathule bethe cwaka, behleli ezitulweni ngaphandle kokwenza ingxolo ... kubonakala ngathi ukuthula kufana nemfundo elungileyo kwaye ukuba umntwana wenza ingxolo abazali bayasilela kubuzali babo. Impazamo enkulu. Umntwana ohleli ngxi kwaye uhleli esitulweni ngenxa yokoyika nokoyika ukohlwaywa ngabazali bakhe, akazukukhula kakuhle kwaye yintoni embi ... Uya kukhula kwindawo enobutshaba negunya.
Ukuhamba komntwana nokwenza ingxolo yeyona nto iqhelekileyo emhlabeni ... xa engakwenzi oko, kulapho kuya kufuneka uqale ukhathazeke kwaye umse kwagqirha ukuba kukho imfuneko. Into yokuba umntwana angadlali, angahambi okanye angangxoli ayisiyiyo kwaphela, yinto eqhelekileyo. Umntwana xa onwabile akazukulawulwa.
Hace no mucho en Madres Hoy os Sithetha ngephobia yomntwana, okanye yintoni enye efanayo ... Kodwa Kungenxa yokuba abayiqondi kakuhle into yokuba buyintoni ubuntwana kunye nokuba bafuna ntoni ukuze bakhule kakuhle.
Abantwana kufuneka bazive benxibelelene
Eyona ndlela yokuqinisekisa impilo-ntle kubomi babantwana kukubanceda bazive benxibelelene namanye amalungu osapho, abahlobo, abamelwane, ootitshala, izilwanyana zasekhaya, izihlobo ... Olu nxibelelwano lubanika ukhuseleko kunye nokhuselo, into ebalulekileyo ukukhuthaza ukucinga okuhle kunye nolonwabo.
Olu nxibelelwano lunento yokwenza nokuthandwa, ukuqondwa, ukufunwa nokwamkelwa- konke oku kokona kukhusela kukhulu kuxinzelelo lweemvakalelo, iingcinga zokuzibulala, kunye nokuziphatha okuyingozi kakhulu kwixesha elizayo. Y ukuze kwenzeke konke oku kufuneka ukuba abantwana bahlonitshwe ... Abaphili ngokungenaloyiko okanye ngokukhuliswa ngegunya apho isohlwayo nemithetho engqongqo iyinto eqhelekileyo.
Abantwana kufuneka babe ngabantwana kwaye ngenxa yoko kufuneka bahlonitshwe ngumntu omdala. Umntu omdala kufuneka aqonde ukuba zeziphi izigaba zophuhliso lwabantwana babo kwinqanaba ngalinye ukuze abahloniphe kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, aqonde ukuba bafuna ntoni ngalo lonke ixesha lokuvela.
Uthando olungenamiqathango
Ukubonisa le ntlonipho ebantwaneni, ukuze baqonde ukuba siyayazi into abayifunayo kwaye kufanele ukuba yintoni ... kuyakufuneka sibonise uthando lwethu olungenamiqathango kubo kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, sibe bhetyebhetye kwiimeko zemihla ngemihla. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba imigaqo kunye nemida kufuneka ibekhona, Kuyinyani ukuba kufuneka babekhona kuqeqesho olululo kunye nakwisakhelo apho imfundo yeemvakalelo ube ngumlinganiswa ophambili ngamaxesha onke.
Xa umntwana ekhala okanye esoyika kakhulu, kuyimfuneko ukuba uphendule ngovelwano, bafuna ukuba ubafundele amabali ebusuku, batye kunye yonke imihla, bagone esofeni ngelixa ubukele inkqubo kamabonwakude oyithandayo, dlalani kunye, niyapeyinta, nihleka kunye yonke imihla, ufuna ukuba umwole umxelele indlela omthanda ngayo kabini kathathu ngemini… uyayiqonda loo nto? Zizinto ezilula ezo ezinokuthi zenziwe ngaphandle komzamo, akunjalo?
Ukuze umntwana wakho onwabe, ukongeza ekwenzeni ingxolo, kuya kufuneka uphinde ubonelele ngamathuba okwenza ubudlelwane obunothando kunye nabo. Ubudlelwane bezentlalo zezona zinto zibalulekileyo ezinegalelo kulonwabo lwabantu. Kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu bayo nayiphi na iminyaka ukuba basebenze kwaye babe semgangathweni, ukuhlonipha omnye kuya kuhlala kufuneka ... naphakathi kwabantu abadala ngokubhekisele ebantwaneni, hayi kuphela enye indlela ejikelezileyo.
Abantwana abazihluphi
Abantwana bangazikhathazi, kukuqonda kwabantu abadala okugqwethekileyo. Kuyinyani ukuba abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukwazi ukuba kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke, kodwa kuyinyani ukuba ilizwe labantu abadala alinyamezeli ngamanye amaxesha. Ukuba bhetyebhetye sisiqinisekiso sokwenza izinto zisebenze kakuhle, kuba eli lizwe labantu abadala kufuneka liphumle kwaye lishiye uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo kumanqanaba aphezulu kakhulu, ukuze uqonde ukuba ebomini siyadlula kwaye nabantwana ... ikamva lethu.
Abantwana kufuneka bakhule besempilweni kwaye bonwabile, bomelele kwaye bekwazi ukucinga, ukudala nokuzonwabisa ... kufuneka sibavumele ukuba bayenze xa kufanelekile: njengabantwana. Kuba xa bekhulile, baya kuba ngabantu abadala abaphumelelayo.
Ingqondo yomntwana iyakhula kwaye naleyo yomntu omdala, kufuneka itshintshe
Yinto elula nje leyo. Ingqondo yomntwana kufuneka ikhule kwaye nengqondo yomntu omdala kufuneka iqonde ukuba kukho ezinye iimbono ezifuna ukuphononongwa ukuze kuqondwe ubuntwana.. Umntu omdala kufuneka abe novelwano kwaye ahloniphe ngakumbi abazali nabantwana kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke. Iyahlekisa indlela abantu abadala abangabazali abanovelwano ngayo ngokukhawuleza- ngesiqhelo- kodwa abo bangenabo abantwana bathanda ukugxeka abazali babo ... kwaye bacinge izinto ezinje: Ngokucacileyo ixesha liyakubanceda aba bantu baqonde ukuba ngabazali ngenye imini oko kuyakwenzeka nakubo kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba abangobazali abalungileyo.
Sele ilungile into yokuba kukho abantu abadala abathintela ukungena kwabantwana kwezinye izehlo- kunye nabazali. Lude kangakanani olu luntu? Nangona njengomntwana kufuneka uhlonitshwe, ilungelo lokuzola kwaba bantu ... Kuya kufuneka sibonise kwaye siqonde kwangaxeshanye ukuba abantu abadala bayimizekelo yabantwana, bayokuziva njani xa bengavunyelwanga ukungena kwiindawo okanye ukuya kwimisitho nabazali babo ngenxa yokuba bengabantwana?
Abantwana bafuna ukuchukumisa yonke into, ukuzama, ukudlala, ukuhleka kunye nokukhala ... kwaye yinto ekufuneka siyihloniphile. Ukuba siyabanyanzela ukuba bathule, bathethele phantsi, bangasuki endaweni yabo, babeke iTV ukuze bathule ... uya kuba nomntwana onoloyiko, ukungazithembi, ukungqinelani ... Iimvakalelo akufuneki zibe ihlolwe okanye umnqweno wokuhlola umhlaba. Ubuntwana bunengxolo kwaye kuyafana nabantwana abonwabileyo nabazali abalungileyo… ke ngoko masikhumbule ukuba ubhetyebhetye kunye nentlonipho zibalulekile kuwo omabini amacala.