Ukuncancisa kunokuba ngumceli mngeni koomama abatsha. Umama ofuna kwaye onganika ukuncancisa usana lwakhe uya kumamela lonke uhlobo lweengcebiso kwaye uyakuqonda ukuba nangona kuyeyona nto yendalo ehlabathini, akukho lula kwaphela kwaye kumaxesha amaninzi, kubuhlungu kakhulu . Ngesi sizathu, uninzi loomama abatsha bakhetha ukuya kumaqela enkxaso yokuncancisa, kuba ngale ndlela baziva bexhaswa kwaye ukongeza, baya kufumana iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo kwimeko yabo ethile.
Ubisi lwebele luqulathe ukulingana okufanelekileyo kwezondlo kusana lwakho. Ubisi lwebele kulula ukugaya kunendlela yokuthengisa, kwaye izilwa-buhlungu zobisi lwebele zonyusa amajoni omzimba wosana lwakho. Ukuncancisa kunokukunceda ukunciphisa umzimba emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe kunye nosana lwakho ukuba luthathe ngokweempawu zalo. Njengokuba oko kwakungonelanga, ukuncancisa kukonyusa ubudlelwane bemvakalelo phakathi kukamama nomntwana.
Kodwa nangona konke kuvakala kumnandi, akusoloko kulula kwaye uninzi loomama abatsha kufuneka baye kumaqela enkxaso yokuncancisa ukuze bafumane isisombululo kuyo yonke imiceli mngeni emele yona. Kodwa yintoni amaqela enkxaso yokuncancisa? Yintoni enokufunyanwa ngumama omtsha kubo?
Uncedo lwamaqela enkxaso yokuncancisa oomama abatsha
Impendulo kuwo onke amathandabuzo
Xa uqala ukuncancisa, unamathandabuzo angapheliyo: Ngaba ndiyenza ngokuchanekileyo? Ngaba ndinobisi olwaneleyo? Ndiyazi njani ukuba umntwana wam utyisiwe ngokwaneleyo? Ukuba ndilususile ubisi ebeleni lam, lulungile okanye lubi emntwaneni? Ngaba ubisi lwam luphulukana neepropathi zalo ukuba ndilufake ebhotileni? Ngaba indawo yomntwana yanele ukuncancisa ngokuchanekileyo? Kutheni amabele am abuhlungu? Umntwana kufuneka ahlale ixesha elingakanani kwibele ngalinye? Ngaba ndingancancisa usana lwam ukuba iingono zam ziqhekekile kwaye zinegazi? Ngaba ndingancancisa usana lwam kunye nenkwenkwana yam ngexesha elinye?
Njengoko ubona, mininzi imibuzo enokuhamba ngentloko yomama omtsha xa encancisa usana lwakhe Kwaye ukuba akanangcali anokubonisana nayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba xa ehlangabezana nobunzima okanye abone ukuba kubuhlungu kakhulu kwaye akukho lunyango lwentlungu engako, uya kuyeka ukuncancisa ecinga ukuba ayizukuba yeyakhe. Kodwa, nangona ungancancisi umntwana isisigqibo esizimeleyo kwaye esihloniphekileyo kuba yinto esondeleyo, ukuba ufuna ukuncancisa kwaye ube nobunzima unokufuna inkxaso ngaphambi kokulahla itawuli.
Dibana nabanye oomama abakwimeko efanayo
Xa umama omtsha ehlangabezana nezithintelo okanye ubunzima ekuncanciseni, kunokwenzeka ukuba acinge ukuba ayifanelekanga ukuba iqhubeke okanye inokuba inguye owenza into engalunganga. Kodwa akukho mntu wenza nantoni na ephosakeleyo, ithatha nje ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nomama ukuze azi ezona zikhundla zibalaseleyo ukuncancisa kwaye umntwana ufunda ukuxhoma ngokufanelekileyo kwingono kanina. Ukuba unobisi olwaneleyo, yonke into iya kusebenza ekugqibeleni.
Xa besiya kwiqela lokuncancisa, oomama banokudibana nabanye oomama abakwimeko efanayo neyakhe, oko kukuthi, abahlangabezana nobunzima obufanayo. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba bazive beqondwa kwaye bexhaswa ngawo onke amaxesha. Ke, baya kuba nakho ukufumana isisombululo kubunzima babo kwaye bafunde ngamanye amacebo oomama abanokuthi badlule kwimeko efanayo ngelinye ixesha kwaye bafumana isisombululo.
Dibana nabantu abaxhasa ukuncancisa
Abasetyhini abaninzi bayakuxhasa ukuncancisa kodwa ayingabo bonke abaziva beqondwa, ngakumbi xa kufuneka bancancise esidlangalaleni. Oomama abaninzi abathanda ukuncancisa bahlala kwiipaki okanye kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke zokuncancisa kwaye bathi ngandlela thile ukuba ukuncancisa kuyindalo kwaye uluntu alunakothuka ngokubona ukuncancisa usana ... Kwaye hayi into abangazifihli kuyo bondle abancinci babo.
Fumana inkxaso yeemvakalelo
Ukongeza kwizinto ezingathandekiyo ezibonakalayo zokuncancisa ukuzisa, kunokubakho nezinye izinto ezenza ukuba ukuncancisa kube ngumceli mngeni okanye ukunyuka kwentaba koomama abaninzi abatsha. Ukungalali kakuhle ebusuku, ukuvuka rhoqo emva kweeyure ezimbini ukondla umntwana, ukufumana ubisi lwebele ngaphambi kobisi olungumgubo kunye nosana ukuthatha ixesha elincinci lokufuna ukutya, kwaye ukuncancisa kuthatha ukuya kuthi ga kwiiyure ezimbini, imvakalelo yokuba 'ubotshiwe' umntwana imini yonke, ukungakwazi ukwenza eminye imisebenzi okanye ukusebenza ukubeka phambili ukuncancisa, uxinzelelo olunokubakho emva kokubeleka ...
Zininzi izinto ezinokuchaphazela impilo kamama omtsha kwaye zinokumenza afune ukuphosa itawuli kwangethuba ekuncanciseni. Oomama abaninzi bacinga ukuba baziva kakubi ngenxa yokuncancisa kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi ezinye izinto ziyabachaphazela. Kumaqela enkxaso yokuncancisa, banokubanceda ngokwasemoyeni ukuze baqonde esona sizathu sokwenyani esibenza bazive bengalunganga ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye, ukuze babenakho ukufumana ezona zisombululo zifanelekileyo kwimeko nganye.
Ukuba ungumama omtsha kwaye ucinga ukuba ukuncancisa umntwana wakho kunzima kakhulu okanye uhlangabezana nje nezithintelo kunye neengxaki, ngoku lixesha lokucinga ngokuya kwiqela lenkxaso yokuncancisa. Kwingingqi yakho ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana amaqela enkxaso ukuze akwazi ukujoyina kwaye ahambe ngokukhawuleza okanye ngamaxesha athile. Ukuba uhlala ndaweni ithile apho kungekho maqela enkxaso, kwi-Intanethi ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana iiforamu okanye iindawo zokuncancisa apho unokufumana inkxaso enkulu, nokuba iyinyani.