Ukuba ucinga ngalo lonke ixesha usilela, kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba uphelelwe li-100% yexesha. Olu hlobo lweengcinga ezingalunganga luya kukwenza uzive ukuba usenza izinto zibe mbi ngalo lonke ixesha, xa ngokwenyani kwaye kunokwenzeka, oku akunjalo. Omama babonakala benomgxeki wangaphakathi ongalaliyo. Oku kugxekwa kwangaphakathi kubangela ukuba oomama babuze phantse yonke into, kubandakanya nokusebenza kwabo njengabazali.
Ukugxekwa okungagungqiyo akulunganga kuye nabani na kwaye kukwenza uzive ngathi uyasilela njengomama. Yiba nesibindi kwaye uxelele umgxeki wakho wangaphakathi ukuba avale umlomo! Wenza umsebenzi omkhulu. Ngezinye iintsuku uya kuziva ngathi awusaphili ngokukhulisa abantwana bakho ekhaya. Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ungumama olungileyo kwaye ayizizo zonke iimfazwe ezingasoloko ziphumelela ... enyanisweni, awudingi ukuphumelela lonke idabi lokuba ngumzali.
Ukuba uqhubeka unolu hlobo lokucinga, uya kudinwa ngakumbi nangakumbi, into eya kuchaphazela ngqo usapho kunye nawe. Emva koko uya kufumana iingcebiso eziza kukunceda uyeke ezi ngcinga kwaye uphephe ukudinwa okuphambi kwayo.
Yeka loo ngcinga
Nanini na xa ucinga ngolu hlobo, yeka. Yeka ingcinga kwaye uyitshintshe ibe yeyokwenyani kwaye ikwenze uzive ungcono. Unokucinga izinto ezinje:
- Ngokwenene ndingumama olungileyo
- Yonke imihla ndenza konke okusemandleni ukuba ndibengumama olungileyo
- Ndiyabathanda abantwana bam ngentliziyo yam yonke
- Abantwana bam bayandidinga kwaye kufuneka ndizinyamekele ndibakhathalele kakuhle
- Ukuba ndonwabile, baya konwaba ecaleni kwam
- Beka bucala iselfowuni
Abantwana baqhubeka beziva ukuba abazali babo baphazanyiswa njani ziiselfowuni. Oku kubangela uxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko ngenxa yeetekhnoloji ezintsha. Zonke ezo zithuba zomzali zigqibeleleyo ozibonayo kwi-intanethi ziya kubeka uxinzelelo olungelulo kuwe, kuba nkqu nabo bantu ubabona kwiinethiwekhi abanjalo. Akufanele ube ngabazali abafezekileyo konke konke.
Khumbula ukuba abantu kumajelo asekuhlaleni abaze banyaniseke okanye bathembeke ngokwenyani. Uninzi lwabantu aluzukuthumela iintsuku zabo ezimbi ukunqanda ukugwetywa ngabanye. Olona luvo lulungileyo kukuphela kwe-elektroniki ejikeleze inxenye yosuku, kwaye uya kuziva ngathi ubunzima bususwe emagxeni akho. Ekuqaleni kunokubonakala kungaqhelekanga, kodwa kamva uyakuqonda ukuba kufanelekile.
Iqabane lakho kufuneka libe secaleni kwakho
Ukuba uneqabane, banendima ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho nasekukhuliseni abantwana bakho. Usapho lwakho kufuneka lube liqela kwaye iqabane lakho kufuneka likuncede uphume ebaleni xa uziva ngathi uhlaselwe ngabadlali bakho. Izibini ezininzi zifuna ukunceda, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abazi ukuba benze njani kuba unokubenza bazive (bengaqondanga) ngathi ngabahlaseli okanye abadlali kwiqela eliphikisayo. Mhlawumbi uyacaphuka kuba akenzi izinto ngendlela obuya kwenza ngayo ... Kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba wonke umntu wenza izinto ngendlela yakhe kwaye yintoni ebalulekileyo eyenzayo.
Iqabane lakho kufuneka libe nawe ekhaya ecaleni. Ayinamsebenzi into yokuba abantwana basela ijusi enkonkxiweyo endaweni yejusi esandula ukufakwa ... Abantwana bazobe belungile ngalo maxesha.
Khumbula ukuba kubalulekile ukuba wena neqabane lakho, Khangela ixesha lonxibelelwano kunye nokusondelelana, kuba kubalulekile ukuba ubudlelwane bakho busebenze. Kuya kufuneka unxibelelane ngokweemvakalelo ukuze ube zombini iinkokeli zeqela.
Kufuneka ulale ngakumbi
Ukuba uphelile, unokucinga ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ... abantu bacinga ukuba yinto efunyanwa ngoomama beentsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa yiyo ke leyo. Ngapha koko, akunjalo, kuba ukudinwa kunokubakho nangaliphi na ixesha ukuba umama akaphumli ngokwaneleyo. Kufuneka ulale.
Nokuba uneminyaka emingaphi abantwana bakho, kufuneka ulale kakuhle. Oku kubalulekile ukugcina ukudinwa kwakho kungaphezulu kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuze ube namandla aneleyo okuzonwabisa nabantwana bakho kunye nawe. Akukho mntu usebenza kakuhle ukuba khange balale ngokwaneleyo… kwaye ukuba wongeza 'abantwana' kule nxaki, basadinga ukulala kancinci. Kufuneka uphumle ukuze ube ngumama owonwabileyo Ukujongana neengxabano phakathi kwabantakwenu, tshintsha amanabukeni, uqhube ... kwaye wenze nantoni na ekufuneka uyenzile kwimihla yakho yemihla ngemihla.
Yithi 'hayi' rhoqo
Awunakho ukwenza yonke into, ke ungakhe uzame. Ukuthi awukwazi ukukwenza uzive unetyala ngokungakwenzi konke okuceliweyo kuwe, kodwa akufuneki. Kuya kufuneka uyazi xa usithi hayi. Ungumntu omnye kwaye ngekhe wenze yonke into. Akukho mntu unokususa ezo mvakalelo zokuziva unetyala.
Ngamanye amagama, yithi hayi ekubhakeni iicookies zesikolo, ukuthunga iimpahla zesikolo, okanye ngokuzithandela kumnyhadala wentlalo. Nciphisa iiprojekthi kwaye uthi hayi kuyo yonke enye into. Impilo yakho yengqondo iya kwenza ngaphambi kokuba wenzele abanye izinto, izinto abazenza ixesha elininzi, abanawo nombulelo.
Yithi 'hayi' nakubantwana bakho
Kanye njengoko kufuneka ufunde ukuthi hayi kwabanye, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuba hayi ebantwaneni bakho. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uthathe intombi yakho endala ukuya kwisikolo esongezelelweyo ngo-4, ukuya kwesiphakathi ngo-4: 30 kunye nomncinane ngo-5. Awunguye 'superwoman' kwaye awunawo amandla okuhambisa ngefowuni.
Ukugcwala abantwana bakho ngemisebenzi kuya kubenza umthwalo ongaphaya kwamandla, kodwa kuya kukuthwalisa umthwalo ongaphezulu. Kufuneka ufunde ukuthi hayi kwizinto ezithile ukukhusela ingqondo yakho. Ubuncinane iintsuku ezimbini ekhaya ngaphandle kokuya nakwezinye izinto ezongezelelekileyo phakathi evekini. Yenza lula imihla yakho kwaye yonke into iya kuba lula kuye wonke umntu.
Vumela abantwana bakho bazenzele izinto
Ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukwenza izinto zabantwana kunokuba bazenzele zona. Kodwa ukukhulisa umntwana ozimeleyo oqondayo uxanduva kuqala ngokuvumela ukuba bazenzele izinto.
Xa abantwana bakho beqala ukuzenzela izinto (emva kokuba ubafundisile), uyakuqonda ukuba izinto zingahamba ngcono kanjani kunokuba ubulindele. Ukongeza, uya kuba nokuphumla okongeziweyo ngaxeshanye. Uya kuba nebhongo ngeempumelelo zabo nokuba abafezekanga. Kancinci kancinci uya kuba nakho ukuthatha uxanduva olutsha ngoncedo oluncinci ekuqaleni kwaye ngaphandle koncedo ekugqibeleni. Wonke umntu uyaphumelela!