Ukuncamathiselwa komntwana kubazali bakhe, inokuba nefuthe ekukhuleni kwengqondo yomntwana kwixesha eliphakathi nelide. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile kwaye kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba usana kwasebusaneni luyakwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo kunye nokungaqhawuki nabazali balo.
Zininzi iindlela zokuncamathisela ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo xa ufundisa umntwana wakho kwaye ukuba sichaze ngokukhawuleza kwinqaku elilandelayo.
Iiklasi okanye iintlobo zokuncamathisela
Okokuqala, kufuneka kuthiwe ukunamathela akukho nto ngaphandle kokuhlangana okusekwe phakathi kosana okanye umntwana kunye nomnye umntu, kule meko kuhlala kubazali. Emva koko siza kuthetha ngeentlobo zokuncamathisela ezikhoyo kunye nendlela abanokuba nefuthe ngayo ebudaleni.
- Uhlobo lokuqala lokuncamathisela yi-inshurensi kwaye kuyo kukho ubudlelwane phakathi ubawo nonyana esekwe kunxibelelwano lomlomo kunye nolwazelelo ngendlela engaguquguqukiyo. Ngokuncamathisela okukhuselekileyo, omncinci uyazi ngamaxesha onke ukuba angathembela kubazali bakhe ngayo nantoni na ayifunayo, into emnika ukhuseleko kunye nokuzithemba. Abazali bakho ngalo lonke ixesha umntwana ebadinga kwaye oko kuyabanceda ukuba bazole kwaye bazole.
- Ukuncamathiselwa okungakhuselekanga kuyaqonda ukuba abazali ababonisi iqhina elomeleleyo phambi kwonyana wabo. Oku kunefuthe elibi kwinto encinci kwaye kunokuba nexhala okanye ukungazithembi. Ixesha elingaphezulu, umntwana uziva eyedwa ngakumbi nangakumbi kwaye eqala ukubonisa indlela yokuziphatha egwenxa kwaye engafanelekanga kubudala bakhe.
- Uhlobo lwesithathu lokuncamathisela alulungelelaniswanga. Kukuncamathisela okwenzeka kwiimeko ezinzima njengokuphathwa gadalala okanye ukuxhatshazwa. Ujongene nolu hlobo lokuncamathisela, umntwana uziva ekwinqanaba eliphezulu loxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Kwixesha elide, ihlala ibangela iingxaki ezinzulu zokuziphatha okanye zokuziphatha, iphinda ipateni.
Ukuncamathisela kubuchaphazela njani ubomi babantu abadala
Kubonakalisiwe ukuba uhlobo lokuncamathisela umntu ebuntwaneni lunokuba nefuthe leemvakalelo kunye nengqondo kubomi babantu abadala. Kwimeko apho umntwana ebenokuncamathiselwa okukhuselekileyo kwiminyaka yakhe yokuqala yobomi, akunyanzelekanga ukuba asokole naluphi na uhlobo lwezifo kwixa elizayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukunamathela okungakhuselekanga kunokubangela iingxaki ezithile zeemvakalelo ebudaleni. ezinje ngoxinzelelo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, okanye ezinye iingxaki ezichaphazela ngokuthe ngqo imeko.
Ukuncamathiselwa okunokuba nefuthe elibi kwimeko yengqondo yomntwana ngokungathandabuzekiyo kukungalungelelani. Omncinci xa efikelela ebudaleni angabinobunzima obukhulu xa kuziwa ekulawuleni iimvakalelo zabo kwaye abonise ukuxhomekeka okukhulu ngokweemvakalelo kwinqanaba lobuhlobo okanye kulwalamano lwabo lobuqu. Kukwanokwenzeka ukubonisa ukubonakala kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okunje nge-bipolar kubantu abathi ebuntwaneni babo bafumana ubunzima bokuncamathela.
Ngamafutshane, inani lokuncamathisela lidlala indima ebalulekileyo ebuntwaneni nasebomini babantu abadala. Ukuncamathiselwa okukhuselekileyo kubalulekile kwaye kubalulekile kumntwana kwixesha elizayo ukuze akwazi ukuseka ubudlelwane obunempilo obusekelwe kukuzithemba nokuzithemba. Kungumsebenzi wabazali ukuqinisa ubudlelwane obuluqilima kunye nabantwana babo ukusukela xa bebancinci. Ngokuchasene noko, ukungabikho kokuncamathiselwa ukusuka ebuntwaneni kunokuba yingozi ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye kuthabathe umthwalo kwinqanaba leemvakalelo nezengqondo, okukhokelela kwiindidi ezininzi zokuphazamiseka kuzo zonke iintlobo. Ukonwaba komntwana kuxhomekeke kakhulu kwaye ubukhulu becala kuhlobo lokuncamathisela agqibela ukulufumana kubazali bakhe.