Kukho iintsuku xa uziva unesidingo sokubaleka, unqamle iiyure ezimbalwa kwaye uphume kwi-monotony.
Into yokuqala ethi qatha ezingqondweni zethu xa sisiva iindaba zomama oshiya abantwana bakhe kukuba ngumama ombi kwaye akafanelanga iota yokuqonda. Makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi izizathu ezinokubangela ukuba athathe isigqibo esinzima.
Kunzima kwincoko malunga nokushiywa komama emntwaneni wakhe ukuba angatsho into eyoyikisayo! Anganakho ukuba nakho! Ewe, ngelishwa banako. Zininzi izinto ezinokubangela imeko, imfundo engalunganga, ngakumbi kwixabiso, ubudala kunye nokuswela ukukhula, uqoqosho oluncinci okanye ukungabikho kwaphela, ukungaziva ulungile, ukuba nexhala nokuba wedwa. Kukho oomama abathi, emva kokuba bekhona, bahlupheke Ukudakumba emva kokubeleka kunye nabanye abebenjalo ngesenzo sobundlobongela ...Imeko yosapho kunye nokusingqongileyo apho bahlala khona banokunika izitshixo zesenzo esenziweyo.
Kulabo kuthi abangoomama, kubonakala kungenakwenzeka ukushiya umntwana, ngaphandle kobunzima obukhoyo. Kunjalo kukho iintsuku xa uziva ufuna ukubaleka, nqamula iiyure ezimbalwa kwaye uphume kwi-monotony, kodwa kuyenzeka ukuba xa uchitha iyure okanye ezimbini ungabubonanga ubuso bosana lwakho, ulunuka kwaye ulwola, uziva ungenanto kwaye ungaphelelanga. Kule meko unxibelelwano alunakuphikwa.
Kuluntu esihlala kulo, nolusengumbono onzulu, kusengqiqweni ukuva ukuba utata umkile kuba ebedinwe kakhulu, kunalowo wayenza umama. Kubawo sitsho sikhangele izizathu. Omabini la matyala afanele ukugxekwa. Bazali, xa kukho isibini esizise umntwana emhlabeni, ngabantu ababini abazimeleyo, uxanduva lolwabo kwaye xa kusiziwa kuphelelwa lithemba, bobabini ngabo bafuna ukubaleka.
Xa ungumama
Xa ungumama uyatshintsha kwaye uxabise izinto ongazange uzibone ngaphambili. Xa uba ngumama kufuneka uzame kwaye uphucule imihla ngemihla. Ukuba ngumama olungileyo akuyiyo into engenayo kwimfuza. Uyalixabisa ixesha elidlulileyo olichithe ekuzonwabiseni nasekuzoliseni kwaye ude ulilangazelele ngamaxesha amaninzi. Xa usithi udikiwe liqabane lakho, ngoku awunalo nexesha lokuhlala phantsi. Inqaku loxanduva kunye nokuxhomekeka oziva uphezulu kwaye ukuba awomelelanga kunokukutya.
Okwangoku xa ubambe umntwana wakho ezingalweni zakho uziva ubophelelwano, uziva ngathi yinxalenye yakho, kodwa Uyazibona ungaphandle komlinganiso kwaye ngokwasemphefumlweni ungaziboni okanye ungaziboni ukulungele olo xanduva. Kwezinye iimeko, ukulahlwa kukhethwa nokuba kukhethwe okona kulungileyo emntwaneni. Ngequbuliso ungumama kwaye konke oku kungentla kugqityiwe. Kuya kufuneka uthathe kwaye uqonde ukuba kufuneka uzilolonge kwaye wenze izinto wedwa kwaye ukuze umntwana wakho axhamle. Kumntu ongakulungelanga ngokwasemphefumlweni, inokuba ngumothuko.
Un ubawoUmzekelo, kwiimeko ezininzi, kuthatha ixesha elide ukwamkela imeko entsha. Uyayiqonda into yokuba ubungutata xa ubona indlela obutshintsha ngayo ubomi bakho, xa iqabane lakho litshintshile. Ukuzivocavoca imihla ngemihla, kunika imikhondo yokuba ikamva liza kuba njani. Indima katata kunye nomama kufuneka ichazwe ngokungqongqo ukuze bangazilimazi okanye bangayenzeli omncinci. Umntwana ujonga abazali bakhe kwaye athathe amanyathelo kunye neenkolelo zabo. Ngokwenene, umntwana oziva elahliwe ngumama wakhe uya kudinga uncedo oluninzi ukumelana nayo.
Kukuthini ukulahlwa komntwana?
Nabani na ongayiyo kwaye anike inkxaso ngokwasemphefumlweni, ukuthanda okanye ukukhapha umntwana wabo naye uyamshiya.
Ukuba umntu ophethe umntwana, kule meko ngumama, uyayeka ukumkhathalela nokumnika inkathalo eyimfuneko, uyamshiya. Ngokwesiqhelo siyayinxibelelanisa nokushiya ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa inokuba neziphumo ezingokwengqondo. Utata okanye umama ongamkhathaleliyo kwaye angamniki inkxaso yenkxaso, ukuthanda okanye ukuhamba naye, naye uyamshiya.
Iindidi zokulahlwa, ziqala ngokushiya emnyango wesibhedlele, nommelwane kwaye ungamnxibelelanisi ixesha elide, ungayi kuye, engabaniki kutya okanye uthando ixesha elide, engakhathazeki malunga nokuba ikhona into ayifunayo, ungamndwendweli apho akhoyo ... Kunokubakho ukulahlwa okunoxanduva, masithi, xa eshiywe ngenxa yeemeko ezinzima kwindawo ekhuselekileyo kwaye kujongwe ukuba umntwana abe nobomi obungcono, nangona kunjalo umbono kwaye awusebenzi ngokuchasene nomthetho.
Umntwana olahliweyo uya kuba naye ukusilela kothando, ukungazithembi, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, ukuzithoba, ngekhe uzive uvelwano ngokubandezeleka kwabanye, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuziva intiyo okanye inzondo ngonyoko xa ekulahlile, uloyiko kunye namathandabuzo xa kufikwa ekubeni ngutata okanye umama phakathi kwezinye iingxaki zengqondo. Amatyala apho umama ashiya umntwana wakhe kwiindawo abanokufela kuzo zinegazi kwaye zirhabaxa kakhulu, ezinje ngamatyala akutsha nje oomama abaphosa abantwana babo kwizikhongozeli.
Umthetho ngokushiywa komntwana
Iziphumo zomthetho zokulahlwa komntwana ziboniswe kumanqaku angama-229 kunye nama-230 ePenal Code, ngokuvalelwa entolongweni ukusuka kwiinyanga ezi-6 ukuya kwiminyaka emi-4. Ukulahlwa kwabantwana kuchazwa njengolwaphulo-mthetho olubi. Utata, umama okanye umgcini umshiya endaweni enye kwaye angazihoyi njengomkhathaleli. Kwimicimbi yolwaphulo-mthetho, ichazwa njengokulahla ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa inokugubungela imeko yeemvakalelo.
Kukho amazwe apho kulusizi ukuba abo babakhathalelayo babashiye bengenakutya, ukhathalelo lwempilo ..., kwaye nakwabanye, inyani yokuba neenjongo zokuyishiya isohlwayo. Abo bakrokrela ukuba ukushiywa kufuneka baxele imeko kwabasemagunyeni abanobuchule, kumama nakumntwana ongoyena mntu umsulwa nongenatyala.
Izinto ezibangela ukulahlwa komntwana
Izizathu ezikhokelela ekubeni umama ashiye umntwana wakhe, okanye yintoni esemva kwayo, azaziwa.
Kukho izizathu ezichaphazela uqoqosho, impilo yengqondo kamama, uloyiko, ubundlobongela ... Njengoluntu sihlala sigweba ngaphandle kokwazi kwaye ityala ngalinye linendaba emva kwalo. Umama unokuba yedwa ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakhe kunye nokubeleka okulandelayo, ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lwenkxaso. Kwezi meko kulapho ingqondo yomntu idlala amaqhinga kwaye umntu azinziswe kwaye enze ngendlela engeyiyo.
Amabali abantwana abalahliweyo ahlala esiviwa, nangona kunjalo, Izizathu ezikhokelela ekubeni umama enze njalo azaziwa, yintoni esemva kwakhe or ngubani omshiye yedwa. Ukushiywa komntwana kuyinto enkulu kakhulu kwaye kufuneka kuqinisekiswe ukuba impilo-ntle yomntwana yeyiphi na, kodwa ngaphandle kwesi senzo sigwenxa, umntu obenexesha elibi kakhulu akufuneki abethelelwe emnqamlezweni.
- Inqanaba eliphantsi okanye akukho iiklasi.
- Ephantsi inqanaba lezoqoqosho ukuhlangabezana neendleko.
- Ndibe ngu Intombazana elahliweyo okanye ephethwe gadalala.
- Kancinci okanye hayi inkxaso yosapho.
- Uye wahlupheka a udlwengulo.
- Iingxaki zengqondo.
Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka
Kukho iimeko ezinobuzaza ezifuna ungenelelo olukhawulezileyo, kungenjalo zinokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okunobuzaza nokwenzakalisa umntwana. Amanqanaba eHormone ayehla emva kokubeleka kwaye achaphazele ingqondo kamama. Kukho oomama abangamonzakalisiyo umntwana, kodwa bayazenzakalisa, bade bathathe nobomi babo. Umfazi wasemva kokubeleka usenokufuna ukungeniswa esibhedlele ukuba unengxaki yokuxhalaba, ukubona izinto ezingekhoyo okanye ukutshintsha kweemvakalelo.
Phakathi kwabafazi aba-5 ukuya ku-6 kwabali-10 banokufumana uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka. Baziva bexhalabile, abakulungelanga ukuba ngoomama kwaye abazi ukuba, bazithandabuze njani izakhono zabo, baziva bephelile kwaye Uxinzelelo… Esi sibini, ukuba sikhona, kwaye usapho kufuneka luhoye kakhulu, lukhathalele kwaye lukhathazeke ngomama emva kokubeleka. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba unike lonke uncedo olufunekayo kwaye ungamoyisi.
Umama olahla umntwana wakhe uhlala ekude kakhulu nabanye abantu, ukungazithembi, ukungabikho kokuzibophelela, ngokuqinisekileyo inefuthe ... Kumntwana inokuba sisenzo abasikhumbulayo ngobomi babo kwaye sibaphawule kubudlelwane babo bexesha elizayo. Oomama bafuna yonke imihla kunye nomntwana wabo ukomeleza ubudlelwane. Isiqalo sinzima kakhulu, uyamthanda umntu omncinci oza emhlabeni, kodwa awumazi ngokunzulu. Ukwazi, ukubona, ukuziva…, benza izibophelelo kunye nemvakalelo.
Amaxesha amaninzi, umama akafumani ndlela yokuphuma, ngenxa yoko kufuneka ubonise ngononophelo olukhulu ukuba ikhona. Akunamsebenzi ukugweba nokucinga. Oomama abaninzi ngamantombazana abangakwaziyo nokuzikhathalela kwaye banokusilela okukhulu. Bahlala bezala ngaphandle kokukhulelwa okunqwenelekayo okanye ukonwaba kuba ubomi bakhe bujikelezwe ziingxaki. Xa ujongene nemeko ngaphandle komnqweno, uloyiko kunye nokungaqiniseki, ukuba ufikelela kwinjongo, uyayityhafisa, udinwe ungakhange ubone mqondo.
Bandishiye abantwana abayi-3 abangaphantsi kweminyaka eli-10 ubudala ukuba bahambe nomnye kwaye akaboni kwaye akathethi nabo
Umama wabantwana bam uneenyanga ezili-14 ubudala ukuba ndalahla abantwana bam abancinci abayi-3, waya kwesinye isixeko, akathethi nabo ngefowuni kuba kude kube lelo xesha unabo ababhlokileyo, akabathumeli mali yesondlo sabo, akazikhathazi ngempilo yabantwana bakhe ngaphandle kwesikolo, wamkelekile kwaphela, uqhawulo mtshato ndilunikiwe ngaphandle kokutyikitya kwaye kungacelwa ukuba ndinikwe isithintelo esithile ukuze ndingasondeli ebantwaneni bam. Andifuni kubiza imali kuye konke konke Ngaba ikhona into enokwenziwa ngayo
Usibali wam wandishiyela umntwana iminyaka emine. Ndimkhulisile ndimthanda njengonyana wam ngequbuliso wafika wandikhohlisa. Andazi ukuba ndiyibuyise njani ngoba ayinalo ifani kabhuti wam oko ubhuti wam waswelekayo ekuzalweni kwakhe. Unobomi obungazinzanga kakhulu, ndingathanda ukuba umntu andikhokele kwinto endinokuyenza ukubuyisa umntwana wam
Kwenzeka ntoni xa umtshato wohlukana, kwaye ilungiselelo phakathi kwaba babini kukugcinwa okwabelwanayo kweentombi zabo, kwaye umama uhlala esenza izizathu nobuxoki bokuba angabikho kubo? Ngaba kukushiya? okanye ukungabikho komdla?
Umama ubabona kube kanye ngeveki, iintombi zakhe zithi zifuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye naye, kwaye impendulo kamama zizizathu zokungabikho.
Bandikhohlisa ekubeni bandithathele intombi yam, xa ndandisemncinci kwaye ndingenayo nenkxaso yezimali nakubani na ("umntwana ongeke abenakho ukujongana nomnye umntwana" batsho enkundleni) khange ndimbone iminyaka emibini kwaye Uyabona ... andikayilibali, akukho mntu uyiqondayo imeko enje.
Ndafumanisa kwiintsuku ezimbini ezidlulileyo ukuba umama ayingomama wam nyani? ukuba uxelelwe ukuba kukho inenekazi elikhupha umntwana kwaye umama wasuswa ngenxa yokuba wayefuna ukuba nentombazana kakade umama wayesenabantwana abayi-4 kodwa wayesafuna ukundihoya kwaye lo sisi owaphayo. mna usipho ebendimithisile and that was about to be born. Ukuzalwa kwam umama wafumana iindaba zokuba sele ndizelwe kwaye uye waya kula mama eyondilanda esoyika ukuba inenekazi lizozisola kodwa hayi losisi undigcine ndinganxibanga, 4days ndingatyanga. kwade kwafika umama ezondilanda la lady landinika umntu ngoku ongumama wam zange ndamazi azange wandifuna ngoku ndina 24 years ufika azondifuna hayi mna but they contact my. umama ukuba eli nenekazi likunye nam ndikhangela ukuba unomhlaza obulalayo kwaye akanakufa kuba ufuna ukuxolisa kum kuba oogqirha sele bemncamile.
Umama undixelele oko eneenyembezi emehlweni akhe kuba undikhulisile ndiyintombi yakhe kwaye uziva enetyala ngokundifihlela lonto ixesha elide kodwa akayenzanga kuba ebembi kodwa endaweni yokuba engandivisanga ntlungu kwaye ukuba andiyenzanga inzondo kuye nabani na. Kwaye ngoku inenekazi linje ekugqibeleni, lindifuna ngenxa yesityholo sesazela. Kodwa andifuni kumbona okanye nantoni na, andazi negama lakhe, andazi kwanto kwaye ndicinga ukuba yeyona nto ilungileyo.Ndifuna ukuqhubeka nobomi bam njengakuqala. Ngaphandle kwalonto ndafumanisa ukuba uphinde wanika omnye umntu umntwana, ndicinga ukuba ngumntakwethu, andazi ukuba wayenzeleni kuba ibangele iintlungu namhlanje ibuhlungu kwaye ngaphandle kwesiphoso sam, ngaphandle kokufuna kwam ukuzalwa, ndizilimaza kakhulu. Andazi ukuba ndenze into elungileyo na ukuba ndingayi kumbona kodwa ndicinga nje ukuba zange andikhangele ndiba ngathi andikhathali.
Intombi yomyeni wam ihlala neqabane, okokuqala yayikholelwa ekubeni ayinakukhulelwa kwaye inyangwe ngenxa yokuba yayiyeyona nto iphosakeleyo ngalo mzuzu. Xa wayecinga ukuba akakwazi, wakhulelwa intombazana eneminyaka emibini ngoku. Umlingane khange amncede tu, akhonto ayenzayo ngaphandle kokumngxolisa nokumthuka xa ebuya emsebenzini evela kwinqanaba lokuba angazi ukuba makathini kuba uyamngxolisa ngayo yonke into. Engonelisekanga yiyo, waphinda wakhulelwa kwaye waba nenye intombi enonyaka ubudala. Ootatomkhulu notata wamantombazana bahlala kumgama we-3 km ukusuka kwindlu yabo, banendlu enkulu, ifama enkulu yeenkomo, imifuno, iinkuku, yonke into kwaye ukongeza ekunikezeni konke ukutya, amantombazana ayabakhathalela ukusuka kwasekuqaleni imini. Xa umama enabo ekhaya, udlala nje ngabo ngokungathi ngoonodoli, unxibe iilokhwe ezincinci ezinamafesile nezikhululekileyo, izihlangu ezihambelanayo, uzikame, kuphelele apho. Ukuthathela ingqalelo ukuba bahlala embindini wentili apho kukho kuphela izindlu ezintathu, umlambo, udaka, nohlaza. Bachitha ixesha labo besicela ukuba sibathengele iilokhwe ezintle endaweni yeempahla eziluncedo apho bahlala khona. Uhlala esicela imali kunye nenye imali, kwaye asazi ukuba kutheni. Ukufika kwakhe endlwini yethu entsha wathi uzakusiphathela amantombazana ukuze
Bebehlala nathi, asikhe sibenakho ukusebenzisana nabo, (akufani nootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu abanabo yonke imihla ukusukela oko babesezintsana) kwaye wayeya kusebenza aze ukuza kubabona amaxesha ngamaxesha. Kwiveki ephelileyo wafika ekhaya kunye namantombazana amabini ahlala i-200 km kunye neesutikheyisi ezintathu zeempahla kunye nezihlangu. Kodwa akazange eze nesidudu, ubisi, amanabukeni, okanye isiqingatha sezinto eziyimfuneko. Simxelele ukuba umntwana ononyaka olila kakhulu hayi, kodwa umntwana oneminyaka emibini simgcinile samthengela yonke into angaziswanga ngumama wakhe kwaye usazisile emva kweentsuku ezimbini kuba simbuze kuba Intombazana yayingafuni kutya nantoni na. Sasinexhala kakhulu. Intombazana yandibiza ngomama kwaye kangangoko ndandimxelele ukuba umama wakhe ngomnye umntu, akaqondi. Izolo umyeni wam ebeye kuyibuyisela kubazali bakhe kwaye umama wentombazana wenze iscandal sokuyibuyisa, ukuba khange ayicele kwaye uyishiye kwindlu yootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu (abaxolelayo ke kwaye bayifumana nabo uthando olukhulu). Njani umama angazicingeli kangaka? Ngaba ulungile entlokweni okanye ngaba unengxaki yokwenzakala kwengqondo? Kwaye utata wamantombazana, mncinci kakhulu kuye kwaye akanamava, uhlala ehlaziya kwaye uyamqhatha malunga namantombazana kwaye nguye kuphela ogqiba. Ngenye imini u-confessba 'kukuba andazi ukuba ndenzeni, nantoni na endiyenzayo, uhlala endithuka endingxolisa ”…. Uyazithanda iintombi zakhe.
Molo ngokuhlwa, inqaku elidlulileyo linomdla kakhulu, ndingutata ophethe unyana wam, kuba umama wakhe uthathe isigqibo sokuhamba nomnye umntu, kwaye le meko inzima kakhulu kunyana wam, ndingathanda ukuba undincede iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso zokuqhubela phambili nonyana wam kule meko ndiyabulela
Akucaci, ngokuqinisekileyo ayifanelanga ukuba ibethelelwe emnqamlezweni kuba ingumfazi, ngoku ukuba yindoda eyenza isenzo esifanayo, ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ibethelelwe emnqamlezweni, phantsi kolunye uhlobo lwentiyo eyenziweyo embi. Umgangatho ophindwe kabini osetyenziswa ngabafazi kulo mba ucacisa uhanahaniso xa ujongene nomba wokulahlwa komntwana.
Umama wam wandishiya xa ndazalelwa esibhedlele, yayiyiminyaka engama-46 eyadlulayo, andizange ndikhangele mna ngenxa yoko andazi nto malunga nosapho lwam olungelulo kakhulu ngoBawo wam ondizalayo, inyani kukuba ndiyakholelwa ukuba Ityala likaMama wam weBhayoloji andiyenzi Akufanele kukhunjulwe nokuba ebekhulelwe ngam, zezo zinto zenzeka ebomini ndadibana nabanye abantu basetyhini abalahla abantwana babo kwaye inyani kukuba ababakhathalele abo bantwana, bayaqhubeka ubomi, bayatshata okanye bayatshata, banabantwana abaninzi kwaye abo babalahlayo bafanelekile ukuba ngabomama
Ndiyamazi umntwana owashiywa ngunina kwikhemesti eSan Salvador, e-El Salvador, eneenyanga ezili-18 ubudala. Ngethamsanqa abanini bendawo bebemazi umakhulu ozala umama bamnika. Ugogo wayeyinkosikazi esele ikhulile, nangona kunjalo wayenyamekela umzukulwana kunye nobunzima obuninzi, ekubeni wayehlupheke kakhulu, kodwa enothando oluninzi? wakhulisa umntwana. AKAzange aphinde abuye umama wakhe, wathumela nje iileta ezithile kunina onguninakhulu womntwana walahlwayo emcela ukuba amxolele kwaye azithethelela ngokulahla umntwana. Kwenye yeeleta wathi useMexico esebenza nzima ukuze axhase lo mntwana, nto leyo AKAZE wayenza. Unxibelelwano lwancitshiswa lwaba ziileta ezi-4 kwaye akazange aphinde akhathazeke ngomntwana, emshiya ephonswe kowona mthetho ukhohlakeleyo nongenabuntu. Uyise ophilayo wenza okufanayo, owahamba nentombazana kunye nenkwenkwe, abantakwabo bosana olulahliweyo, ngaloo ndlela benyamalala ngonaphakade kubomi bomntwana. Ngoku ngo-2021 lankwenkwe sele ineminyaka engama-49 ubudala, itshatile inabantwana aba-4 abathandayo kwaye andisoze ndiqonde ukuba kutheni umama wam ondizalayo engazange andithande kwaye wandilahla ngonaphakade. Ndicinga ngezizathu ezinokuthi zenze oko wakwenzayo kwaye kuya kulungiswa kuphela ngokugula okunzulu okanye ukufa ngokwako, kodwa ngaphandle kwaloo nto AKUKHO nto eya kuyenza. Nkqu neenjakazi zilwela ukufa ngenxa yenjana yazo. Kangangeminyaka umakhulu wayendenza ndikholelwe ukuba umama wam ondizalayo wafela kwimfazwe yamakhaya eyayithwaxa isithandwa sam sase-El Salvador. Ndakhula ngolo hlobo. Ndade ndatshata kwaza xa intombi yam yesibini yazalwa, umakhulu wam wasweleka ngo-2002, ngelishwa ngenxa yezinto zendalo nangenxa yokwaluphala kwakhe, ngaloo ndlela ndiveza iileta endandizikhankanye ekuqaleni, kangangokuba ndafumanisa ukuba. Umama wam webhayoloji AKAFA, kodwa wayelahliwe. Ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kumakhulu wam, ebendisoloko ndimfowunela kwaye ndizakumbiza ngoMAMA okoko uThixo embeke endleleni yam njengeNgelosi enguMgcini. Ngaphandle kwakhe ngendingenguye umntu ebomini kuba wayendikhusela nangazo zonke iintsilelo zakhe kunye nokusilela kwakhe. Ebusuku, kwiminyaka yam, phakathi ko-2021, ndisakhala ngayo yonke indlela endiyihambileyo kwaye imibuzo ivakala njengeentsimbi zecawa: kutheni endishiyile? Kwakutheni ukuze angandithandi?
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