I-ADHD ayilotshaba lwakho kwaye ayingomntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho ulungile yonke imihla, ke yeka ukujonga ukuba unetyala. Ukuba unomntwana one-ADHD, kukho imigaqo ekufuneka uyilandele ukwenza ukuba ngumzali kube lula kunokuba ucinga ngoku.
Uninzi lwabazali ngabazali abalungileyo. Kodwa ukuba unyana okanye intombi yakho inengxaki yokujongana nokusilela okanye ngaphandle kokungakhathali, ukuba ngumzali 'olungileyo' kunokuba kungonelanga. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho wonwabile kwaye uziphethe kakuhle ngoku nakwixesha elizayo (kunye nokwenza imeko-bume yekhaya elizolileyo), kuyakufuneka ube ngumzali olungileyo.
Ngethamsanqa, kulula kunokuba ungacinga ukusuka ekubeni 'ulungile' uye kubaba 'omkhulu' (okanye umama). Konke okudingayo lutshintsho oluncinci kwizicwangciso zakho zokuba ngumzali womntwana one-ADHD kunye nendlela onxibelelana ngayo nomntwana wakho. Musa ukohlwaya umntwana wakho nge-ADHD, okanye ngokuziphatha kwakhe ngokungxama ... Fumanisa eminye imigaqo yokuba ngumzali olungileyo kubantwana abane-ADHD.
Yamkela ukuba umntwana wakho (njengabo bonke abantwana abasehlabathini) naye akafezekanga
Akululanga ukwamkela ukuba kukho into 'engaqhelekanga' emntwaneni wakho. Kodwa umntwana oziva inzondo yabazali bakhe (kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kwabo malunga nethemba) akunakulindeleka ukuba akhule ukuzithemba kunye nomoya wamandla aya kuyidinga ukuze abe ngumntu owonwabileyo, ophethe kakuhle.
Ukuze umntwana azive amkelekile kwaye exhaswa, kufuneka avakalelwe kukuba abazali bakhe bayabathemba ubuchule bakhe. Nje ukuba abazali bafunde ukujonga izipho ze-ADHD- ezinje ngamandla akhethekileyo, ubuchule bokuyila, kunye nezakhono ezintle zokunxibelelana nabanye abantu - baya kuba nakho ukubona bonke ubuqaqawuli obukhoyo emntwaneni wabo. Uninzi lwabazali lubona ebantwaneni babo abane-ADHD amathuba amahle kwikamva elizayo kuwo onke amandla ongezelelweyo abanabo abanye abantwana abazolileyo abangenakubonwabela.
Mthande umntwana wakho ngaphandle kwemiqathango kwaye umphathe ngokungathi sele sele ungulomntu ungathanda ukuba abe nguye. Oku kuya kukunceda ube nguloo mntu.
Ungazikholelwa zonke 'iindaba ezimbi' ngomntwana wakho
Akuyonto imnandi ukuba neengcali zesikolo sokuva zichaza umntwana wakho 'njengokucotha,' 'ukungashukumi,' okanye 'ongxamisekileyo.' Kodwa ungavumeli izimvo ezingalunganga zikuthintele ekwenzeni yonke into esemandleni akho ukukhuthaza iimfuno zabo zemfundo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abantwana abane-ADHD banokuphumelela ukuba bafumana uncedo abaludingayo.
Nangona kuyinyani ukuba ingqondo yomntwana wakho isebenza ngokwahlukileyo, inyani kukuba unawo amandla okufunda kwaye aphumelele njengaye nawuphi na umntwana. Njengokuba umntu onesifo seswekile efuna i-insulin kunye nomntwana onesifuba efuna uncedo lokuphefumla, umntwana one-ADHD ufuna indawo yokufunda elawulwa ziimfuno zabo.
Qiniseka ukuba uyawazi umahluko phakathi kwengqeqesho kunye nesohlwayo
Kukangaphi ukhalaza kubahlobo okanye kusapho (okanye kunyangi) malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakho? Uye wakhwaza, wathetha, woyikisa, unika ikhefu, wazisa izinto zokudlala, wakurhoxisa ukuphuma, ukunyoba, wacenga… kwaye akukho nto ibonakala isebenza kule nto ayenzayo umntwana wakho! Kodwa kufuneka utshintshe umbono wakho, kuba utshintsho oluninzi kwiziphumo lunokudida nawuphi na umntwana. Enye yezona ndlela zisebenzayo kuqeqesho yingxelo elungileyo.
Uninzi lwabazali basebenzisa amagama 'uqeqesho' kunye 'nesohlwayo' ngokungathi bayafana, kodwa eneneni ngamagama ahlukileyo kakhulu. Uqeqesho lusoloko lukhethwa kuba lufundisa umntwana ukuba aziphathe kakuhle. Kubandakanya inkcazo yokuziphatha okungalunganga kunye nokuziqhelanisa nokuziphatha okwamkelekileyo (kunye nokuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha umntwana esenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo lokuziphatha). Isohlwayo, ngokuchaseneyo, sisebenzisa uloyiko nehlazo ukunyanzela umntwana ukuba aziphathe.
Isohlwayo sisetyenziswa amaxesha ngamaxesha kwiintsapho ezininzi. Nangona kunjalo, ayifanele ibandakanye ukuphathwa gadalala emzimbeni okanye ngamazwi kwaye kufuneka isetyenziswe kuphela njengecebo lokugqibela. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqhubeka nokutsala umsila wekati nangona ephindaphindwe kwaye wafundiswa ukuba angayenzi, ukohlwaya (ngentlonipho) kunokuba yinto elungileyo.
Rhoqo, eyona ndlela yokululeka umntwana one-ADHD yinkqubo elula yokuguqula indlela yokuziphatha: setha iminyaka efanelekileyo, iinjongo ezinokufikelelwa kwaye emva koko ucwangcise umvuzo ngamnye kwimpumelelo encinci de indlela yokuziphatha ibe ngumkhwa. Ngokuvuza ngokuziphatha okuhle (kunokuba wohlwaye ngokuziphatha gwenxa), unceda umntwana wakho azive ephumelele kwaye andise inkuthazo yokwenza into elungileyo ngexesha elizayo.
Ungaze wohlwaye umntwana ngokuziphatha angakwaziyo ukukulawula
Khawufane ucinge ukuba uxelela umntwana wakho ukuba alungise ibhedi emva koko umfumane emva kwemizuzu elele kuyo edlala amakhadi. Kufuneka wenze ntoni? Mngxolise uze umxelele ukuba uyonqena? Akukho nto ngaloo nto. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntwana one-ADHD akathobeli hayi kuba ecela umngeni, kodwa kungenxa yokuba iyamphazamisa emsebenzini (kule meko, elungisa ibhedi). Ukuphazamiseka luphawu oluqhelekileyo lwe-ADHD kwaye yinto ongenakukwazi ukuyilawula. Xa umntwana ekohlwaywa kaninzi ngenxa yokuziphatha angakwaziyo ukuyilawula, uyakumkhathaza kwaye nomnqweno wakhe wokukholisa uya kuphuma njengoko eya kucinga ukuba ayikufanelanga inzame kwaye ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nabantwana bunokucaphuka.
Eyona ndlela yokujongana neemeko ezinje kukumkhumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba enze ntoni kwaye umncede xa kukho imfuneko. Isohlwayo siyavakala ukuba kuyacaca na ukuba umntwana wakho uyadelela, umzekelo ukuba uyala kwaphela ukondlula ibhedi. Kodwa kuyakuhlala kufanelekile ukuzama.
Yeyiphi imithetho ebaluleke kakhulu ekhayeni lakho ngokubhekisele kwimfundo nokuba ngumzali kunye nomntwana wakho one-ADHD?