Inokuba yinto enomdla kakhulu ukubona abantwana xa babelane ngenkampani kunye neemvakalelo zabo nomntu wesini sakho esahlukileyo. Kodwa ngaphaya kwayo yonke le nto kunokuba yinto engaqhelekanga ngakumbi xa siyibona Unyana wethu oneminyaka eli-9 uthandana. Amathandabuzo kunye nemibuzo emininzi inokwenziwa ... ngaba uya kuba semathandweni ngenene?
Ngokwenene abantwana nabo baneemvakalelo zabo kwaye bathandana ngokwenene. Phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 ukuya kwesi-5 baziva uthando lokwenene kwaye bethandana nabazali babo. Isakhiwo se-Oedipus siyichaza ngolu hlobo, apho umntwana angathandana nonina kwaye akhuphisane noyise. Kuyinyani apho sinokuyibona khona ukukhula njani kwesazisi sakho.
Ngaba abantwana bayathandana?
Impendulo nguewe. Abantwana banokuwa eluthandweni kwaye baphume eluthandweni nje kanjalo. Asinakuxoxa ngeemvakalelo zakho, kodwa ukuba kufuneka utsaliwe kwaye uthandane, unako. Akukho mathandabuzo ukuba mhlawumbi Uthando lwakhe alunamsebenzi, apho ngenye imini bathi banesithandwa okanye intombi kwaye ngengomso abasenanto.
Abantwana bathandana nabahlobo babo abasenyongweni, abo bafunda nabo, okanye Ngubani owabelana naye ngexesha kunye neeyure zokudlala. Kuqhelekile ukuva unyana wakho esithi unesoka okanye intombi kwaye kungenxa yokuba bayamthanda uziva ngathi uncamathiselo oluncinci.
Uya kuqaphela ukuba kumaxesha amaninzi bayathanda ukwenza imizobo yeentliziyo okanye ubhale imiyalezo ukuba zibanike abahlobo babo, ngomyalezo oqhelekileyo wentabatheko. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba wothuke phambi kwesimo esinje, abazali kufuneka bazole ukusukela oko ngoku abanamava kwaye ziyahluka mihla le.
Ngaba uneminyaka eli-9 ubudala ngokwenene uthando?
Kwiminyaka 9 abantwana sele baqala ukuthandana ngokwahlukileyo. Bakwinqanaba leemvakalelo ezinzulu, apho ubuhlobo babo buphawulwa ngakumbi ngokunikwa imbalelwano. Uthando luqala ngobuhlobo obukhulu Kwaye bagqibela ngokujonga ukuba ubudlelwane obunomdla bunamandla ngakumbi.
Inokuba yimeko enzima ukuhlalutya kwaye ibe neentloni ngakumbi xa umntwana ezithethelela ngokuchasene neemvakalelo zakhe kwaye ujika athi uyathandana ngokwenene Ngenxa yale nyani, akufuneki ungcikive okanye ubaxe izinto xa ungakholiswa ngaphambi kokugqitha. Abantwana bafuna ukuqonda kunye nenkxaso kwimeko enjalo, kuyinto entle ukuva ukuba umntwana akazive eneentloni kwaye ufuna ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakhe nabazali.
Bamele ukuxhalaba nini abazali?
Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana uziva enomtsalane kwaye kunjalo ethe phithi yile meko. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uyathandana kwaye akabuyiswanga, unakho yenza isijwili kwaye udakumbe Ndijongene nale nyani kwaye khange ndibenexesha elimnandi kakhulu. Unxibelelwano nenkxaso lelona nyathelo lilungileyo lokukhuthaza umntwana wakho.
Amanye amaxesha exhala elikhulu angabakho nini Uye wathandana nomntu omdala kakhulu. Sithetha ngobuhlobo bothando nomntu onaye Iminyaka emi-4 okanye emi-5 ubudala, apho lo mahluko weminyaka ubalulekile. Umntu omdala kakhulu unokudlulisa amaxabiso angekhoyo okanye waphula ubumsulwa bomntwana.
Iingcebiso ngokuqotywa kwabantwana
Kuya kufuneka siyiqhelanise nale meko. Ngumzuzu onokuphuhliswa nakweliphi na inqanaba lokukhula kwaye ke yinxalenye yokukhula kwakho ngokweemvakalelo. Akukho bahlekise, bahleke okanye bagxeke imeko, kuba iyinxalenye yokuseka iibhondi ezichaphazelekayo.
Kuya kufuneka uyihloniphe imeko yabo, Ewe, mhlawumbi luthando lwakho lokuqala kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu. Kuya kuba yinyani ukuba uya kukhumbula ubomi bakhe bonke. Yiyo loo nto abazali banokwabelana ngamava abo ukuba bayabakhumbula, ukuze yiva uvelwano nokusondela.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungabaleli ukuba bathandane, okanye wohlwaye ngenxa yento enjalo. Isenokungasebenzi kakuhle ekudibaniseni ubudlelwane bakho bexesha elizayo, njengoko Ndiza kusikhumbula ngakumbi isohlwayo kunye nesithintelo ngaphezu kwesithandwa sakho okanye intombi yakho.
Ke ngoko, ukuthandana yinto ekhoyo ebantwaneni, kulutsha nakubantu abadala. Yimeko engabaleki nabani na nakwiminyaka eyahlukeneyo. Ukuze uvumele le mvakalelo ukuba ikhule, kuya kufuneka hlonipha umntwana wakho kule meko. Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi ngesi sihloko, ungafunda "Ungabachazela njani abantwana ukuba yintoni uthando"