Baninzi oomama abaphela ngo Ukudakumba emva kokubeleka. Abazi ukuba kutheni kusenzeka kwaye abazi ukuba benze njani. Ukusukela Madreshoy, sikubonisa yonke into ekufuneka uyazi, ukuyinyanga.
Ngaphambili, uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka lwalunxulunyaniswa nomama ezisola ngokuba nomntwana. Wayemcaphukela, engafuni ukuba naye. Ngokwenene imeko enzima kakhulu, kuba xa uyifuna kakhulu, incinci into ofuna ukuyazi ngayo. Kodwa kuye kwavela ukuba, kule minyaka idlulileyo, kuye kwafunyaniswa ukuba ayisiyiyo nosana kuphela. Intoni eso simo sengqondo sinokudluliselwa kwezinye iinkalo: umsebenzi, iqabane, abahlobo ... Yintoni eyenzekayo kukuba kwakubetha kakhulu, xa kusenzeka nosana uqobo. Kodwa makhe sichaze ngakumbi malunga nokudakumba emva kokubeleka.
Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka
Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka lubonakaliswa njengesigaba apho umama omtsha angena kwimeko yokungakhathali. Ngaphandle kokuba nomntwana ezandleni zakhe, ezi iimvakalelo zokungakhathali kunye nosizi zinokuba nkulu kangangokuba bade bakwazi nokulahla usana. Kodwa ayenzeki nje ngamatyala ambalwa. Kodwa i I-10% yabasetyhini Ooba ngoomama, yiva ubunzima. Baqala nge Ukudakumba okungapheliyo kwaye emva koxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka.
Kutheni le nto kwenzeka uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka? Impendulo ikhona ibhayoloji kamama. Ke ihomoni. Ngenxa "yokudalwa" kosana, iihormones zisebenza ngendlela, ukuze zikwazi ukondla kunye nokumnika yonke into efunekayo. Ezi hormone zondlayo, oko kukuthi, umama ngokunjalo. Xa kuzalwa, ukuhamba kwehomoni kwavalwa. Baqala umjikelo omtsha wehomoni. Ngesi sizathu, abasetyhini, abahlala bechaphazeleka kakhulu kukuhamba kwe iihormone zakho, zezizo ezithe zatshintsha ngesiquphe.
Ewe kunjalo, uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka aluxhomekekanga nje kwihomoni. Kukho ezinye izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka zithathelwe ingqalelo. Ngamanye amaxesha impendulo ayisoloko ifuna ukuba yihomoni. Ingayiyo ujikelezwe zizinto angenakuzilawula.
- Imeko yendalo esingqongileyo.
- Ilifa lemfuza okanye ulungelelwaniso lokufumana uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka.
- Izinto zentlalo, ukusukela uxinzelelo, zinokuba nefuthe kakhulu.
- Iimvakalelo. Ukuba umama uchanekile kwimeko zoxinzelelo, usizi kunye novalo amaxesha amaninzi. Kunokwenzeka ukuba uyakhula uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka.
- El Ukuhlala phantsi.
- Ubunzima emsebenzini okanye ukuba umntwana wazalwa enengxaki.
- Ukungabinamntu ekhaya, elinde wena okanye ungatshatanga.
- Ukuba lixhoba lobundlobongela basekhaya ...
Iimpawu zoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka
Ukwazi ukuba ngaba siyabonisa okanye asibonisi uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, okanye umntu osondeleyo kuthi, siza kubhenela kuthotho lweempawu. Oku akufuneki ukuba konke kube kanye. Yonke into kuxhomekeke ekomelezeni kukamama. Kodwa inokubonisa ezinye ezothusayo, ukufumanisa uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka.
- Iimvakalelo zosizi, ukudideka, ukungabi nathemba.
- Ukulila rhoqo okanye ukukhathazeka ngokulula.
- Ukutshintsha ngesiquphe kubunzima obungenako ukubulawula.
- Ukungakhathali kwimisebenzi obukade uyithanda.
- Kunzima ukulala.
- Kunzima ukuhlala uphaphile yonke intsasa.
- Ukuba nemvakalelo yokuba yonke into iyakongamela kwaye awukwazi ukuzenzela isigqibo.
- Ndiziva ndingento yanto
- Andifuni ukubona usapho okanye abahlobo.
- Ukucaphuka ngokulula kunye nomsindo ngayo yonke into.
- Ukudinwa okungapheliyo, nokuba ungafuni kwenza nantoni na imini yonke.
- Ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngomntwana.
- Okanye icala elichaseneyo, lingafuni kwazi ngomntwana.
Lo ngoyena utsale umdla omkhulu kwasekuqaleni kwaye apho kwafunyaniswa khona ukuba unengxaki yokudakumba. Kodwa njengoko ubona, Ukudakumba kunokuzibonakalisa kwezinye iinkalo kwaye kuchaphazele nefayile ye- Umama notata.
Ungalunyanga njani uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka
Xa kufunyaniswa uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, into yokuqala yokwenza ukulinda. Khumbula ukuba ukuba lutshintsho lwehomoni, kuthatha kuphela iintsuku ezimbalwa. Kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba imicimbi esele ilindile kwaye ejikeleze umama iya kulungiswa. Ke ngoko, kuya kufuneka ulinde kwaye uyinike iintsuku ezimbalwa zomda, ukuze wazi ukuba ayisiyiyo enye into embi.
Ngezo ntsuku, uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka lunyangwa utyelelo olwahlukeneyo kugqirha, ukujonga imeko yakho. Ugqirha wakho uya kuqinisekisa ukuba uqhuba kakuhle. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka luhlala, sinokuba sijongana nemeko yoxinzelelo.
Xa oku kusenzeka, kufuneka phatha uxinzelelo ngeeseshoni zonyango. Kuxhomekeka kugqirha nakwimeko yakho, unokukuthumelela ichiza. Kodwa konke kuxhomekeke kwinto oyibonayo ugqirha wakho kunye nento oyifunayo. Ewe, umnqweno wokuziphilisa.
Ngoku siyazi ngakumbi malunga nokudakumba emva kokubeleka. Ke oomama bexesha elizayo okanye abo sele bekhona, ungakhathazeki, ukuba ngequbuliso, emva kokubeleka, uziva ungafuni nto. Kuqhelekile, yinto yehomoni kwaye ngenxa yezinto esingazilawuliyo. Oko akuthethi ukuba awufuni mntwana. Esi sisigaba nje, apho umzimba wakho kufuneka ubuye kwakhona.
Bangaphi kuni abakhe badandatheka emva kokubeleka? Woyise njani? Kwabo kuni baye babandezeleka, ngokuqinisekileyo kwakunzima. Ukusuka Madreshoy, sikucela ukuba wenze njalo yabelana ngamava akho, ukunceda nokucebisa oomama abatsha.