Ukuxhaphaza okanye ukuxhaphaza ngumba obaluleke kakhulu kwaye akukho meko ayisiyo 'ngxaki yabantwana' abaninzi bacinga ukuthethelela isimilo esibi samanye amakhwenkwe xa bexhaphaza abanye. Oku kuziphatha okungalunganga nokungamkelekanga kwiimeko ezininzi kufundwa kwindawo ekufutshane yomntwana, njengasekhaya. Ukuba ungumzali ochaphazelekayo malunga ukuxhaphaza okanye ukuxhaphaza, kufuneka ufunde ukuqaphela iimpawu zokuba umntwana uyingcungcuthekiso, kodwa ikwabonisa iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba umntwana uyaxhatshazwa.
Xa abantwana benomahluko othile, ingxaki yokufunda okanye ingxaki eyenza umahluko kwabanye, kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho angabasesichengeni sokuxhatshazwa okanye ukuxhaphaza ukuba akanazo izixhobo ezaneleyo zokumelana okanye ukuba awunazo nokuzithemba okuhle. Kungenxa yazo zonke ezi zinto abazali kufuneka baqwalasele kwaye baqwalasele utshintsho olunokwenzeka kwiindlela zokuziphatha zabantwana babo.
Baninzi amaxhoba bangaxeleli abazali babo okanye ootitshala ukuba bayangcungcuthekiswa, ezibenza babe neentloni, babahleke, babathobe isidima nokuba babahlasele ngokwasemzimbeni nangamazwi. Ukuphathwa gadalala komhlaseli kuya kusiba nzima ngakumbi kwaye akukho mntu unokwenza nantoni na ukuyilungisa. Kwelinye icala, abaxhaphazi abazukuxela malunga nokuziphatha kwabo okungalunganga kwaye ukuba bafumanekile, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba bayikhanyele.
Iimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho ulixhoba
Kukho iimpawu kunye nokuziphatha ekhaya okuveza ukuba umntwana wakho Kukusondelelanaoy ukuba uhlangabezana nokuxhatshazwa:
- Uvela esikolweni eneempahla ezikrazukileyo okanye ezingacocekanga
- Uphule okanye wonakalise iimpahla zesikolo
- Unemivumbo, amaqhuma okanye imikrwelo kwaye akakwazi ukukunika inkcazo esengqiqweni yokuba zenziwe njani
- Andifuni ukuya esikolweni
- Uyoyika
- Uba nentloko ebuhlungu nesisu rhoqo, ngakumbi xa kufuneka uye esikolweni
- Khetha iindlela ezizezinye zokuya esikolweni
- Ufuna ukuba yedwa kwaye azihlukanise noluntu
- Unamaphupha amabi okanye uyakhala emaphupheni
- Uphelelwa ngumdla emsebenzini wesikolo kwaye uqala ukuba namabanga amabi kunye nokusebenza kakubi kwizifundo
- Kubonakala kulusizi okanye uxinezelekile
- Unemizwa kwaye uyacaphuka
- Ucela imali ongayaziyo ukuba uyichitha phi, kunokwenzeka ukuba lo mntu umcinezelayo uyamnyanzela ukuba amnike imali
- Ubuya esikolweni elambile kuba umxhaphazi uthathe isidlo sakhe sasemini
Iimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho ungumxhaphazi
Umntwana oxhaphaza abanye angabonisa enye yezi ndlela zokuziphatha ekhaya:
- Unendlela yokuziphatha enobundlongondlongo
- Unolwazelelelo oluncinci kwiimvakalelo zabanye
- Unesidingo esikhulu sokulawula nokuboyisa abanye
- Sebenzisa izoyikiso kunye nobundlongondlongo ukuze ufumane le nto uyifunayo
- Yoyikisa abantakwenu okanye abanye abantwana
- Ibonisa ukonyuka okwenyani okanye okucingelwayo ngaphezu kwabanye abantwana
- Ucaphuka msinya kwaye uhlala ecaphuka ukuba akayifumani into ayifunayo
- Unomdla
- Unonyamezelo oluphantsi lokukhathazeka
- Akafuni ukwamkela imigaqo emiselweyo
- Thetha ubuxoki
- Unempatho enobundlongondlongo ngokuchaseneyo nabantu abadala, kubandakanya ootitshala nabazali.
- Unokuziphatha okuchasene noluntu okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho (ukonakaliswa okanye ubusela) usemncinci
- Uhlala uthandana nabantu abangabhekisi kakuhle
Banokwenza ntoni abazali bexhoba
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho uyaxhatshazwa kodwa isikolo asikakuxeleli, kuya kufuneka ulandele iingcebiso zokuphelisa le meko ngokukhawuleza:
- Yiya kwangoko uyokuthetha notitshala ngexesha apho ungaweli khona nabafundi esikolweni. Kufuneka ufumane intsebenziswano yesikolo ukuze uyeke ukuxhatshazwa.
- Yiba nokuqonda ngomntwana wakho kwaye uyithathe ngokungathí sina le ngxaki, musa ukurhabaxa okanye ukhawuleze.
- Ungamsoli unyana wakho. Ifuna inkxaso kunye nokuqonda okungenamiqathango.
- Funa uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uyalufuna, kubalulekile ukuba azive ekhuselekile ngokwasemoyeni.
- Gcina unxibelelwano oluhle nomntwana wakho, uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye naye, mnike inkxaso rhoqo kwaye umxelele yonke imihla ukuba ubaluleke kangakanani kuwe kwaye umthanda kangakanani.
- Fundisa ngeendlela zokukhusela umntwana ngaphandle kobundlobongela.
- Sebenzela ukuzithemba komntwana wakho kwaye umncede ayibeke ingxaki kwindawo efanelekileyo kwaye angayithathi.
- Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba enze abahlobo abatsha kwindawo ekhuselekileyo.
Ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka esikolweni kufuneka uye kwiziko ukuyilungisa le meko Ufanele ubhale phantsi iinkcukacha zohlukumezo olo uxoxe nenqununu yesikolo, uzame ukujonga imeko ngendlela eyiyo kwaye ubone ubuzaza balo mbandela. Kuya kufuneka wenze ukuba umntwana wakho abone ukuba kwiimeko zokuhlaselwa kwabantu abadala kufuneka ngenelo ukusombulula ingxaki, ke kuya kufuneka uyazi ngokuthe ngqo ukuba uthetha nabani. Thetha notitshala kuqala, emva koko nenqununu ukuba ubona ukuba akukho sisombululo kwaye akukho mpendulo kwezemfundo, kuya kufuneka unxibelelane negqwetha ukuze lithathe amanyathelo asemthethweni malunga nesikolo. Ukuya ngqo kusapho lomhlaseli ayisosisombululo.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba umntwana onesifo ukuxhatshazwa ndiziva ndixhaswa kwaye ndixhaswa ngawo onke amaxesha, kufuneka uzive ukhuseleko emntwini wakho. Ukuba konke okunye kusilele kwaye umntwana aqhubeke nokuhlupheka esikolweni, isigqibo sokugqibela sokutshintsha izikolo kufuneka sithathelwe ingqalelo ukuze babe nethuba lokuqalisa kwasekuqaleni. Phambi kotshintsho lwesikolo, kunyanzelekile ukuba umntwana aye kwingcali yokusebenza kwengqondo ukuze akwazi ukusebenza kwizakhono zentlalo, ukuzithemba kunye nokhuseleko lomntu.