Sithethile izihlandlo ezininzi malunga nendlela onokujongana ngayo nomsindo, ndikunika iingcebiso zokuzilawula. Nangona kunjalo, Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba kutheni umsindo usenzeka xa kuziwa kulwazi lokujongana nabo.
Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokunceda abantwana bethu ukuba baphumelele kakuhle kwaye baququzelele ukufunda ngokulawula iimvakalelo zabo.
Yintoni umsindo?
Umsindo kukudubula kweemvakalelo, ezinokukhokelela ekukhatheni, ukuba ndlongondlongo okanye ukulila. Kuzo umntwana uveza umsindo wakhe kunye nokuchasa ukhuthazo oluthile alufumeneyo. Unenkani, uyadelela kwaye unomsindo kwaye akalunganga- uhlobo lokuziphatha akukho mzali ukulungeleyo ukulunyamezela, kungasathethwa ke ukuba kwenzeka esidlangalaleni. Nangona kunjalo Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kungaphindezelwa malunga nomsindo, njengoko kunokubangela ukudideka kunye nokonakalisa ukuzithemba kwakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu ukuphatha ingqumbo, inokwenzeka kwindawo engalunganga kunye nexesha.
Abantwana bethu bafunda ngelizwe elibangqongileyo. Umsindo uyenzeka ukusuka kwiinyanga ezili-18, xa umntwana eqala ukulawula lonke ulwazi alufumanayo kwaye azame ukuveza impendulo yakhe kukhuthazo, ejongene nemida yonxibelelwano, eqhelekileyo yobudala bakhe. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka uyazi ukuba ukuba umntwana wakho unomsindo, kukuba uyiphuhlisa inkqubo yakhe yokuqonda ngokuchanekileyo. Ziqhelekile ukuya kwiminyaka emi-4 indala.
Kutheni zisenzeka nje?
Njengoko besesitshilo, umsindo usibonisa ukukhula okuhle kwenkqubo yomntwana wethu yokuqonda. Kukule minyaka xa baqala ukunqwenela ukuzimela kunye nokuzimela. Oku, ngokuchaseneyo nokufumanisa ukusikelwa umda kwabo, kudala uxinzelelo kwaye kufuneka bafunde ukuyilawula kancinci kancinci.
Umsindo wenzeka ngenxa yesi siphithiphithi abangakwaziyo ukusizimela ngokwabo. Yindlela abamele ukuba bazivakalise ngayo, kwaye eso sisakhono esifanelekileyo sentlalo, amandla okubonisa.
Kutheni ziyimfuneko?
Oku kubonisa inkqubela entle yonyana wethu. Isizathu sokuziphatha okucaphukisayo bubunyaniso bokukhula komntwana. Kuya kufuneka akhule njengomntu ozimeleyo kwaye afunde ukuveza izimvo zakhe, oyise ukusikelwa umda kolwimi kunye nokulawula indlela aziphatha ngayo, kancinci kancinci.
Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bayiqonde into yokuba ukuba nomsindo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo kwaye iyimfuneko kwinkqubo yokukhula kwabantwana bethu.. Oku kuyakusinika umonde ofunekayo ukuze uziphathe ngembeko. Ngokusisiseko, eyona nto isisiseko kukuba umntwana uphathwa ngendlela ezolileyo, enembeko, ukuze afunde ukulawula ukukhathazeka kwakhe, amdlulise kwaye afumane ezinye iindlela zokubonisa, ngokuthe ngcembe nangokungagungqiyo.