Amaqhina asebenzayo ahlala enokujija kunye nokujika kwawo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba sithetha ngantoni na ubudlelwane. Ebudeni bobuntwana nakwixesha lokufikisa, ubukho bootatomkhulu noomakhulu bubaluleke gqitha. Enye yezona zibophelelo zibalulekileyo kunye nokuzimisela ebomini bomntwana, emva kwabazali. Ootatomkhulu noomakhulu babelana ngegazi kwaye, kumaxesha amaninzi, bangamahlakani amakhulu abazukulwana. Kodwa, njengawo onke amanye amakhonkco, lunxibelelwano oluphathwayo olutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. yenzaKutheni abantwana benqaba ngokukhawuleza ootatomkhulu?
Akwenzeki kuzo zonke iimeko, kodwa maninzi amabali ootatomkhulu nabazukulwana ababevana ngokumangalisayo. Kude kwenzeke into kwaye ikhonkco itshintshe. Yinto embi? Ngaba kukho ukukhathazeka?
Abantwana kunye nootatomkhulu, ubudlelwane ngexesha
Enye yeenkalo eziphambili xa ukuqonda kutheni abantwana ngokukhawuleza bagatya ootatomkhulu inxulumene nobudala. Umntwana ebuntwaneni akafani nomntu omdala. Kwimeko yabantwana abadala, kusenokwenzeka ukuba sele benolwalamano olusekiweyo lokusondelelana okukhulu okanye okuncinane. Ukuba ngequbuliso loo khonkco iyatshintsha, mhlawumbi kukho into eyenzekileyo kolo budlelwane, into ethile.
Isenokuba ngumba phakathi kwamaqela omabini njengokungavisisani okanye ukwahluka kwezimvo. Ukuba ukuza kuthi ga kulo mzuzu unxibelelwano lwaluqinile, eyona nto inokwenzeka kukuba umakhulu kunye nomzukulu banokuthetha ngokungafaniyo. Ngale ndlela baya kukwazi ukuzisombulula kwaye baqhubeke nekhonkco njengangaphambili. Kwimeko apho iyantlukwano inxulumene ngakumbi nenkqubo yokukhula komntwana, kusenokuba yimfuneko ukucinga ngokuhlengahlengisa ulwalamano.
Oomakhulu nootatomkhulu kunye nolutsha
Ithetha ntoni le nto? Njengakulo naluphi na ulwalamano, njengoko abantwana bekhula, ulwalamano nootatomkhulu noomakhulu luyatshintsha. Ukuba kwiminyaka yokuqala ootatomkhulu bangabalingane abakhulu bokudlala, ukususela ngaphambi kokufikisa ubudlelwane mhlawumbi busekelwe ngakumbi nangakumbi kwincoko kunye nokwabelana ngeengcamango. Izinto ezimbini zingenzeka apha: nokuba ubudlelwane buqiniswa okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukungafani kugxininiswe. Oku kwenzeka xa imibono malunga nehlabathi kunye nobomi yahluke kakhulu. Umahluko wesizukulwana unokukhokelela ekuboneni ubomi obuvela kwiiprism ezahlukeneyo. Ulutsha oluninzi luvakalelwa kukuba aluqondwa kakuhle ngoomakhulu nootatomkhulu balo ngoxa kukho ootatomkhulu noomakhulu abagqala abazukulwana abancinane benemvukelo yaye bafanele babafundise ubomi.
Ukuba abantwana bayagatya ngokukhawuleza ootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu, mhlawumbi kuyimfuneko ukuhlalutya ukuba ingxaki ayikho kulwahlulo xa kufikelelwa ekuboneni nasekuphileni ubomi, kodwa ngendlela ekwabelwana ngayo ngeengcamango. Ukugcina iqhina eliphilileyo phakathi kootatomkhulu noomakhulu nabazukulwana, kubalulekile ukuba omabini amaqela azive ekhululekile xa esabelana ngezimvo zawo, ngaphakathi kwesakhelo sobudlelwane obusekelwe kuvelwano nothando. Xa umntwana eziva egwetyiwe ithande ukuseka umgama. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukucinga ngendlela yokuthetha izinto.
Abantwana abancinci, bakhona ootatomkhulu noomakhulu
Kwezinye iimeko, izizathu zokuba abantwana babale oomakhulu nootatomkhulu ngequbuliso zinento yokwenza neenkalo ezinxulumene nenkqubo yokuvuthwa kwabantwana ebudeni beminyaka yabo yokuqala yobomi. Kwindaba ye oomakhulu nootatomkhulu abahoye abantwana Xa abazali babo besebenza, abantwana banokububona ubukho babo njengobungqina bokungabikho kwabazali babo. Kwimeko yabantwana ukuya kwiminyaka emibini ubudala, ubukho bootatomkhulu bunokubangela ukuxhalaba kokuhlukana. Le nkxalabo inokuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kuquka ukukhwaza, ukugatywa, kunye nokukhala.
Ngamanye amaxesha yena ukwaliwa kwabantwana kootatomkhulu noomakhulu Isenokuba ngenxa yemiba engaphezulu enxulumene noluvo. Iphunga lecuba, iziqholo ezithile ezisetyenziswa ngootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu, amathoni ezwi anamandla, ukugqoka iiglasi okanye iinwele zobuso kunokubangela ukugatywa kwiintsana. Kule meko, kucetyiswa ukuba uqale indlela ecothayo kwaye rhoqo ukwenzela ukuba umntwana azive eqinisekile.