Ngunobangela wokukhathazeka okanye uxinzelelo xa abazali bejonga izikhalazo kunye nokungonwabisi oko imilenze yomntwana wakho ibuhlungu. Zihamba kunye neentlungu zasemini, nokuba kungorhatya okanye ebusuku.
Abantwana bahlala besithi umphambili wamathanga okanye amadolo abuhlungu, Ngenye imini inokuba semilenzeni yomibini ngolunye usuku ibe yenye yazo. Ngokubanzi, abaqhele ukwenzakalisa ebusuku, nangona kukho abantwana abakubonakalisayo, kwanoku kungonwabi kuhlala kunyamalala kusasa xa bevuka.
Zinjani ezi ntlungu?
Zinxulunyaniswa ngokubanzi xa kukho ukubakho komzimba ngexesha nasemini zivela ngongcwalazi okanye ebusuku. Kukho abantwana abaye banabo ukuvuswa ebusuku ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle. Thina bazali sinexhala xa emva kwesahlulo esincinci iintlungu ziphinda zivele ngosuku olungalindelekanga.
Iintlungu ziyavela emilenzeni ngendlela ekhethekileyo edla ngokuthatha iintsuku ezimbalwa. Kodwa ukuba zikhatshwa kukudumba, ukuthamba xa uchukumisa amalungu, umkhuhlane, irhashalala, iqhwalela okanye ubuthathaka, kukho iintlungu ezingapheliyo imini yonke okanye zikhatshwa ziintlungu ezizimeleyo ezingalweni, ngasemva okanye ekuthini, kunokubakho imeko embi kakhulu.
Kutheni imilenze yomntwana wam ibuhlungu?
Zizo iintlungu zobuntwana kwaye zihlala ziqhelekile. Ukuba ngamaxesha athile babizwa njalo iintlungu ezikhulayo kwaye zibonakala emva kwemini okanye ekupheleni kosuku. Kwezinye iimeko kukho abantwana abavuka ebusuku.
Iminyaka ekubonakala ukuba ezi zigulo zihlala zikhona phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 nesi-5 kwakhona phakathi kweminyaka esi-8 neli-12. La ngamanqanaba apho ukukhula okukhulu kubonakala kwaye kuye kwayanyaniswa nokukhula kwethambo okukhulu ngalo awugqithanga kuguquguquko oluqhelekileyo lwezihlunu kunye neetoni, ukudala ukungavisisani kwezi ndawo.
Singanceda njani ukunciphisa iintlungu?
Abazali zezona nkxaso zibalaseleyo zokunciphisa obu buhlungu. Inga thambisa indawo ebuhlungu ngekhrim ethambileyo ukuze iintlungu ziyokuthomalala. Ukucinezelwa okufudumeleyo okubekwe imizuzu embalwa kwindawo kusebenza kakuhle, okanye ukubeka into ebandayo kuyayiphelisa le ntlungu.
Okwangoku zinokwenziwa zincinci ukuzolula umthambo, ukugoba kancinci indawo ebuhlungu okanye ukunceda ukolula indawo ethile. Le mithambo ikwacetyiswa ngaphambi kokuya kulala xa kunokwenzeka ukuba imilenze ixhaphake ngelo xesha. Ukuba iintlungu azipheli, eyona ndlela ilungileyo yidosi ibuprofen okanye iparacetamol.
Xa kufuneka udibane nogqirha wabantwana?
Uthethwano luyakwenziwa nini iintlungu zinamandla kakhulu kwaye ziphindaphindeka, naxa kufuneka amayeza ngokuqhubekayo ukunciphisa. Ukuba kubuhlungu kwindawo ethe ngqo okanye ukuba uvuka kusasa ngentlungu.
Ukuba bayaqhwalela emini, ukuba indawo iyadumba okanye ibomvu, ngakumbi ukuba ikhatshwa ngumkhuhlane, ukunciphisa umzimba kunye nokudinwa. Zizinto ezibonisa ukuba kunokubakho into enzima ngakumbi.
Ezona ngxaki zixhaphakileyo zixhalabisayo zibonakala xa uphuma ebhedini uqhubeka nentlungu okanye xa kubuhlungu emini kwaye awukwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla kuba ibangela ukungonwabi kunye nokuqhwala. Ngeempawu zawo onke la matyala, kuya kufuneka uye kugqirha wabantwana ukuze uvavanywe ngokucokisekileyo okanye akuthumele kwingcali.
Xa ujongene nolu hlobo lwentlungu ngaphandle kweempawu ezixhalabisayo, abazali banokuqinisekisa umntwana wabo ngokuchaza ukuba uyabetha kwaye kwiintsuku nje ezimbalwa kuya kuphakama kancinci. Oko kuyakukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho, kukunciphise, kwaye ubuncinci uncume.
Ungajonga ngakumbi amanqaku ethu ngokufunda "ukutya okukhuthaza ukukhula kwabantwana","ukuzilolonga kunye nokuzilolonga ukwenza nabantwana ekhaya"Okanye"xa abantwana izifo ezingezizo«.