Abazali kufuneka bazi ukuba ngabo abafanele ukunceda abantwana babo ukuba baphucule indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Ukufumanisa ngqo ukuba sisiphi isizathu esikhuthaza abantwana babo ukuba baziphathe kakubi nokulungisa ngeyona ndlela ibhetele. Ngale ndlela, abazali mabangaze bayeke ukujonga iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuziphatha ezikhuthaza indlela yokuziphatha engcono.
Zininzi iindlela ezisebenzayo zokuqeqesha kunomsindo, kwaye enyanisweni, ukuqeqesha abantwana ngomsindo kubeka umjikelo okhuthaza ukungaziphathi kakuhle… kwaye kuyenze mandundu. Ukuba ubonisa abantwana bakho umsindo xa beziphethe kakubi, baya kufunda ukuba ukuba nomsindo, ukukhwaza okanye ukuthetha kakubi yindlela elungileyo yokunxibelelana nawe xa besiba nomsindo ngenxa yezinye izizathu.
Abanye abazali bayamangaliswa kukuva ukuba kukho iintsapho apho abantwana bengaze bohlwaywe, nokuba kunesiphumo okanye ixesha lokulinda, kwaye ukukhwaza kwabazali akuhlali kunjalo. Imida isetiwe, ewe, kwaye kukho izinto ezilindelwe kukuziphatha, kodwa zinyanzeliswa ngonxibelelwano lomzali nomntwana. Abantwana abaneemfuno kunye nokuphazamiseka okuqhuba isimilo sabo "esibi" bayancedwa. Isiphelo sicacile: eEzi ntsapho zidala abantwana abakrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye ke banokwazi ukulawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo.
Ukuba uye waqonda ukuba ukuze ufundise umntwana wakho kufuneka ulwe ngakumbi nangomsindo wakho kunye nomsindo wakho kunendlela oziphethe ngayo, lifikile ke ixesha lokuba ufune uncedo kwingcali. Ungacingi ukuba ilahlekile emfazweni. Ukufuna uncedo kwingcali xa ifuneka ngenene sisenzo sesibindi nesothando… kuwe nakubantwana bakho. Ungabi nazintloni zokucela uncedo. Iintloni kukuyeka uxanduva lwakho njengomzali ngokwenzakalisa umntwana wakho ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni.