Kule nqaku ndifuna ukukuxelela ngenye yeefayile ze- ezinye iindlela zokulawula iintlungu emsebenzini, kusenokwenzeka ukuba yenye yezona zisetyenziswa kakhulu nezaziwayo; eyahlukileyo iintlobo zokuphefumla kwaye oko kuya kukufundisa ngokuqinisekileyo umbelekisi wakho kwiiklasi ze Ukulungiselela ukuzala.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuvela kwamathandabuzo malunga nokuba iluncedo kwaye kuhlala kurhoqo ukubuzwa lo mbuzo kuthethwano; Ngaba ukuphefumla kuluncedo ngenene ngexesha lomsebenzi? ... Ndiyathemba ukuyenza icace kuwe ukuze bakhonza, bazisebenzisa nini kwaye balindele ntoni kwimiphefumlo.
Kufuneka siqonde ukuba xa sithetha "ngemiphunga" sithetha ngokwahlukileyo iindlela zokuphefumla, apho, eyona nto siyicingayo, kukulawula ukuphefumla kwethu, ukuze silawule thina. Inokuqwalaselwa njenge Inkqubo "yokuphazamisa", yenziwe kakuhle kwaye ngexesha elifanelekileyo isenza sigxile kwenye into ngaphandle kwesivumelwano kunye nomzuzu ocaphukisayo onokusibangela. Ngaba ayizizo iindlela zokuphumla? Hayi, nangona isetyenzisiwe ngaphandle kokuhanjiswa ukuba inokusebenza injalo.
Uwasebenzisa nini?
Xa sinesivumelwano kwaye nanini na ukunciphisa yanele kakhulu ngokungathi kufuneka sigxile kwindawo ethile. Ayenzi ngqondo ukwenza ukuphefumla xa andinantlungu, ngendlela efanayo ukuba intloko yam ayibuhlungu, andiyithathi ipilisi yeentlungu kwaye ayenzi ngqondo ukwenza ukuphefumla xa ukudlula kudlulile, ke into ekufuneka ndiyenzile kukuyenza kuphumla kwaye wenze "umoya wasimahla."
Benza njani?
Zininzi iintlobo zeendlela ezisebenzisa ifayile ye ulawulo lokuphefumla. Kude kube kudala akufundwanga ukuba sisebenzise kangakanani na, nto leyo eyenze ukuba uye esibhedlele kunye nencwadana kwaye ubuze umzalisikazi nzima ukuba ubunabile okanye akunjalo… Ndiyakuqinisekisa. Mna, ngokobuqu, ndinomdla wokukufundisa inye kuphela indlela yokuphefumla, eya kukunceda ngokugqibeleleyo ukwanda.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukuphefumla kwethu kube isingqisho. Inye ukuphefumla kamnandi kwaye kuyasebenza ukuphefumla ngeempumlo ngokubala ngengqondo ukuya kwi-2 kwaye ukhuphe ngaphezulu lentamente ngomlomo, ngokubala ngengqondo ukuya ku-4. Sithatha umphefumlo kwaye siwukhuphe kancinci. Akungomphefumlo ungenzulu, siphefumla sigcwalisa imiphunga. Kubalulekile ukuba umphunga wenziwe kakuhle kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ube ngaphezulu kwexesha kunempembelelo. Ngamanye amaxesha xa unezicatshulwa ezomeleleyo kakhulu, ukuphefumla kwakho kunokuba ngaphezulu ngaphezulu kwaye ayisiyongxaki, ukuba nje umoya awuqali ukukhawulezisa kwaye ufike ngokukhawuleza hyperventilate...
Olu hlobo lokuphefumla, xa silusebenzisa ngaphandle kwexesha lokuhambisa, luyaphumla kwaye ngexesha lokulala kuluncedo kakhulu ukusinceda silale.
Sisebenzisa njani ngexesha lokuhambisa?
Isivumelwano siqala kwaye senza a ukuphefumla nzulu kwaye sigqibezele ukonyusa umntwana wethu ioksijini, emva koko senze imiphunga njengoko bendichazile ngaphambili, ukubala ukuya kwisine xa sikhupha umoya, njengoko ukungonwabi kuyanda, ukuphefumla kuyakhawuleza, kodwa sihlala sijonga ukuba xa sikhupha umoya sikwenza ixesha elide ukuba xa siyithathe kwaye xa ukungakhululeki kudamba sibuyele kubalo siye kwezine kunye nomphunga kude kuphele isivumelwano, ukuba sizokuphefumla Ioksijini iya kuphinda iphindaphinde umntwana wethu.
Kwaye indima yeqabane lethu?
EziPhambili. Kubalulekile ukuba uyikhumbule into yokuba ngaxa lithile kwinkqubo yokuzalwa sinokuphulukana noxinzelelo kunye ne-nerves kwaye kulapho iqabane lethu kufuneka yazi indlela yokusikhokela kwakhona ukuze sikwazi ukuphinda sibe ziinkosi zomzimba wethu kwaye singazivumeli ukuba sihanjiswe lixhala. Ukuba loo mzuzu ufikile, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe kamnandi kuwe kwaye ujonge ingqalelo yakho kwinto oyithethayo, inokukukhokela ngokubala ngokuvakalayo ngexesha lokuncipha. Ngamanye amaxesha uyakufuna inkxaso yombelekisi Ukuhamba nawe ngexesha lomsebenzi. Nje ukuba umzuzu obalulekileyo udlule, siya kubuya sigxile ezingqondweni zethu ekuphefumleleni nasekuphelelweni kwexesha.
Ingcebiso yam
- Thetha nombelekisi wakho kwaye nobabini nibhalisele Ukulungiselela ukuzalaKubalulekile ukuya kuzo zombini xa kunokwenzeka.
- Ziqhelanise Iindlela zokulawula iintlungu ngexesha lokukhulelwa ukubazi kakuhle kwaye ukwazi ukuzisebenzisa ngokuchanekileyo.
- Ngexesha lokubeleka iqabane lethu liya kuba lelona lilungileyo iqabane eyomama, kuba ukukhulelwa, ukuzala nokukhula yimicimbi emibini.