Ukuba ngumama okanye utata akulula, ukongeza kwimisebenzi yokukhulisa kunye nokufundisa abantwana, zininzi ezinye izibophelelo umntu omdala angaze akushiye. Kwaye kwizihlandlo ezininzi, kulula ukuhanjiswa ngoxinzelelo kwaye uthule konke oko kudinwa ebantwaneni. ngohlobo lwamagama amabi kunye neempendulo ezingafanelekanga. Uninzi lwezi binzana zisetyenziswa rhoqo, ke ziphela ziqhelekile.

Kodwa yintoni umntu omdala yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ngaphandle kokubaluleka kakhulu, emntwaneni, efumana amagama athile kubantu abamthanda kakhulu, kukwenza ungazithembi, ube nexhala, okanye ube neentloni, phakathi kwezinye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga. Kuba akukho mfuneko yokuba uthethe igama elibi okanye isithuko ukwenza ukuba isivakalisi sikhathaze, siza kuvavanya amabinzana ongafanele ukuthi kubantwana bakho.

1. "Musa ukukhala kwakhona"

Ukulila yindlela yendalo yokuthetha, nokuba kukuveza umsindo, iintlungu, unxunguphalo, okanye ukubonisa uvuyo okanye uvakalelo. Kubantu abaninzi, ukulila luphawu lobuthathaka kwaye bakubeka ngolu hlobo ebantwaneni babo. Amabinzana afana nokuthi "ukukhala enzelwe iintsana" okanye "kuphela amantombazana alilayo" asavakala kumakhaya amaninzi namhlanje. Nokuba yinto ecekethekileyo kwaye ayisetyenziswanga ngendlela yokonwaba, umyalezo ukhona kwaye unefuthe emntwaneni.

Bonke abantu bayakhala kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kunye nendlela esebenzayo yokunceda. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala, thatha umzuzwana ucinge ngokuba kutheni. Endaweni yokujongela phantsi iimvakalelo zakhe, zama ukumthuthuzela ngothando emva koko thetha nomntwana wakho ukuzama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni engalunganga.

2. "Kwakungekho nto"

Unyana wakho uyawa kwaye umxelele ngokukhawuleza ukuba "ibingeyonto" kwaye umthumele ngokukhawuleza ukuba adlale kwakhona. Uhlala ucinga ukuba kungcono unganiki ukubalulekaYiyo loo nto umntwana angayi kumnika kwaye uya kuqhubeka nobomi bakhe. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kukho into eyenzekileyo, ukwazile ukuzenzakalisa, woyika kwaye waziva engakhuselekanga. Ngaphandle kokuwela ekubaxeni, okanye ukunika ukubaluleka okugqithisileyo, yiya kumntwana wakho umbuze, uyaphila? Ngaba uzenzakalisile?

Kwaye, omncinci wakho uya kuziva ekhuselekile Kwaye uyakuqaphela ukuba uyikhathalele into eyenzekayo kuye.

3. "Lo gama nje uqhubeka ngoluhlobo, ndixelela uTata."

Okanye kumama, njengoko kunokuba njalo. Eli libinzana esele lisetyenziswe iminyaka emininzi ukuzama ukoyikisa abantwana. Kodwa inye kuphela into oyifumanayo nale yile Umntwana wakho uyaqonda ukuba umzali akanalo igunya. Ke ngoko, ukuba utata onegunya akekho, umntwana uziva ngathi akanakuhlonela omnye.

4. "Lowo mntwana / umntu usisiyatha"

Ngamanye amaxesha siyalibala ukuba siyathetha nabantwana kwaye kulula kakhulu ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zethu nangayiphi na indlela, ngaphandle kokucinga ngomyalezo esiwuthumelayo. Xa umntwana esenza into embi emntwaneni wakho, umntu esitalatweni esenza into ongayithandiyo, okanye umqhubi kamakhelwane wenza indlela engeyiyo, unokuhendeka ukuba uthi loo mntwana, okanye loo mntu, usile, okanye nasiphi na esinye isithuko.

Ngale ndlela, unyana wakho funda ukuthukisa abanye abantu, xa besenza into engalunganga kuye.

5. "Kutheni ungafani nomhlobo wakho nje?"

Kuqhelekile ukuthelekisa abantwana nabanye abenza into ebhetele emehlweni ethu. Jonga umhlobo wakho ukuba utya kangakanani, udlala kakuhle kangakanani ibhola, uthobela kangakanani, njl. Ukuthelekisa kusebenza kuphela ekuphuculeni izakhiwo, umntwana wakho uya kucinga ukuba ungaphantsi kunomhlobo wakhe aze ayeke nokunxibelelana naye. Endaweni yoko, sebenzisa ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo malunga namandla omntwana wakho.

Ngale ndlela, uya kuzama nzima ukuphucula eminye imiba yokufumana umbulelo ovela kuwe. Ukuba umenza acinge ukuba yonke into ayilunganga, Andisoze ndizame ukuphucula kuba uyakucinga ukuba nokuba angayenza njani, soze waneliseke.