Iminyaka yokuqala yobomi bomntwana iphawula ukukhula ngokukhawuleza kwabancinci. Ngexesha Ngeli xesha abantwana bayaqonda ukuba bangabantu abohlulwe kubazali babo nakwabanye abanonopheli. Abantwana bayakonwabela ukufumanisa umhlaba obangqongileyo kwaye bayathanda ukwenza yonke into ngokuzimeleyo, ukuze babonise abanye ukuba banjani kwaye bunjani ubuntu babo. Kodwa uyeka njani xa le ndlela yokuziphatha iba ngundlongondlongo?
Abantwana abancinci bakulungele ukuzibamba, ukunxibelelana ngokwenza izimbo zomzimba okanye ukuqumba, nokwenza izinto ngaphandle koncedo. (nokuba bayayifuna). Ingxaki kukuba abantwana banesakhono sokuzibamba. Ukusuka kwimbono yokukhula, abantwana abancinci abakafundi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo okanye ukuqonda ezabanye.
Nangona bengenazo izakhono ezaneleyo zokufunda amagama amatsha ngesantya esikhawulezayo, abantwana baneminqweno emikhulu yokunxibelelana kwaye kumaxesha amaninzi, basebenzisa iintshukumo zabo ukunxibelelana neemfuno zabo. Ulwimi olungathethiyo nolwalatha kwizinto ziindlela eziqhelekileyo zonxibelelwano kubantwana abancinci, kodwa xa iimfuno zabo zingafezekiswanga isenzo sinokujika sibe yinto enoburharha, ukulahla izinto phantsi nokubetha, ukutyhala okanye ukuluma enye.
Ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba kukho abantwana abangakhange balubethe ukukhula kwabo, kukho abanye abaluthathayo njengesiqhelo ukuze babonakalise ezona mvakalelo zabo zinzulu. Ngesi sizathu, Kuyimfuneko ukuba uqondise indlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana abancinci ukuze ubundlongondlongo kungabi yinto yesiqhelo.
Nangona isimilo 'esibi' sibangelwa kukungaziphathi kakuhle, oku kubangela ukushukunyiswa ngokweemvakalelo kumntwana onesifo kunye nabazali ababona isenzo esibi ebantwaneni babo. Abazali kufuneka bakhumbule ukuba ubundlongondlongo bomntwana ayisosandulela sokuba ngumntwana onolunya ubomi bakhe bonke. Kubalulekile ukulandela la manyathelo ukunceda ukumisela iimfuno zabantwana abaziphethe kakuhle ukuze ufundise kwaye uncede umntwana wakho afunde ukunxibelelana ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ubundlongondlongo.
Qaphela iipatheni zokuziphatha
Xa umntwana eziphethe ngendlela egwenxa kuhlala kukho ingxaki engunobangela wokubususa ubukhali. Ukuziphatha okungalawulekiyo kukubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo eziphakama ziye kwincam yomkhenkce. Eyona nto intle ukuyenza kukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ebangela ezi mvakalelo (amaxesha amaninzi ukukhathazeka okanye umsindo). Ukufumanisa ukuba kulungile ukuba uzibuze imibuzo efana nale:
- Ihlala phi le ndlela yokuziphatha?
- Kuhlala kwenzeka nini oku kuziphatha?
- Kwenzeke ntoni ngaphambi nje kokuziphatha?
- Ngaba kwenzeka ngakumbi xa omncinci ediniwe okanye elambile?
- Ngaba lukhona utshintsho olukhulu?
Ukufumana iipatheni zokuziphatha kunceda abazali babone ukuba kutheni le nto iqhubekayo kwaye yintoni enokwenziwa ukuyikhusela.
Sebenzisa iindlela zokuthintela
Kubalulekile ukuba uthathe imeko yomntwana wakho xa ufuna ukusebenzisa iindlela zokuthintela. Abantwana abancinci abanakho ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo zeemvakalelo kwaye baxhomekeke kubantu abadala kwinkxaso nakukhokelo kule ndlela. Abantwana bafuna abazali babo babakhe ubuntu babo, babakhulise kwaye babakhathalele ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
Fumanisa iindlela ezithile zothintelo onokuzisebenzisa kubantwana bakho abancinci kwaye ke ubathintele ekusebenziseni uburharha njengendlela yokunxibelelana kunye nokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo:
- Isilumkiso ngotshintsho. Abantwana abancinci bahlala benengxaki yokutshintsha okanye yokutshintsha. Ngesi sizathu, abantwana abancinci basebenzisa iishedyuli ezibonakalayo, ke baya kuyazi into elandelayo kwaye baya kuziva bekhuselekile ngakumbi kwaye belawula indawo ebangqongileyo.
- Yazi into anokuyenza umntwana wakho. Ukunyanzela umntwana owazisiweyo ukuba aye kwitheko elikhulu elinengxolo eninzi ... Ayisiyonto ilungileyo, yinto eya kuthi iphele ngokusilela. Cinga ukuba unjani umntwana wakho kwaye yintoni anokumlungela ngayo.
- Dlalani iindima. Abantwana kufuneka basebenzise amandla abo kwizinto abazithandayo (okt, ukwenza izinto njengentsapho). Sebenzisani umdlalo ekhaya niqhelisele izinto, phumani niye epakini niye kuwenza… Abantwana bafunda ngokudlala. Ukuziqhelanisa nendlela yokunxibelelana neemfuno zakho emhlabeni kuya kumnceda umntwana wakho azi ukuba enze ntoni kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo.
- Nika ezinye iindlela. Abantwana abancinci banokukhetha okumbalwa kakhulu ebomini babo, kubonakala ngathi abantu abadala ngabo abaphetheyo ekuthatheni isigqibo kubo kwinto yonke. Ke ngoko, xa kunokwenzeka, unikezela ngeendlela ezinokumnceda ukuba asebenze kwinkululeko yakhe kwaye ezimenza azive ukuba unolawulo kwindalo yakhe.
- Nika ingqalelo kwiimfuno zabo ezisisiseko: lala, utye, udlale. Ukuba umntwana wakho uneziphene kuyo nayiphi na kwezi zinto zintathu, isimilo sakhe esinobukrwada sinokuphinda sivele xa ungalindelanga.
Indlela yokuphendula kugonyamelo
Kukho abazali abaziva ukuba ubundlongondlongo babantwana babo abancinci kuyasilela ekukhuleni kwabo, kodwa akukho nto iqhubekeka nenyaniso, kuphela koko kubangela ukuphendula ngokweemvakalelo. Ukunyanzelwa kokuziphatha gwenxa kuya kuqinisa kuphela isimilo esingathandekiyo somntwana. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ufunde ukuphendula kwaye usabele njani kugonyamelo lomntwana wakho omncinci, khumbula ukuba ungoyena mzekelo wakhe mkhulu:
- Hlala wehlile
- Nika ezinye iindlela
- Nika iziphazamiso
- Wophule umjikelo ngokucela umntwana ukuba ahambe nawe ukuya kwenye indawo
- Mnike ukuwola kothando ukuze azole kwiimvakalelo zakhe ezinzulu
- Xa ezolile, mkhumbuze ukuba ukubetha okanye indlela aziphethe ngayo (kufuneka uchaze ukuba ibiyintoni kanye kanye) ayamkelekanga
- Thatha ixesha lokuphumla kunye
- Yenza indawo emnandi yokuphumla
Ukuziphatha gwenxa kwabantwana kunokuba ngumceli mngeni kubazali, kodwa ngokusebenzisa ezi ndlela zokuba ngumzali, abantwana baya kufunda ukuthandwa, ukuhlonitshwa, nokuxhaswa nakumaxesha apho iimvakalelo ezinamandla zilawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo.