Ukuba kukho into omele uyazi xa ukhulelwe, kukuba ube ngumama kufuneka ube nomonde omkhulu. Kwaye akukhona nje ukubeka imida okanye ukuxhathisa ukungabikho kokulala. Kwakhona xa ulinde ezo ntshukumo zincinci zisuka kumntwana, ezinje ngenkangeleko yokuqala, ixesha xa ziqala ukukhasa okanye xa iintsana zihleka.
Ziyiziganeko ezincinci ekuphuhlisweni komntwana, nangona iimbali ezinkulu ezibonisa ukuguquguquka kwabancinci. Jonga nje ezo zijongiso zokuqala ezigxile ekunyibilikiseni intliziyo yakho. Okanye vula eyokuqala uncumo ngokuzithandelaEzo zenzeka xa sithetha ngothando nosana okanye senza ingxolo ethile. Ngomnyaka wokuqala, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nabantwana bugcwele ezi zinto zimangalisayo zemihla ngemihla kwaye kwangaxeshanye inoveli yokuba ubomi bunikezela.
Ukuhleka kokuqala ngokuzithandela
Kwanele ukugcina umntwana kwiiveki zokuqala zobomi ukufumanisa ukuba ukubhalisa amazwi okuqala okuzithandela kufuna umonde. Azenzeki kwasekuqaleni. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, kwiinyanga zokuqala iintsana zilala iiyure ezininzi ngosuku. Ukuya kwinyanga yesithathu isigqi sokulala siqala ukunciphisa kwaye ngenyanga yesine baya kuchitha iiyure ezininzi bephapheme, nangona ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Njengoko iiveki zihamba, nabazali baqala ukubhalisa utshintsho oluthile. Ukuba ekuqaleni iintsana zivelise i-grimaces engabonakaliyo, ngokokuqala ukumomotheka kwangempela kuya kubonakala. Indlela yokwahlula xa iintsana zihleka yento kwaye bayenza nini igrimace? Uya kuyibona xa isenzeka kuba ekuqaleni iintsana ezisanda kuzalwa ziphinda izimilo ezenzeka esibelekweni: usana olungekazalwa luyenza le grimace, amaxesha amaninzi xa sele bezelwe bayayenza ngelixa belele.
Akwaziwa kakuhle ukuba kutheni besenza loo nto kuba akukho buvuvu konke konke ukuhleka into ethile ngoko ke kuthathwa njengokuqhubekeka kokwenzeka esibelekweni. I-reflex elula okanye isenzo se-nervous reflex esivelisa i-grimace. Noko ke, olu ncumo luzenzekelayo alunanto yakwenza nokuhleka komntwana ngokwenene.
Kulungile,uhleka nini umntana? Xa kuthethwa ngokuhleka, kubhekiselwa koko kubizwa ngokuba yintsini yasentlalweni, oko kukuthi, oko kwenzeka ngokudibana nemekobume. Ukuya kwinyanga yokuqala okanye yesibini yobomi, umntwana ubhalisa ngakumbi ihlabathi elimngqongileyo kwaye uqala ukudibana nalo. Ngaloo ndlela uyasebenzisana kwaye afune uqhagamshelwano, ukuphuhlisa okubizwa ngokuba yintsini yoluntu.
Usana, umntu wentlalontle
Singalibali ukuba, nangona bebancinci kakhulu, iintsana zingabantu bentlalontle. Ngamanye amazwi, baziva bekhululekile xa bekunye nokunxibelelana nabanye. Ngale ndlela, babonakalisa ulonwabo lwabo ngokuncuma. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bancume xa bethetha okanye bebajongile, bebaculela, okanye bebona nje abantu abadala okanye abantakwenu abadala. Nangona bengenaso isakhono sokuvelisa uncumo ngokuzithandela, ukuhleka koluntu yimpendulo yoluntu xa udibana nomnye.
Xa umntwana ehleka Akapheleli nje ekuboniseni ukuba wonwabile kodwa yindlela anxibelelana ngayo nabo bamnyamekelayo, yindlela afumana ngayo ukuzityand’ igila. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, xa enomsindo, engakhululekanga okanye ekhathazekile, uya kukwenza oko ngokukhala. Ukunxibelelana neentsana kubaluleke kakhulu ekunxibelelaneni nasekuququzeleleni unxibelelwano.
Xa umntwana evukile eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukuthetha naye, mdlale, mculele, umchukumise nayo yonke into emncedayo aphuhlise intetho kunye nonxibelelwano. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula uncumo kunye nezinye iindlela zokuthetha, njengezandi, ukubhibhidla, kunye nenkangeleko yothando. Iintsana zifunda ngokuphindaphinda abantu abadala kwaye kungoko ukutshintshiselana ngezimbo zomzimba, inkangeleko namagama kuya kuthanda uphuhliso lonxibelelwano lomntwana. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuya kukwenza uzive uqatshelwe kwihlabathi, kwakhona ukufunda ukuba kunokwenzeka ukusebenzisana kuyo kwaye uya kufumana iimpendulo kwizenzo zakho.