Ngelishwa ayisiyonto ingaqhelekanga kwaye engaqhelekanga ukuba abantwana abaninzi namhlanje, bahlala bethuka abazali babo. Iingcali ngalo mbandela zilumkisa ngelithi ihambo okanye isimilo somntwana asiyonto izenzekelayo, kodwa yimfundo embi evela kubazali babo.
Umntwana akaphenduli okanye athuke ngokukhawuleza, Endaweni yokuba ebeyifunda ngenxa yemfundiso okanye imfundo efunyenwe ekhaya. Imfundo ke ngoko ibalulekile xa kuqinisekiswa ukuba umntwana uziphethe kakuhle phambi kwabazali bakhe. Kodwa wenzeni ukuba umntwana uthuka utata wakhe ngendlela yesiqhelo.
Ungamelana njani nokuthukwa ngumntwana
Kuya kufuneka uqale ngokuthi ayingabo bonke abantwana abafanayo kwaye wonke umntu unobuntu bakhe. Imfundo ke ngoko Akufuneki ifane kubo bonke abantwana kwaye uyiqhelanise neempawu zabo kunye neempawu zabo.
Uninzi lwabazali benza impazamo enkulu yokusabela kakubi ekuthukweni kwabantwana babo. Abanye bathule kwaye banike ukubaluleka okuncinci kwaye abanye bakhetha ukubabetha. Ukuthukwa komntwana kubazali bakhe ayisiyonyani kwaye kulungile ukuya kwingxaki kwaye uzame ukuqondisa indlela yokuziphatha.
Oonobangela bokuthukwa kwabantwana kubazali babo
Malunga nezizathu, kuyimfuneko ukubonisa imeko embi yabazali, ingxaki ye mvakalelo zomntwana okanye ukumanyana kwezizathu zombini. Ingxaki enkulu namhlanje kukuba imfundo efunyanwa ngabantwana ayichanekanga kwaphela kwaye ayifanelekanga.
Abazali abayazi indlela yokufundisa abantwana babo njengoko kusenzeka ezikolweni ngokwabo. Okwangoku, abantwana banayo yonke into abayicelayo nabayifunayo, ngaloo ndlela kubangela iingxaki zokuziphatha ezinzulu, ezinje ngokugculelwa kwabazali babo.
Ukuthanda izinto ezikhoyo kungoku nje ngawo onke amaxesha kwaye abantwana akunakufane bafumane amaxabiso anje ngothando, intlonipho okanye intembeko. Izinto eziphathekayo aziyiyo yonke into kwaye ngaphezu kweminyaka, abantwana baqala ukuba neengxaki ezithile zengqondo ezingakhokelela kwizithuko ezikhankanywe ngasentla kubazali babo.
Ngenxa yoku, kulungile ukuba nako ukufundisa abantwana ngendlela efanelekileyo, ubathintele ekubeni babe nayo yonke into abayifunayo kwaye kushiya bucala ukufuna ukuthenga nokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo. Kuya kufuneka baqonde ukuba kufuneka babe nentlonipho ethile kubazali babo kwaye indlela yokuziphatha embi ayinakuvunyelwa.
Ingozi yokuhlaselwa ngokwasemzimbeni
Ingxaki enkulu ngezithuko zabantwana kubazali babo kukuba kumaxesha amaninzi kuthethwa ngokuhlasela ngomlomo, kugqibela ekubeni kukuhlaselwa kwendalo ebonakalayo, kunye nomxhuzulane obandakanya oku. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukubanakho ukuphinda ufundise umntwana kwaye umthintele ukuba angasuki ekuthukeni ukuya ekuphathweni gadalala phambi kwabazali bakhe.
Kwimeko apho ungakwazi ukusombulula ingxaki enjalo yokuziphatha, kubalulekile ukuba uye kwingcali eyaziyo ukuphatha le ndlela yokuziphatha. Okwangoku apho umntwana ethatha izithuko njengezinto eziqhelekileyo neziqhelekileyo, kufuneka umse kwingcali. Kwiiseshoni ezimbalwa umntwana anokuguqula isimilo kwaye aphelise izithuko kubazali bakhe. Ngelishwa, kukho abazali abahoya kancinci kwizithuko kwaye ingxaki iya isiba nzima njengoko iminyaka ihamba. Xa umntwana sele ekhulile, kunzima ngakumbi ukumqondisa kwakhona.
Ngamafutshane, baninzi abantwana ababathukayo abazali babo ngendlela eqhelekileyo. Imfundo engonelanga kunye neengxaki ezithile zeemvakalelo zibenza babe ngoonobangela abaqhelekileyo beendlela zokuziphatha kubazali babo. Khumbula ukuba imfundo, Kuya kufuneka isekwe ekubetheleleni kubo uthotho lwamaxabiso ukongeza ekubaziseni ukuba kufuneka balandele uthotho lwemithetho.