Usenokungayiqondi loo nto. Imini yonke unokuthi malunga namaxesha angama-50 ebantwaneni bakho "SUKWENZA loo nto", "SUYIthetha loo nto", "ayenziwa loo nto", "asilothuba lakho elo"... Kuyadinisa ude uyifunde, akunjalo? Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayisayi kuba nasiphumo kubantwana bakho, abeva kuphela HAYI HAYI HAYI kodwa bengazi ukuba kutheni okanye nayiphi na enye indlela enemveliso ngakumbi. Ukukunceda ukuba usebenze ngakumbi ngemida, sikushiya ezinye Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuthi hayi kumntwana ngendlela eyakhayo.
Amandla hayi
Iphuma ngokuzenzekelayo. Hayi hayi hayi. Sikholelwa ukuba kuluncedo kwaye kuyasebenza, ukuba sibeke imida, ukuba sixelele abantwana bethu oko bangenakukwazi ukukwenza. Kwaye bayifunda ngokukhawuleza, ngaphambi kokuba uyazi baya kuthi hayi rhoqo. Anditsho ukuba aziyomfuneko, kude nayo. Kufuneka sithi hayi ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ewe. Ngokomzekelo, into ebeka ingozi kubomi bomntwana wakho, njengokuwela isitrato uwedwa, ukuyeka isandla, okanye ukukroba ngefestile. Kwezinye izinto zemihla ngemihla kufuneka siyiphawule kakuhle imida yabo ukuze bazive bekhuselekile, ngaphandle kokumosha inombolo. Ekubeni ukuthi hayi amaxesha amaninzi akuncedi nje kuphela kodwa akusiniki iziphumo esizilindeleyo. Kufuneka sifumane ibhalansi phakathi kweenombolo kunye neeses.
Ukuba uva into rhoqo iyayeka ukuba nentsingiselo yayo yokwenyani. Okufanelekileyo kuya kuba kukufumana iziphumo ezilindelekileyo zika-hayi ngaphandle kokuthetha igama elithi hayi.. Ngale ndlela besiya kufundisa ngendlela eyakhayo, siya kufumana iziphumo ezingcono kwaye baya kuba noxanduva ngakumbi ngokuziphatha kunye neziphumo zabo.
Abantwana kunye nokukhathazeka
Abantwana banonyamezelo oluncinane kakhulu lokuphoxeka.. Bafuna into kwaye bayayifuna ngoku. Abaliqondi ixesha-ixesha lokulibazisa ulwaneliseko yaye abayazi nendlela yokuzilawula. Sele siyibonile kwinqaku "indlela yokufundisa abantwana ukulawula ukudandatheka" Ayingomsebenzi olula kodwa ngothotho lweengcebiso kunokukunceda ukuba ufunde ukulawula oko kuphazamiseka.
Ngoko banokuyenza Kufuneka bajongane nayo. Oko kukuthi, ukuba asizange sithi hayi, akayi kudana. Kwaye ngelishwa ubomi abusoloko busithi ewe. Kufuneka ufunde ukuba kukho izinto ezinokwenziwa kwaye ezinye ezingenakho.
Ungatsho njani ukuba hayi kumntwana ngendlela elungileyo
- Guqula ulwimi olulandulayo lube lulwimi oluhle. Ngaphandle kokuthabatha amabinzana, ayasusa. Ukuba siyayijika kwaye sibumba isivakalisi ngendlela eyakhayo Sinika enye intsingiselo, sithetha into enye. Umzekelo: endaweni yokuba sithi “asinakukwazi ukuya epakini namhlanje” size silindele ukucaphuka okungaphaya, sinokuyijonga ngenye indlela size sithi “Ucinga ntoni xa sidlala kunye ekhaya namhlanje?” Kumntwana enye indlela inikwa endaweni yokuthatha into. Ewe uya kufuna ukudlala epakini kodwa kukho imidlalo eyonwabisayo onokuyidlala ekhaya.
- Cacisa imiphumo yezenzo zabo. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yomntwana, unako chaza iziphumo izenzo zakho okanye eziya kuba nazo. Kunokuba uthi “ungambethi umntakwenu,” mxelele ukuba “ukuba uyambetha akafuni kudlala ngawe” okanye “kuya kumenzakalisa kakhulu kuba oko kubuhlungu.” Ngoko endaweni yokuphulaphula kuba bekuxelela njalo, uya kukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho ucingela imiphumo yazo.
- Imithetho ecacileyo. Imithetho yasekhaya kufuneka icace kwaye ibe mfutshane. Kufuneka sizicacise kwaye yeyantoni loo migaqo. Kwaye kufuneka kubekho iziphumo ukuba azilandelwa, kwaye kufuneka zinyanzeliswe.
- Yibeke elinye ixesha. Ngamanye amaxesha into abayifunayo ayinakwenziwa ngelo xesha. Singayibeka phantsi kwaye siyenze (Akufanelanga ukuhlehlisa ucinga ukuba baya kulibala, kuba abayi kulibala). Ngale ndlela baya kufunda ukulawula ukuphoxeka kwabo.
- Nika ezinye iindlela. Beka isibheno kwenye indawo, endaweni yaloo nto bayifunayo. Ngale ndlela uya kugxila kolunye ukhetho kwaye eyokuqala iya kulahlekelwa ingqalelo. Sebenzisa ukuthengisa.
Kuba khumbula… unokuthi hayi ngendlela eyakhayo.