Abantwana abangalawulekiyo bayinto enye ngaphezulu kwentloko enye, ukuphelelwa lithemba amaxesha ngamaxesha kunye nokungakwazi ukuzimela ngokwakho. Iindibano abazali abaninzi bakufumanisa kunzima ukufumana uxolo lwengqondo. Aba bantwana bafuna ukutsala umdla kwaye indlela abaziphethe ngayo isebenza ngolu hlobo, abazali bade baphulukane nesazisi sabo ngokutsalwa kukuziphatha kwabo.
Inkwenkwe eyonwabileyo uyakonwabela ukunxibelelana, ukudlala kunye nokufumanisa umhlaba ngendlela yakhe, umntwana ngokwemvelo ukuba akaphumli, akalawuleki. Kodwa le meko ibangela ukuba uninzi lwabazali luphelelwe ngumonde, ludla amandla abo, uxinzelelo kwaye kukho namaxesha esingaziyo ukuwahambisa ngokuchanekileyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto thina njengabazali kufuneka sifune olo xolo, siqwalasele ukuba impilo yethu nayo ibaluleke ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into.
Unokulufumana njani uxolo lwengqondo?
Kusisiseko zama ukufumana uxolo lwengqondo. Abantwana banesakhono esikhulu sokubamba imeko yabazali babo, ke Kuyacetyiswa ukuba babenze basibone siphumle kwaye ngaphandle koxinzelelo. Ukuba umntwana wakho akalawuleki kwaye uthatha imood kunye noxinzelelo oko kuthetha ukuba ngumzekelo.
Sihlengahlengisa ubomi bethu kwisingqisho nakwiishedyuli zabantwana bethu Kwaye xa bengenakho ukuyeka balinciphise elo xesha kwindawo encinci kuthi. Ukungenisa ixesha lethu akufani nokwenziwa kakubi, kodwa kananjalo kufuneka sizifumanele ixesha. Kufuneka fumanisa amaxesha okusiphumza kwaye sijonge thina.
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, naluphi na uxolo lwengqondo olunokuthuthuzela abazali lunokuba sendleleni yabo yokufundisa nokwamkela indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Siya kukhululeka ngakumbi ukuba ngokuziphatha kwabo sibayeka bazimele ngakumbi ngezenzo zabo. Asinakuhlala sincanyathiselwe kubo kwaye sivavanye indlela abaziphatha ngayo. Kufanelekile ukuba ubakhulule ngakumbi, kodwa rhoqo ngendlela enoxanduva, ebonisa ukuba izenzo zabo zinokuba neziphumo.
Kuya kufuneka uvumele abantwana badlale kakhulu kwaye bakhulule amandla abo, Kulungile ukujonga izinto eziza kuwe kwaye ezonwabisa njengomthombo wevalufa yakho yokubaleka. Khangela ukuba zeziphi izinto zokudlala abazithanda kakhulu kwaye yiyo loo nto bengayi kuxhomekeka kubazali babo.
Ukufumana ixesha lakho: Imizuzu eyi-15 okanye imizuzu engama-20, okanye iyure, yanele ukukwazi ukunqamla kwaye uphumle ngeli xesha, yonke imihla. Unokuba kunye neselfowuni yakho, okanye uthathe uhambo, ubuye ekhaya emva kwexesha, wenze imithambo okanye ulunge kufunda ukucamngca. Iya kuba yimisebenzi eya kuhamba nawe kwaye iya kukwenza uzive umhle, sukuyeka ukujonga loo mizuzu.
Funda ukucela uncedo kwabanye. Okwangoku sinokuthetha malunga notata okanye umama, kodwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko kuqinisekile ukuba omnye wabo uthwele owona mthwalo mkhulu. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba umenze abe nobunzima obulinganayo kumntu ofanayo ngalo lonke ixesha. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukucela uncedo, kuba iyakuba yintuthuzelo enkulu ukulahla ubhaka omkhulu. Amandla akho akunyanzelekanga ukuba angajongelwa phantsi, kungenjalo uya kuphelela ekuphulukaneni nawo.
Gcina umkhwa ukuze yonke into icwangciswe ngokulula. Abantwana bangaqhubeka nokukhulula amandla abo apheleleyo kwaye baya kukushiya isithuba sokucwangcisa yonke into onokuyifuna ngelo xesha. Okwangoku, kufanele ukuba kuqatshelwe ukuba abo kubalulekile ukumakisha loo maxesha ngabazali hayi abantwana. Ngale ndlela yonke into iya kuba yinto yesiqhelo kwaye ke ikwazi ukufumana ikhefu elincinci ukuze sikwazi ukuvuselela amandla ethu. Kule khonkco ungabona amanye amaqhinga abanye abazali abawasebenzisayo ukusombulula ngcono loo mizuzu ingqongqo.