Ukuba intombi yakho ekwishumi elivisayo ilila kakhulu, ufanele unikele ingqalelo kwezinye iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba kukho into ebalulekileyo eyenzekayo ebomini bentombi yakho. Ukufikisa linqanaba elingaphaya kwengqondo Kubomi bakhe nawuphi na umntu, kukuhamba ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuya ebuntwini obukhulu kwaye yonke into eyenzekayo ngelo xesha ngokungathandabuzekiyo iya kuphawula ikamva. Wonke umntu ugcina iinkumbulo zokufikisa.
Iinkumbulo zamava ngamanye amaxesha awonwaba, amahle kwaye akuhambisa kwixesha lolonwabo. Kodwa izinto zenzeka ngexesha lokufikisa ezinokuphawula ubomi bakhe nawuphi na umntu. Ubudlelwane bothando lokuqala, kunye nokuphoxeka kokuqala, ukudideka kokuqala kwizifundo, ukungaqiniseki ngekamva okanye ukufuna indawo kabani ehlabathini.
Konke oku kunokubangela ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo kwabakwishumi elivisayo, abanye bakuvakalisa ngomsindo, abanye bafuna ukutshintsha loo nkalo bangayithandiyo baze abanye bakhale. Nangona ukukhala kuyimfuno yenyama, nayo leyo inceda ukulawula iimvakalelo kuba iihomoni zikhutshwa ukuba ukuxhalaba okuzolileyo, kunokunxulumana nophawu lokudakumba okanye ezinye izigulo.
Intombi yam ekwishumi elivisayo ikhala kakhulu.
Ukuvavanya ukuba ngaba umntwana ofikisayo unokuphuhla na ukudakumba okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuba ube noncedo lwengcali ethile. Ukuwela kwisilingo sokuxilongwa kolu hlobo ngaphandle kokulungiswa yimpazamo eqhelekileyo kubazali. Into enokuyenza kukhokelela kulawulo olulambathayo lwemeko, enoba kuyinyani ukuba intombazana idandathekile okanye akunjalo.
Ukuba intombi yakho ekwishumi elivisayo ilila kakhulu yaye kukukhathaza ngokwenene, kufuneka uqwalasele ezinye iinkcukacha ukuze ubone iimpawu ezinokubakho ezilumkisayo. Ngaphandle kokukhala kakhulu, uyazihoya kwaye akafuni kwabelana namntu, uyekile ukwenza izinto ebekade ethanda, akazihoyanga izifundo zakhe kwaye bekungenjalo ngaphambili, uphantsi kotshintsho. ukutya kwakhe okanye ayeke ukuhoya inkangeleko yakhe.
Zonke zizilumkiso zeempawu zokudakumba okunokwenzeka kulutsha, ekufuneka luvavanywe kwaye lunyangwe yingcali. Kodwa ukuba intombi yakho ikhala kakhulu yaye akuboni nto yimbi, isenokuba yindlela yokukhupha zonke iimvakalelo ekusenokwenzeka ukuba inazo. Kwelinye icala, Utshintsho lwamadlala lukhohlakele kangangokuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ndilile ngaphandle kokucaca kakhulu malunga nesizathu.
Kwelinye icala, wenaUmntu okwishumi elivisayo kufuneka afunde ukuphila nomfanekiso wakhe omtsha, loo nto iyayeka ukuba yinkwenkwe okanye intombazana ize ibe ngumntu omdala kwixesha elizayo. Imizimba yamantombazana iyatshintsha ngokucacileyo, ixesha labo lokuqala lifika, baqala ukuphuhlisa iimvakalelo kwabanye abantu kwaye ukwamkela konke oku kunokuba nzima ngokupheleleyo.
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Ukunceda intombi yakho ukuba yoyise la maxesha anzima, kufuneka ube kufutshane, kodwa uhloniphe indawo yakhe ukuze ingaziva ihlaselwe. Abakwishumi elivisayo batyekele ekucingeni ukuba abazali balo bafuna ukubalawula, ukuba ababaqondi yaye kungenxa yoko le nto bekuphepha ukuthetha ngezinto ezibaxhalabisayo. QQinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho bafunda ukukuthemba, Cela unxibelelwano oluhle uze uphephe ukwenza izigqibo okanye ukuzijongela phantsi iimvakalelo zabo.
Xa umntu, okwishumi elivisayo kule meko, ebandezeleka, into yokugqibela ayifunayo kukuba umntu angayijongeli phantsi le nto atyhubela kuyo. La mabinzana aqhelekileyo asetyenziselwa ukwenza lula umcimbi, njengokuthi "akukho nto", "yimbudane leyo", "ndiqinisekile ukuba uya kudlula" kubonisa ukungakwazi ukuqonda omnye umntu, babonisa ukungabi naluvelwano.
Kule meko, eyona nto ingcono kukubonisa inkxaso yakho, umenze abone ukuba iingxaki zakhe zibalulekile kuwe kwaye akayedwa. Nangona ekuqaleni esenokuziva engafuni okanye engakuthembi, kuba kukwayimvakalelo eqhelekileyo yokufikisa, ukwazi ukuba unawe ngokusondeleyo kuya kumthuthuzela. Uya kwazi ukuba unokuthembela kuwe yaye akayi kuziva egwetyiwe., nantoni na eyenzekayo kuye.
Kwaye khumbula, Ixesha lokufikisa linqanaba elinzima nelinzima ukunyamezela.. Ayipheleli nje kubantwana ngokwabo abafumana olu tshintsho, kodwa kusapho lonke ngokubanzi. Ngothando, inkxaso kunye nomonde, yonke into ihamba ngcono kwaye ukuhlalisana kulula kumntu wonke.