Abantwana abaninzi basebenzisa intelekelelo yabo ukuze benze umhlobo wentelekelelo, umntu ohlala ekunye nabo nabanokuthembela kuye ngamaxesha onke. Abahlobo abacingayo bakhapha abantwana abaninzi, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, oku kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo. Kubazali, ukufumanisa ukuba umntwana wabo unomhlobo ongabonakaliyo kunokuba ngunobangela wokukhathazeka.
Le yinto esengqiqweni ngokupheleleyo, abazali boyika yonke into engaziwayo kunye nantoni na enokuchaphazela uphuhliso olufanelekileyo lwabantwana babo. Kodwa njengoko besitshilo, Kwiimeko ezininzi kuqhelekile. oko kuya kunyamalala ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umntwana ejika iminyaka eyi-7 okanye eyi-8 ubudala, umhlobo ongabonakaliyo udla ngokunyamalala ngendlela afika ngayo, ngaphandle kokudala umonakalo kumntwana.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ilungile, kufuneka uqaphele umntwana wakho kunye naluphi na utshintsho kwindlela aziphatha ngayo emva kokufika komhlobo wakhe ongabonakaliyo.
Ngaba ndifanele ndizikhathaze ngomhlobo ongabonakaliyo womntwana wam?
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwemi-3 ubudala, yila abalinganiswa abacingelwayo ababanceda bakhule. Kule minyaka, ingcamango yabancinci ayinasiphelo kwaye akufanele ukhathazeke ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ulawule ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kwindawo yakhe yentlalo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umhlobo wakhe wentelekelelo ukhuthaza ukuba abe yedwa kwabanye abantwana, yaye oku kunokubangela iingxaki ezithile.
Njengotata okanye umama, akufanele uthintele umntwana wakho ekubeni nomhlobo wentelekelelo, ekubeni akayi kuqonda kwaye oku kunokuba sisizathu sokuphendula okungalunganga kumntwana. Kufuneka nje ujonge ngononophelo ukuziphatha kwabo, kodwa uvumele umntwana wakho abe nendawo yakhe kwaye ngaphandle kokuphazamisa ubumfihlo bakhe.
Lawula ixesha olichitha kunye naloo mlinganiswa wentelekelelo kunye neencoko onokuba nazo kunye naye. Ke, uya kuba nakho ukufumanisa ukuba loo mhlobo ulungile okanye ukuba, ngokuchaseneyo, Luphawu olubi olubonisa ingxaki ethile. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana uzimele yedwa, ukhetha ukuhlala ekhaya ukuze adlale nomhlobo wakhe ongabonakaliyo endaweni yokuphuma ukuya kudlala nabanye abantwana, uya kuhoxiswa ngakumbi, abonakale enobudlova okanye ehlisa ukusebenza kwakhe kwezemfundo, qhagamshelana nochwepheshe.