Kwinkulungwane yama-XNUMX, ngumcimbi ngelishwa osenokubakhathaza abanye abazali. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukoyika ukuba bayasokola kubundlongondlongo esibubonile usapho, abahlobo, abantu esibaziyo kunye nabantu esibathandayo ngokubanzi besokola. Sisenalo ucalucalulo oluninzi malunga nobufanasini kunye nokulalana kwabantu besini esinye, ngokwamkelwa ngokwenkcubeko, eziyintsomi kuphela.
Siza kuzama ukucacisa apha ngezantsi izizathu zokuba kutheni ungafanele umphathe ngendlela eyahlukileyo umntwana wakho emva kokwazi le meko, ezelwe kuye, kanye njengokuba kunjalo nakwabanye abantu.
Ubungqingili kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesini kunye nembali
Ngokuchasene noko unokucinga ekuqaleni, ubufanasini bukho kwindalo. Zininzi izifundo zenzululwazi ezibonisa indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesini kuzo zonke iintlobo ezifundwayo. Kukho neenkcazo kwezi zifundo eziqaqambisa i-anecdote yokuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda abuzange buchongwe njengokwabelana ngesondo, kodwa endaweni yolawulo. Into enokwenzeka ngenxa yokungazi okanye ngenxa yokoyika ukuhlekwa ngabantu osebenza nabo.
Enye into eyenzeka kwindalo kukudibana kwabantu besini esinyeKukho iintlobo ezithile ezitshintsha isini, nokuba yimbonakalo okanye iyonke, isini. Umzekelo unokuba yintlanzi ehlekisayo, intlanzi encinci entle edlala isimilo seNemo, inako ukutshintsha isini.
Ewe ubungqingili kunye nokulalana kwabantu besini esinye sele zikhona kwaye ziya kuhlala zikhona, kuba ngokwendalo sizizilwanyana. Kuyinyani ukuba amandla okuqiqa kufuneka abekhona kuthi, angaboniswanga kwizilwanyana. Nangona kunjalo, ubukrelekrele kunye nesizathu asinanto yakwenza nemeko yesini nganye nganye.
Homophobia, transphobia kunye nomkhethe
I-Homophobia kunye ne-transphobia yinkcazo ngokwentiyo okanye ukwaliwa kobufanasini, abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye kwaye ngenxa yoko ngabantu abathandana besisini esinye kunye nabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye ngokulandelelana. Njengazo zonke i-phobias, kukhatywa okuqala kuloyiko lwento engaziwayo.
Olu loyiko luphenjelelwa lucalucalulo kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba uloyiko kunye nokugatywa kusekwe kwizigwebo malunga nezinto ezingaqondakaliyo kakhulu. Olona hlaselo luqhelekileyo kubantu abathandana nabantu abathandana besisini esinye kunye ne-transphobic kukuba amakhwenkwe aneempawu zobufazi okanye zobudoda, amantombazana, amiselwe ukuba adlale indima yesini sesinye isini, njl. Zonke ezi ziintsomi, azinyani.
Ukuqala, nika indima yesini, sele benomkhethe, kwaye kunokuba yingozi emntwaneni wakho. Intombazana ingadlala ibhola ekhatywayo ngaphandle kokuthandana okanye isini esahlukileyo, iyayithanda ibhola ekhatywayo. Inkwenkwe ingadlala ngoonodoli kwaye ithetha ukuba iya kuba ngutata obalaseleyo, hayi ngenxa yokuba ilifanasini okanye kuba iziva ngathi ingumfazi.
Ucalucalulo lusoloko luyingozi ebantwaneni bethu, nokuba abanye bayazisebenzisa kubantwana bethu, okanye ukuba abantwana bethu bazisebenzisa kwabanye.
Ukuba umntwana akayongqingili okanye athande ngokwesini kwaye angqongwe ngumkhethe, unokubonisa isimilo esihlasela abo, ngenxa yophuhliso lwephobia kwaye oku kuyingozi kuye. Ukuba umntwana ulifanasini okanye uyabelana ngesondo kunye kwaye ujikelezwe lucalucalulo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kubasebenzisa kwabanye nakuye, onakalise ukuzithemba kwakhe kwimida engalindelekanga.
Ke ngoko, singatsho ukuba kuwo omabini amacala umkhethe uyingozi ngokulinganayo.
Indlela esimele senze ngayo thina bazali kule meko
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba masifundise abantwana bethu besebancinci ngokwahluka ngokwesini. Akukho mfuneko yokuba sibanike iinkcukacha, kodwa kunokuba sichaze inyani kubo ngeyona ndlela ilula kwaye yendalo. Njengoko besesitshilo, u-homophobia kunye ne-transphobia isekwe kukoyika into engaziwayo. Okukhona sifundisa iyantlukwano, kuncipha amathuba okuba kubekho ucalucalulo olunokulondla.
Kuya kufuneka uchaze ukuba uthando luthando kwaye wonke umntu kufuneka aphile ngokwendlela avakalelwa ngayo. Ukuba inkwenkwe iyayithanda intombazana okanye enye inkwenkwe ngendlela efanayo, ukuba kukho amakhwenkwe azive ebhetele ukuba ngamantombazana kunye namantombazana athanda ukuba yinkwenkwe ngakumbi, akukho nto yenzekayo.
Ngaphezu koko, akufuneki udibanise idrama xa ufumanisa ngemeko yabo, nangona kunjalo ufumanisa. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngayo, ayisosigulo sengqondo, kwaye ayisiyomzimba, ayisosiphene. Unyana wakho wahlukile kuwe, ufana nomntu onobizo njengemvumi, utitshala okanye injineli, akukho nto iyenye.
Akukho sidingo sokukhathazeka malunga nomhlaba ongaphandle, ngomonakalo oya kukwenzela wona Ngethuba nje beziva bexhaswa ekhaya, akukho nto ngaphandle kwemicimbi. Abanakukwenzakalisa ngakumbi kunokuba ubuya kwenza ngenxa yeembono zakho zopolitiko, okanye ngenxa yenkolo yakho, okanye ngenxa yomsebenzi oqondwayo omncinci, njl.