Ukuba uziva njalo abantwana bakho bayakongamela kwaye ungumama ombi kuyo, shiya le ngcinga. Ukusukela ukuba abantwana bethu bazalwe sihlala kwinkqubo eqhubekayo yokufunda kunye nenkqubo yokuziqhelanisa, kwaye le meko inakho kwaye iya kugcina ikongamela ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa oku akukwenzi ukuba ube ngumama ombi, kukuba akukho lula okanye kuyimfuneko ukuzalisekisa zonke iindima ezibekwa luluntu.
Ukuba ngumama kuchaphazela ngendlela ongenakucinga nokucinga ngayo. Ukuhlala uzolile kwaye uhlale uzolile kwaye uqokelelwe kangangoko kunokwenzeka kuthatha inkqubo yakho. Nokuba kukuhamba kwexesha, awunakuva kamnandi nge-100% ngobomi obutsha. Siyathemba ukuba ezi iingcebiso zokukunceda ukonwabele ukuba ngumama ngendlela engcono kunale uyenzayo ngoku.
Ukuba abantwana bakho bakongamele, khangela izithuba zakho
Nokuba abantwana bakho badala kangakanani, kwiveki zokuqala ezimbalwa, kuya kufuneka uqhubeke nokuzikhathalela. Siyazi ukuba la magama kulula ukuwabhala, kodwa kunzima ukuwenza. Nangona kunjalo, zama, ufumane amaxesha okuphumla kunye nokuphumla. Ngokubanzi, ukuba nemigaqo esisiseko yemihla ngemihla yosana lwakho kuya kuninceda nobabini.
Xa unemizuzu yasimahla, yisebenzise. Thetha neqabane lakho ukuze nibe neli xesha apho niza kujolisa kuni kwaye hayi kuyo yonke into eninayo yokulungiselela umntwana, nokuba awumkhathaleli. Musa ukucinga ukuba uzingca ubonakalisa iimfuno zakho, iminqweno yakho. Kwaye uzame ukuzenza. Zama ukwenza izinto ozithandayo, hayi ezo zilungele umntwana okanye umntwana.
Inqaku elikwiNew York Times libalise indlela oomama abasebenzayo abalwa ngayo phakathi kwe ubutyala lokushiya abantwana babo nabantu abagcina abantwana okanye abancinci kwaye bangakwazi ukubakhathalela ngokwabo, kwangaxeshanye baziva bekhululekile ngokuzola kwezinye iindawo, bethetha nabantu abadala ... Le mpikiswano inkulu koomama abahambahambayo. .
Ukubeleka kunye neemvakalelo ezingalunganga
Umama uvuselela ukuqonda. Ngaba kunjalo eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive ukhululekile, kwaye ngequbuliso sifuna ukukhala. Amaxesha amaninzi, ezi mvakalelo azidibananga ngqo nabantwana bethu, kodwa zifana nesothu.
Kungenzeka ukuba ukungafani neqabane lethu, ukuba sinabanye abantwana, nabo, kunye nosapho lwethu, kusikhokelela kwimeko yoxinzelelo olusenza ukuba singathandi yonke into esingqongileyo, kubandakanya nomsebenzi wethu njengoomama. Siva ukuba abantwana bethu, kwaye ubomi bethu buyasongamela, kwaye oku uxinzelelo olukhulu, lusenze singakwazi ukuthatha yonke into.
Kwangelo xesha kubangela iintloni, Siva oomama ababi, asiphenduli iimodeli zabasetyhini ezixabisekileyo kwinkcubeko. Asinothando, silungelelene kwaye sisebenza nzima. Sukuvumela iikhonsepthi zentlalo zikongamele. Ukuba awuqhubi kakuhle ngomama, kwiminyaka yabantwana bakho, cela uncedo, thetha malunga noko kwenzekayo kuwe.
Ukuphulukana nokuzithemba xa abantwana besoyisile
Yonke into intsha emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe, kwaye uxinzelelo luhlala lubangelwa luloyiko, ukungaqiniseki, ukungazithembi, ukuba sesichengeni, utshintsho kwihomoni, konke oku kunye nokunye kunzima ukwenza i-cocktail. Sukuba nexhala ngaphezu kokwaneleyo, ezi zinto ziqhelekile. Uyayiqhela le ndlela yokuphila intsha.
Abanye Abasetyhini baziva ngathi basilele kuba nje bezele umntwana beneziphazamiso ezithile. Ukucinga kuba bengekho kumava wokuba ngumama. Thetha neqabane lakho okanye abanye abantu abanokumamela kwaye bakuqonde. Nyaniseka kwaye ungazami ukufihla iimvakalelo zakho zokudana okanye ukoyiswa. Ayinguwe wedwa okhe wadlula kwezi mvakalelo.
Kule lahleko lokuzithemba kunokongezwa abanye mabakuxelele ukuba ungamgcina njani umntwana. Abayenzi ngeenjongo ezimbi, kodwa uninzi lwamaxesha ezi ngcebiso zingaphaya kunokuba ziluncedo. Sukuthatha ingcebiso yakhe nabani na njengeyimfuneko. Hlalutya kwaye ubone ukuba uyavuma na kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba kuya kuba kuhle ukuba ukusebenzise kwimeko yosapho lwakho. Ukuthatha uxanduva lwezigqibo zakho kuya komeleza ukuzithemba kwakho.