Ukufundisa abantwana ngumceli mngeni kubo bonke abazali, lelinye lawona manqaku abalulekileyo malunga nokukhula kwawo. Nawuphi na umzali ufuna okona kulungileyo ebantwaneni bakhe, nokuba umntu ngamnye uyazi ukuba yeyona ilungileyo. Ngokwesiqhelo into efunwa ngabazali kukuba abantwana babo bafunde, baqeqeshelwe ukuba nomsebenzi olungileyo kunye nekamva elihle.
Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi oku kunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima, umntwana wakho angathandi ukufunda kwaye kuya kufuneka ukhathazeke yonke imihla ngokumkhuthaza ukuba akwenze. Mhlawumbi unonyana ofunda kakhulu, ochitha iiyure ezininzi kakhulu phakathi kweencwadi kwaye ekukhathaza kuba ayiqhelekanga kubudala bakhe. Yiba nokuba kunjalo, ukukhuliswa kunye imfundo yabantwana yahlukile kwimeko nganye, njengobuntu bomntwana ngamnye.
Xa sithetha ngabantwana abanezakhono eziphezulu, into eyayisaziwa njengabantwana abanesiphiwo, ikhokelela ekucingeni ngento elungileyo. Ukuze umntwana abe nesiphiwo, kufuneka abemnandi, akrelekrele kakhulu, abe noxanduva, anike ingqalelo kwiiklasi, njl. Kodwa inyani kwiimeko ezininzi yahluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ziziphi izakhono eziphezulu kwaye zifunyaniswa njani?
Ngokwenyani akukho nkcazo ichanekileyo yekota kwizakhono eziphezulu, kuba ngaphakathi kwezi, amandla aphezulu engqondo okanye abanetalente banokufumaneka, umzekelo. Ngesi sihlandlo, siza kugxila kwinto yangaphambili. Kubazali abaninzi, kwanootitshala abaninzi, Kunzima kakhulu ukuqaphela ukuba umntwana unokuba nobuchule obuphezulu bokuqonda.
Ukuziphatha kwaba bantwana akunanto yakwenza nalo mfanekiso ungathandekiyo, wabantwana abakrelekrele kakhulu abasoloko bemamele eklasini. Kakhulu, kangangokuba kwizihlandlo ezininzi idla ngokudideka nezinye iingxaki eyahlukileyo kakhulu, njengoAsperger.
Ukuze umntwana okanye umntu omdala athathwe njengonobuchule obukhulu, kufuneka ichongwe yingcali, ngothotho lweemvavanyo ezenziwa kumntu othile. Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho angakhona kweli qela, thetha nomntu ophetheyo kwiziko lemfundo ukuze kwenziwe iimvavanyo ezifanelekileyo. Ukuba umntwana wakho sele efunyaniswe enezakhono eziphezulu, ungaphoswa zezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda kwimfundo yakhe.
Abantwana abanobuchule obuphezulu bengqondo
Abantwana abanezakhono eziphezulu abayeki ukuba ngabantwana, imfundo yabo kufuneka isekwe kuloo ndawo. Kodwa ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba sukuyityeshela eminye imiba, ezinye zazo zezi:
- Akuyeki ukuba ngumntwana, ke kuya kufuneka uvavanye izakhono zabo ngokweminyaka yabo. Njengaye nawuphi na umntwana, uya kufuna uncedo lwakho ukusombulula iingxaki ezithile. Inkwenkwe kufuneka ube nemithetho kunye noxanduva efanelekileyo kubudala babo. Njengomzali wabo, kufuneka ubandakanyeke kwimisebenzi yabo, kwimisebenzi yabo, nakwizifundo nakwimidla yabo.
- Ukukhuthaza amandla abo aphezulu, kodwa ngokuhambelana nezifundo zakhe eziqhelekileyo. Iingcali zicebisa ukuba izifundo zabo zilandele ikhosi efanelekileyo yobudala babo, kuba, nangona bekrelekrele kakhulu kwaye benamandla aphezulu, ukukhula kwabo kwezinye iindawo kuqhelekile, ngokobudala babo. Into onokuyenza kule meko kukukhuthaza amandla abo ngokwenza eminye imisebenzi.
- Funda ukukuxabisa ukufunda kunamabakala. Endaweni yokujonga nje amanqaku, nxibelelana nomntwana wakho ngokuba nomdla kwizinto azifundayo yonke imihla. Menze abone ukuba ulwazi ngalunye lubalulekile kwaye ufuna ukufunda njengaye.
- Ukwahluka akukubi. Thetha nomntwana wakho, yenza umgudu wokuqonda iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye uzibeke endaweni yakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo uziva wahlukile okanye ucalucalulwa ngenxa yobukrelekrele bakho, into enokubangela ukuba uziphathe kakubi ukuze wamkelwe. Chaza ukuba iyantlukwano yenza abantu babaluleke, kwaye nganye nganye ineempawu zayo ezizodwa nezizodwa
- Musa ukukhathazeka ngeengxaki zokuphuhliswa kwabo. Abantu abanezakhono eziphezulu bahlala benobunzima ekuthatheni izigqibo, besazi ukuba banokwenza nantoni na enokubongamela.
Ngaphezu kwako konke, yazi Inokuba nzima kangakanani le meko emntwaneni wakho. Ukuba ngowahlukileyo nohlukileyo ebuntwaneni, ukuma ngaphezu kwabo bonke abanye, kunokwenza umntwana azive engaqondwa. Mamela iimfuno zomntwana wakho kwaye ungathandabuzi ukucela uncedo nanini na xa ufuna.