Ndikhumbula xa umntwana wam wokuqala wayeneminyaka emibini ubudala. Wayesoloko engumntwana ozolileyo, onoxolo. Kodwa ukusuka komnye umzuzu ukuya kwesinye waqalisa ukubetheka ngentloko eludongeni xa enomsindo. ¿Kutheni unyana wam ebetha entloko?, ndazibuza andafumana mpendulo.
Oko ngaxa lithile sasikholelwa ukuba yinto eyenzeka ngamabona-ndenzile yaba ngumkhwa omncinane owawuphindaphindwa ngamaxesha athile. Ngoko ke, sicebisana nogqirha wakho wabantwana. Ngethamsanqa, wasixelela ukuba yayiyindlela nje yokuzibonakalisa, isiko elaliza kuphela, njengokuba lalifikile, laliza kuphela. Kwaye kwenzeka, emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa zokubethelela intloko yakhe eludongeni ngenxa yokukhathazeka, ngenye imini wayeka ukuyenza.
Betha intloko
Akukho mnandi kuye nawuphi na umzali ukubona umntwana wakhe ebetha intloko ngokuzithandela. Mhlawumbi bazibetha ngezandla okanye babethe iintloko zabo kwibhedi, emgangathweni okanye eludongeni. Yinto ecaphukisa abantu abadala, abafuna iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzola okanye ukuphazamisa ingqalelo yabo. ¿Kutheni nyana wam ubetha ngentloko yakhe udonga ubuza?
Kwiimeko ezininzi, imfuno yeentsana ezithile zokubetha iintloko zabo inxulumene neemvakalelo zabo kunye nendlela abayifumana ngayo yokubonakalisa umsindo wabo okanye ukukhathazeka. Xa beziva benomsindo, abazi ukuba bangayifumana njani indlela engcono yokulawula iimvakalelo zabo kwaye banazo ezi gqabhuko-dubulo. Kwezinye iimeko zisenokuba zizithonga ezithambileyo kodwa kwezinye zinokungalawuleki. Kwezi meko, kuqhelekile ukukhala, ukukhwaza kunye nokucaphuka okunamandla nako.
Xa kungekho sichengeni ulawulo ngokweemvakalelo kwiintsana inxulumene nomsindo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba a unyana ubetha intloko efuna ukuzola. Ngokwenza oku, bafumana indlela yokuzola ngaphambi kokuba balale. Kwezi meko, ezi zizithonga ezithambileyo kakhulu, zifana ngakumbi neentshukumo eziphindaphindayo kunezithonga ezinamandla. Kuqhelekile ukuba aba bantwana babethe ngentloko emqamelweni okanye ebhedini. Bafuna isiqabu kunye nokuphumla kwaye bakufumane ngokuphinda esi senzo.
Kwiimeko ezinqabileyo kodwa zinzima kakhulu, abantwana ababetha iintloko zabo Basenokubonakalisa uphawu olunxulunyaniswa noluphazamiseko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, esi senzo sikhatshwa zezinye iimpawu, ezinje ngonxibelelwano oluncinci okanye olungabikho kwaphela, ukusabela okunamandla ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukugqabhuka, kunye nokulibaziseka kwentetho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuhambisa intloko kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye kudla ngokukhatshwa ingxolo okanye ukukhala.
Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana wam ebetha intloko yakhe
kunzima ukwazi ukuba wenze ntoni xa kukho into eyenzekayo emntwaneni wakho. Kwaye nangakumbi xa oko kubangela ukudideka kubantu abadala, abangenakufumana izizathu zokuba kutheni a inkwenkwe ibetha ngentloko ngaphandle kwesizathu. Into yokuqala kukuhlala uzolile ukunceda umntwana amise ukuphendula.
Ukuba ngaba yi- unyana ebetha entloko Ngaphambi kokuba ulale, sixhathise isilingo sokukuyeka. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba emva kwemizuzu embalwa uya kuyeka nje ukuyenza xa sele engena kwisigaba sokulala. Ukuba ibethe ibhedi, ungabeka ibumper ukuyinqanda ukuba ingabetheki kakhulu.
Xa a unyana ubetha intloko Xa umntu enomsindo kuhle ukuyeka ukunikela ingqalelo kuye. Ngale ndlela, umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba akusiyo isenzo esifumana iziphumo ezilungileyo. Ngokungayinanzi, umntwana uya kunyanzeleka ukuba abhenele kwezinye izixhobo eziluncedo ngakumbi ukuzola ngelixa efunda ukulawula umsindo kunye neemvakalelo zakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, nikela ingqalelo kwiingozi, ziphephe izinto ezinokubetha kwaye zikulimaze. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyabona ukuba indlela aziphatha ngayo ayikuchaphazeli, uya kuyeka ngenxa yokuba akayifezi injongo yakhe.
Kwimeko yokubetha ingozi, lixesha lokuthatha isinyathelo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubetha intloko yakhe kanzima, unokumbamba ngobunono iingalo zakhe ukuze ayeke ukukhawuleza. Thetha naye ngokuzolileyo nangothando. Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha iluphawu lolunye uhlobo lokuphazamiseka, dibana nodokotela wabantwana, ngakumbi ukuba kukho naziphi na iimpawu ezichazwe.