Ukhuliswe ngabantwana ukhangela ikamva labo lebhayoloji

Ukulahlwa ngumzali sisilonda esinzima sokuphola, nangona unothando nenkathalo yabanye. Masifumanise ukuba yintoni ebangela abantwana abalahliweyo nabamkelweyo ukuba bafune iingcambu zabo kwaye badibane nabazali babo bokwenyama.

Utata akayifaki eyakhe indima kwindima yemfuza, utata ngulowo uzilolonga kwaye ukhona ngawo onke amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, kumaxesha amaninzi igazi kunye uncamathiselo badlale indima ebalulekileyo ebantwaneni. Kuza ixesha ebomini apho kuya kufuneka ufumane iimpendulo kwindawo yakho kunye nakusapho lwakho olukuzalwa. Kuya kufuneka womelele ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye ube nezimvo ezicace gca zokwenza isigqibo esibalulekileyo kwinto eza kuba lutshintsho olukhulu ebomini kwakhona.

Xa abazali begqiba kwelokuba balahle umntwana wabo, kungenxa yemali, ukungabikho kozinzo ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukukhula, uloyiko, iingxaki zosapho ..., inkqubo yokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo iqala, kokubini kubazali nakumntwana. Unyana uswele uncamathiselo lwegazi likanina kunye noyise kwasekuzalweni. Oncamathiselo uthanda ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane obunempilo kunye nokuzinza kuluntu, ukuzithemba kunye nokhuseleko.

Abantwana abashiyiweyo kwaye kwixa elizayo kufuneka bafumane iimpendulo kwaye bazane, babona ukukhangela njengento ekhokelela kwinkululeko. "Ukwazi" kuya kuthetha ukuqonda iimeko ezininzi, iintshukumo, iimpawu okanye imikhwa yobuqu. Intsapho eyamkelekileyo kufuneka iququzelele inkqubo kwaye isebenzisane ukuba umntwana ucela kwaye unqwenela. Ngamaxesha amaninzi, abantwana, ngenxa yokoyika ukwenzakalisa abazali babo ababakhulisayo, bathi cwaka, bakwenza oko ngokufihlakeleyo okanye emva kokubhubha kwabo.

Ukukhangela ixesha elidlulileyo

Akululanga ukufumana iimpendulo, nangona kunjalo, lilungelo labantu abamkelweyo kwaye bangazenzela ngokwabo okoko beyithathela ingqalelo. Ukhuliswe ngabantwana kufuneka bazi, bagcwalise izikhewu kwaye bavale isahluko sexesha elidlulileyo umntu wasemzini. Abantwana abakhuliswe ngabanye abantu baya kuba nakho ukuqhubela phambili ekukhuleni kwesazisi sabo, xa becinga kwaye besamkela ukuba bayinxalenye yeentsapho ezimbini, nangona ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ipesenti abafuna ukuthatha ngayo icala sele ingumba ophambili womntu ophambili.

1. Yazi inyaniso, iimpendulo: Abo baphumileyo ekubeni ngamalungu osapho ngendlela engenantlonelo yokungena kwenye, baziva ngathi kuye kwakho ikhefu kwimbali yabo kwaye kufuneka bafumane izizathu, ukuze baphelise amathandabuzo kwaye baqinisekise ukuba abanatyala. Uninzi lwabantwana luthwele ubunzima bokuba netyala kwaye baziva ngathi basilele njengabantwana, ukuba bebengathandwa kwaye bengafanelanga olo thando. Kukulungele ukuthetha nokuchaza yonke into, ngendlela ecothayo neqondakalayo. Akukho mntu unokwakha ubomi kunye nekamva kwinto engaziwayo kwaye malunga nokushiyeka okukhoyo.
2. Ukufezekisa isazisi: Abantu abajikeleze umntwana, nokuba lolusapho ngokwendalo okanye ngokwamkela, banegalelo kumaxabiso kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla kwaye benza ubuwena kunye nenyani. Umntwana kufuneka oyise ukulahlwa nangona onwabile kwaye ethandwa kusapho lwakhe olutsha. Ukuba ivela kolunye usapho, idinga ixesha lokuzithemba kunye nokuncamathisela kumalungu amatsha.
3. Ukoyika ukulahlwa: Umntwana oshiywe ngabazali, baphila noloyiko lokubandezeleka kwakhona kwaye bakholelwa ukuba kufanelekile. Yeyabantu abanesibindi, abanomdla, abaphaphileyo nabasempilweni abafuna ukwazi ngakumbi kwaye boyike ukuziva bekhathazekile. Bobabini umzali wendalo kunye nomntwana kufuneka baziqonde iindima ezintsha, isikhundla kunye neencoko ezininzi kunye nokuzithemba ekuthetheni, baxoxe kwaye babuze ngaphandle koloyiko, uxinzelelo okanye iitabo.
4. Unxibelelwano: Kuyacetyiswa ukuba unyaniseke emntwaneni, uphendule inyani, ungaphephi ... Kufanelekile kubazali bemvelo beka amagama kunye nezixhobo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lomntwana. Kuya kufuneka ifundwe kwaye isebenze nabantwana besebancinci, kwanonyango. Ebusheni, yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi kwaye ukukhangela ubuni bakho ngumba ophambili kwaye ubiza kakhulu. Xa bebancinci bafuna ukwazi kwaye abekho kwelo nqanaba libalulekileyo ligcwele amahla ndinyuka kunye nohlaziyo lwehomoni, kungoko banokuchazelwa kancinci kancinci, mababuze, babonisane, bafumane, ngaphandle kokuzikhusela ...
5. Isiseko esikhuselekileyo kunye neengcambu: Xa umntwana eziva eyinxalenye yosapho lokumkhulisa ngokungathi ibinguye yedwa kwaye Xa usamkela ngaphandle komsindo kwaye ngokuzolileyo, imeko yakho ingaqhubeka ubomi bakho obonwabisayo. Xa umntwana eqhubeka nobunzima obunzima ngasemva, uya kuhlala emile kwaye angakwazi ukutyhila iphepha, ehlala ezihlukumeza kwaye ezibuza ukuba kutheni. Ukuba abazali bakho, usapho lwakho lokukhulisa alubeki mqobo, okanye luzive lwahlukene okanye okwesibini, ngokudibeneyo ninokuguquka, nihloniphane kwaye nithandane ngakumbi. Kwiimeko ezinzima kwaye ezinzima, kuyanceda ukuma uqinile kwaye ukhuselekile. Ubunzima kunye nomnqweno wokulwa nolwazi kwenza yonke into ibe nokwenzeka.

Xa umntwana amkelwe njengesiqhelo elidlulileyo liza elitsha familia. Ubhaka womntwana ufika ulayishwe luloyiko, imibuzo ..., kunye Yonke into kufuneka yabelwe ngamalungu akufutshane nawe. Umntwana akufuneki azive elilolo, usesichengeni kakhulu kwaye kufuneka azimisele ngokwasemoyeni kwaye azive ekhuselekile kubazali bakhe abamamkelayo. Isidingo sokugcwalisa iimpendulo ezingenanto sinamandla kakhulu ukuze siguquke ngokwengqondo.