Sele sisazi ukuba ukusuka kumzuzu wokuqala sifumanisa ukuba siza kuba ngoomama, indlela ende nenzima iyaqala. Ngenxa yokuba yonke into esiyiqaphelayo ngexesha lokukhulelwa ibangela ukuba singathandabuzeki, kwaye ezininzi zazo. Kodwa kufuneka sizame ukonwabela eli nqanaba litsha ngokupheleleyo kwaye ngaphandle kokucinga kakhulu. Kodwa, Kwenzeka ntoni kwiintsana ezihamba kakhulu esibelekweni?
Ngokuqinisekileyo uvile izinto ezininzi ngombandela ofana nalo. Akumangalisi, kuba rhoqo Zininzi iintsomi ezinokujikeleza. Kodwa ukuze uqhubeke ukonwabela ukukhulelwa kwakho, siza kukuxelela yonke into ekufuneka uyazi kwaye nokuba uya kuba nabantwana abangaphumliyo na. Fumana kuba ngoku sikuxelela ngokweenkcukacha!
Kutheni umntwana eshukuma esiswini?
Loo mvakalelo yokuziva bubunewunewu. Kuba xa kusenzeka okuchaseneyo, siqala ukoyika kwaye kuninzi lwamatyala akufuneki kube njalo. Kufuneka kuthiwe Umntwana ushukuma esiswini sikamama wakhe kuba yinxalenye yokukhula kwakhe.. Kuyinyani ukuba kwiiveki zokuqala, xa beqala ukuhamba, kuthiwa ezi zizenzo ze-reflex. Kancinci kancinci, izivuseleli ziya kuba zizo ezenza ezi ntshukumo zilandele indlela yazo.
Ewe, emva kweveki ye-10, ziya kubonakala ngakumbi. Kodwa ukuba awuziqapheli, akukho nto yenzekayo. Kuba amathambo abo asakhula kwaye kusesekuseni kakhulu ukuba aqaphele loo ntshukumo ngokwayo. Kuthiwa abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ngaphambili banokuziva iintshukumo ngokukhawuleza., kodwa kuya kuhlala kuxhomekeke, kuba azikho zonke ukukhulelwa okufanayo.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa umntwana engaphumli esibelekweni?
Njengoko iiveki zihamba, siyaqala ukuqaphela ezo ntshukumo besithetha ngazo. Ngaphezu koko, ngamanye amaxesha siziva ngathi umntwana akakhululekanga. Kodwa akufanele ukhathazeke. Abantu batsho njalo Ezi ntshukumo ziyinto entle kwaye zisisalathisi sokuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle. Kodwa kuyinyaniso ukuba ukuba kukho into ekukhathazayo, sele uyazi ukuba kufuneka uqhagamshelane nodokotela wakho wezifo zabesifazane kwaye ulungise nawaphi na amathandabuzo. Siza kukuxelela ukuba ezinye zezizathu zokuba umntwana ahambe kakhulu kukuba le ntshukumo ibangela ukuba amalungu aphuhlise ngcono. Kwelinye icala, xa unina esandul’ ukutya, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana ashukume ngakumbi.
Iintsana ezihamba kakhulu esibelekweni, ngaba aziphumli?
Njengoko besesitshilo, xa besesizalweni, basabela kuloo ntshukumo kuba kukukhula. Ngelixa kwelinye icala, Kufuneka siyiphelise loo ntsomi yayisithi xa usana lushukuma kakhulu esibelekweni lusuke lungazinzi.. Ewe, ayinanto yakwenza nayo. Ngaphezu koko, kufuneka kukhankanywe kwakhona ukuba xa siqaphela kakhulu, kunokuba ngenxa yemithambo-luvo yethu okanye imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo esiyenzayo imini yonke. Oko kuthetha ukuba ukukhula komntwana kunokongezwa kwinto eyenziwa ngumama yaye oko kusenza sibe nemvakalelo yokungaphumli. Kodwa akukho nto yakwenza nokuba baya kuba novalo ngakumbi okanye ngaphantsi ekuzalweni. Kufuneka nje ulinde ukujonga isimilo sayo.
Ngaba iintshukumo okanye ukukhaba kuyingozi?
Hayi, akunjalo. Inye kuphela into abanokuyenza kukusinika izoyikiso ezimbalwa, kuba kwiimeko ezininzi zivela ngaphandle kokuzilindela. Yiyiphi Iyasimangalisa kwaye inokusenza soyike kancinane, Kodwa akukho okunye. Emva koko siya kuyithatha njengento ekhethekileyo kwaye siyazi ukuba sisizathu sempilo, ngoko akukho nto imbi inokuwela iingqondo zethu kule ngqiqo. Iintsana ezihamba kakhulu esibelekweni ziyakhula kwaye zisempilweni.