La ngamagama ekufuneka siweve ngamanye amaxesha. Siyayidinga xa siziva singalunganga kuba omnye umntu wayecinga ukuba siyabetha xa sasizenza ngathi silungile. Okanye xa sibona ukuba umntu esimthandayo akaziphathi ngendlela ebesilindele ngayo. Xa siphathwa njengezinto kunabantu.
Ngawo la maxesha apho babethandabuza isimo sakho sengqondo, iimpahla zakho, ukuba ngumfazi kwaye uphume wedwa. Onke la maxesha, xa sibekwa ityala kwinto evunyelwe umntu, Kufuneka sazi ukuba umntu uyasikhusela, uyasiqonda kwaye uyasixhasa.
Umahluko phakathi kobubele kunye nokudlala ngothando
Kuyamkelwa ngokwenkcubeko ukuba xa uncuma indoda, uthinte iinwele zayo, okanye ube neentloni, uzama ukufumana ingqalelo yakhe. Kodwa Ngamanye amaxesha uvele uzenze ulungile, awufuni kuphuma naye, okanye umange, Ayikho into enjalo. Le yinto amadoda athile akufumanisa kunzima ukuyiqonda, kuba, ndinyanzelisa ukuba, yamkelwe ngoluhlobo ngokwenkcubeko kwaye abakholwa ukuba bayaphazama.
Hayi, akungenxa yesimo sakho sengqondo, okanye iimpahla zakho
Kwiimeko zokuphathwa gadalala okanye udlwengulo, ixhoba lithanda ukubekek 'ityala ngesimo sokurhabaxa okanye ngempahla ayinxibileyo. Inyani yile yokuba ayinamsebenzi, kuba Uncumo lunokuvuselela inkanuko njengokuncamisa isikere, isiketi esixineneyo, okanye ilokhwe yokulala kamakhulu. Ingqondo yakhe ekucingela ukuba uyathandeka kuye, nokuba wenza ntoni.
Fundisa ngokuvuma
Amatyala amaninzi angadlwengulwanga okanye okuphathwa gadalala ayenzeka phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo, okanye nabahlobo abasondeleyo. Oku kwenzeka kuba kuyamkelwa ngokwenkcubeko oko Ukuba umfazi akathi hayi, uthetha ewe. Ngamanye amaxesha iba yinto yokuba engaphendulanga.
Kuqhelekile ukwamkela ukwenza izinto ongaziva ukuba ufuna ukuzenza, ngenxa yokuba uyanelisa okanye uyathandana. Ngaphandle kwempazamo, nantoni na eyenziweyo phantsi koxinzelelo, kungenxa yenkqubo yoxhatshazo. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze into ongayifuniyo. Umlingane wakho okanye umhlobo wakho kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukuthula okanye ukuhlala uhleli ayinguwe. Ewe ngu ewe kuphela.
Xa lo mfazi ngokwakhe ehlasela
Kuyothusa ukubona indlela abanye abantu basetyhini abazithathela ngayo izinto ngokuchasene nesini sabo. Basola amaxhoba endaweni yabaxhaphazi. Bagweba abanye abantu basetyhini ngesimo sabo sengqondo, ngenkululeko yabo, ngokungaxhomekeki mntwini. Ngelishwa xa oku kusenzeka kwaye kungu umzekelo wokungakhathali wabantwana bethu.
Xa ugweba omnye umfazi ufundisa abantwana bakho ukuba bangabahloneli abanye. Ubafundisa nokuba umntu wasetyhini kufuneka ahlangane ngakumbi nemilinganiselo yentlalo kunaleyo yenziwa yindoda. Ukuba unentombi, iya kucinga ukuba inelungelo lokugweba abanye abantu basetyhini kwaye iya kuhlala ibuzwa ngamaqabane ayo. Uya kufunda ukukhuphisana, noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lwakho lokuzithemba oku kuthetha ukuba.
Igama elibalulekileyo lokwazisa kwisigama "bubudade", ubuMelika, obhekisa kubumbano olwenzeka phakathi kwabafazi. Olovakalelo lokuba nobuhlobo olusinika ukuqonda, ngenxa yokufana kweemeko zethu.
Ukulingana nokuhlonipha abantu
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sifundise abantwana bethu ngokulingana, kwaye singabavumeli bathathe iindima zesini, ezinokubenza bawele kwiimpazamo eziyingozi kakhulu. Ndifuna ukutsho ukufundisa ngokulingana asikokufundisa inkwenkwe okanye intombazana, kodwa ukufundisa umntu.
Wonke umntu ufanelwe yintlonipho kwaye kufuneka ahloniphe abanye, ngenxa yenyani yokuba ngabantu. Nokuba sini sakho ngokwesini, okanye isazisi sakho, bonke bangabantu.
Inkqubo yangoku ayizifezekisi iimfuno zoluntu olwahlukeneyo. Apho kungekho mfazi kufuneka alwe kabini, ukuya kwinqanaba elifanayo nendoda. Uluntu apho indoda ikwanenkululeko yokuba yiyo. Apho kukho uxanduva ngokubambisana nabantwana kunye nosapho oluyinyani kunye noxolelwaniso lomsebenzi.
Uluntu olwahlukileyo, ekungekho lixhoba ekufuneka likholelwe kulo. Oko apho umfazi ahlonitshwayo njengomntu kwaye kungafuneki ukuba azithethelele nakubani na, okanye nantoni na.