Ixesha lokufikisa lixesha elinzima kakhulu, apho amakhwenkwe kufuneka ajongane notshintsho oluninzi lwehomoni, lomzimba kunye neemvakalelo. Ukuba nomntakwabo kukwazi obona buhlobo bunzulu, kodwa kananjalo kuthetha ukuba nembangi oza kujongana nayo yonke imihla. Ukuba kwinqanaba lokufikisa akukho lula, kodwa ukwabelana ngendawo nomnye okwishumi elivisayo okwimeko efanayo kuncinci kakhulu.
Oku kunokuguqula iimpikiswano, umzabalazo wamandla, ukungavisisani, kunye nobudlelwane obubi phakathi kwabantakwenu. Yintoni enokukhokelela ekubeni ucinge ukuba ulutsha lwakho luyathandana. Nangona kunjalo, inzondo yimvakalelo enzulu kakhulu, kunzima ukuyifumana xa kufikwa kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantakwenu. Ke ngoko, njengoko ubudlelwane obubi bunokukukhathaza, cinga ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba yinto yethutyana.
Umona ngoyena nobangela wempixano phakathi kwabantakwabo, into yendalo ngokupheleleyo ithathela ingqalelo ukuba babelana ngendawo, yonke into ekhaya kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, luthando lwabazali. Kwiminyaka yakhe yeshumi elivisayo kwaye ejonge ukufumana eyakhe indawo emhlabeni, kunzima kakhulu ukucinga ukuba omnye umntu umi endleleni yakho. Okungakumbi xa engomnye okwishumi elivisayo oneemeko ezifanayo, okwangumzalwana wakho.
Ngaba kufuneka ndizibeke phakathi kwabo?
Njengomama okanye utata, kuya kufuneka ukunqande ukuthatha icala lomnye wabantwana bakho, kuba omnye ngokungathandabuzekiyo uya kuziva engenakhaya kwaye engaqondwa kakuhle. Kwaye akufuneki ungazinanzi iimbambano zabo, okanye ukunciphisa into enokwenzeka phakathi kwabo. Ngokwesiqhelo kuthathwa ngokungakhathali ukuba zizinto eziqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantwana bakowenu, kodwa ukungangeneleli nako kuneengozi.
Banakho ukusombulula iingxaki zabo omnye komnye, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba umgama phakathi kwabo uyanda kwaye kuza indawo apho bengenanto bafana. Ngapha koko, zininzi Abantakwenu abadala bayeke ukuthetha bodwa, ndisahlala phantsi kophahla olunye. Kwaye esi sisiphumo se ukungazi indlela yokulawula iingxaki ngalo mzuzu.
Yintoni endiyenzayo xa ndicinga ukuba abantwana bam abakwishumi elivisayo bayathandana
Ukufumana unobangela wolo lwalamano lubi linyathelo lokuqala lokufumana isisombululo, kuba nangona benomahluko, basengabazalwana abahlala phantsi kophahla olunye. Bonke abantu abahlala endlwini mabahlangane nabanye Imithetho yokuhlalisana, ehamba ngokuhlonipha abanye. Ke ngoko, abantwana bakho kuya kufuneka bathethe ngembeko omnye komnye kwaye bahloniphe izinto zabazalwana babo kunye nendawo.
Ulutsha olunabo bonke ubunzima balo alwazi ukuba zininzi izinto emhlabeni, abantu abaninzi, neengxaki ezininzi. Bayakudinga ukuba ube secaleni kwabo, ubamamele kwaye ubaqonde, nangona kuwe, okwenzekayo kubo kuyinto ebubudenge okanye engabalulekanga. Zama ukuthetha nabantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo ngokwahlukeneyo, ngaphandle kokugweba kwaye kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuzibeka endaweni yakho okanye ngokuchasene nenye yazo.
Umdla oqhelekileyo
Nangona bengaboni ukuba bafana kangakanani, kunokwenzeka ukuba baninzi ngokufanayo kunokuba beqonda. Bangabantakwabo, ke baya kuba neempembelelo ezifanayo kumculo, ukuzonwabisa, ukufunda okanye ukuzonwabisa. Ukufikisa kudlula kwiinguqu ezininzi kwaye loluphi usuku abaluthandayo ngosuku olulandelayo abaluthiyileyo. Kodwa basengabantwana kuguquko olupheleleyo ukuya ebudaleni abakuqondi.
Zama ukwenza amaxesha apho iinkumbulo zobuntwana babo, imidlalo phakathi kwabantakwabo, ukhenketho ngaphandle okanye nayiphi na imeko ebavumela ukuba babonakale khumbula ukuba ngaphandle kokwahluka kwabo, bayathandana. Ubuhlobo babo beemvakalelo bomelele ngaphezu kwako nakuphi na ukubangisana. Nokuba ngamanye amaxesha uziva ngathi abantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo bayathandana, khumbula ukuba umanyano lwabo lunzulu ngakumbi kwaye ukuba ngomonde, uthando nokuqonda, banokuyicombulula nayiphi na ingxaki.
Ukwahluka kuyinto eqhelekileyo, naphakathi kwabantu abathandanayo. Kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane obunobudlelwane kukho iingxaki, kwimicimbi yothando, kubuhlobo nakwabudlelwane bosapho. Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba bazithande ngamandla abo kunye nobuthathaka babo, kwaye ke baya kufunda ukwamkela nokubathanda abanye abantu ngendlela efanayo.