Umfazi kufuneka acinge malunga nendlela avakalelwa ngayo kunye noko akufunayo, azibone ngeso lengqondo nosana emathangeni akhe nakubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla.
Abasetyhini bahlala bebathanda abantwana. Uninzi lwethu lunamandla okuba novelwano, sinovakalelo ngakumbi kwaye sinovakalelo, nangona kunjalo, ayingabo bonke abantu basetyhini abanomnqweno wokwazi ukuba buyintoni ubumama okanye bayathandabuza. Masazi ukuba zeziphi izizathu ezibangela ukungaqiniseki kwezinye zazo.
Ukuba ngumama, ngaphandle kokuthandabuza, sesinye sezigqibo ezibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bomfazi. Njengomgaqo jikelele, abantu Bacinga ukuba ngento yokuba ungumfazi sele kufuneka ube ngumama okanye ubunqwenela. Nangona kunjalo, wonke umntu wasetyhini wahlukile kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo iyahlonitshwa ngokupheleleyo ukuba ulinganisa loo nto inokwenzeka kwaye ajonge ukuba olo tshintsho luzakumonwabisa okanye cha.
Ebomini umntu makenze into esekwe kwinto aqondayo ukuba uzonikela ngayo hayi kuluntu ekufanele ukuba lusekwe njengesiqhelo. Inkqubo ye- Ukulinganisa izinto ezinje ngoxanduva, ixesha kunye nokuzinikezela okufunwa ngumntwana ngalo mzuzu aphila ngawo, kunokukhokelela ekukhetheni isigqibo esinye okanye esinye. Ukongeza koku, ayingabo bonke abantu ababhinqileyo abaneso siko lokuya koomama ngaphandle kwento ekholelwayo, inyani kukuba abasetyhini babi kakhulu kunamadoda.
Izinto ezinokuqwalaselwa
Ingcamango yokuba yonke into iya kutshintsha, nangona abo bathi ngenye indlela, iyayikhathaza intloko yowesifazane.
Umfazi kufuneka akhethe ukuba ngumama kuba efuna njalo, kuba uziva eso sidingo kuye hayi kuba enyanzelwe. Ungumama ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, ungabathanda abantwana (kodwa umntwana ayisiyo ipaki kunye nokuthambisa), kuba ufuna ukwazi uvakalelo, kuba ufuna ukukhatshwa kunye / okanye wenze usapho kunye okanye ngaphandle kweqabane ... Kodwa ngakumbi kuba ufuna ukuzinikela ngokwakho kwinto entsha kwaye umthande ngokungenamthetho. Amaxesha amaninzi inyani yokuba usapho kunye nabahlobo bahlala bebuza xa umntwana enoxinzelelo kwaye enyanzelekile.
Uluvo lokuba yonke into iya kutshintsha, ngaphandle kwabo bathi ngenye indlela, iyayikhathaza intloko yomfazi, kwaye kufuneka ayazi kakuhle. Umntu onendlela yesiqhelo yakhe kunye nendlela yakhe yokuphila ezenza bazive bekhululekile akanalo ixesha elaneleyo woyisiwe kukuba umntu exhomekeke kuye ngokupheleleyo kwaye akafuni kubotshwaNgokusengqiqweni, awuyi kuziva unqwenela ukubheja kwelo nqanaba.
Ngokumalunga nomba womsebenzi, uninzi lwabasetyhini ngokuqondakalayo lubeka phambili kuxanduva lwabo lobungcali. Ngezikhundla zoxanduva olukhulu kunye neminqweno yokukhula okanye ukunyuka, cinga ukushiya, ukunciphisa iiyure zomsebenzi okanye ezinye iinguqu, ayikufanelanga oko kwaye xa kufikwa kubunzima, inqanaba lomntu ngamnye liyongamela indima kamama. Kwaye ngokucacileyo uwunciphisa umsebenzi wakho wobungcali kuba usebenza njengomama iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, ubuncinci iminyaka yokuqala, ngendlela enzima ngakumbi.
Ukuzonwabisa, inkululeko, iminqweno emincinci ebandakanya indleko zoqoqosho ..., yiya ngasemva. Umfazi, ukuba uba ngumama, uyeke ukuba yedwa abe lusana kunye nesiqu sakhe, kwaye ukuba kukho iqabane, eli lihlala liye kwindawo yesithathu. Kwimeko yokuba ngumama, uxanduva kunye nokuvuthwa kufuneka kugxilwe, akukho maxesha okukhathazeka okanye ukuphosa itawuli. Usana luxhomekeke kuwe nakwimidlalo yakho. Oomama abanakutsho, ndiyeke kwaye kugqityiwe, ukuba nosana akusebenzi.
Umfazi, ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumama ngenene, akazukuma kwabakhubazekileyo.
Umfazi kufuneka acinge malunga nendlela avakalelwa ngayo kunye noko akufunayo, azibone ngeso lengqondo nosana emathangeni akhe nakubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla. Usana alunabuthongo, ukutya, ukutshintsha amanabukeni, ukukhala, izicelo, umsindo, uxinzelelo, uloyiko, amathandabuzo ...Kuya kufuneka uthathe izigqibo ongakhange uziqwalasele ngaphambili. Kuya kufuneka ujonge umdla womnye uwonke kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokusebenzisa intuition yakho kwiimeko ezininzi.
Ewe, ngengqondo yomfazi ikwadlulisa konke okuhle nokuhle okukuzisayo. Umntwana uyinto yonke. Umsebenzi kunye nokulwa, kodwa luthando. Xa ngaphambi kokuba kucingelwe ukuziva into ethile ngezinto, amaphupha awalangazelela, umhla wokuba ngumama ufumana ukubonakala okukhohlisayo. Indlela oziva ngayo ngomntwana idlula yonke into. Yonke into esiyenzayo inomvuzo ngokujongwa okanye ngokwanga.
Xa uziva ubizo lokuba ngumama, xa ufuna ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into, awufumani miqobo okanye izizathu. Ndiyayiqonda ke leyo umfazi, ukuba ngenene ufuna ukuba ngumama, akayi kuma kwabakhubazekileyo. Yonke into kukuzilungiselela ngokwengqondo, nangona kunokuba nzima ekuqaleni, nangona kunjalo, kuyenzeka. Oko kwathethi, akunakukhethwa kwaye akunakugxeka. Sonke sinezinto eziphambili kuthi, kwaye phakathi kwazo akufuneki sibe ngumama. Ukuba ngumama ayisosenzo somzimba kuphela.
Uxinzelelo kwezentlalo, iwotshi yebhayoloji edlala ngokuchasene, ukunqongophala kozinzo kwezezimali, ukunqongophala kweqabane (kwabo bamele isithintelo), umthamo wonyamezelo, uthando kunye nonxibelelwano ..., uxinzelelo kunye nomthwalo weemvakalelo okuthetha ukuba ... Zonke izinto ukuba umfazi ahlalutye phambi kokuba ngumama. Oko kufuneka unikezele, abantu abaninzi abafanelekanga.
Ukusukela kudala, ipowusta yamandla yayixhonywe kuthi ngayo yonke into kwaye siyenze ngokugqibeleleyo. Namhlanje kugqityiwe. Siyazi ukuba ngomntwana awukwazi kwaye akufuneki wenze yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo nokuba uwedwa. Umntwana uthatha ixesha, kufuneka ucele uncedo kwaye umthume.
Ukuba unamathandabuzo kwaye kufuneka uthethe kwaye umanyelwe, ugqirha wezengqondo unokufumana inkxaso. Ngalo mzobo wobugcisa, unokwenza isigqibo kwaye ubeke uloyiko okanye ukungazithembi ecaleni kwakho. Ngaphandle kwazo zonke ezi zimvo, isigqibo sokugqibela esenziwa ngumfazi siyakuba sesichanekileyo.