Enye yezona zinto zixhalabisayo kutata nomama bonke kukuba abantwana babo bakhula benokuzithemba okuhle. Ukwenza abantwana bazithembe kunzima. Uninzi lwabazali lukhetha ukubhiyozela okugqithileyo, Oko kukuthi, ukubhiyozela nantoni na eyenziwa ngunyana okanye intombi yabo. Oku, kunokuba ubanike ukuzithemba, kunokubangela umphumo ochaseneyo.
Ukuncoma yonke into eyenziwa ngunyana okanye intombi yakho ayisiyondlela ilungileyo yokwakha ukuzithemba.. Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka ubancede babe nakho ukufanelekela umhlaba. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uvumele abantwana bathathe umngcipheko, bathathe izigqibo kwaye basombulule iingxaki ngokwabo. Makhe sibone iingcebiso zokuba abantwana bakhule bezithemba.
Kwenziwe ntoni ukuze abantwana bazithembe
Ukunceda abantwana bakhule bezithemba, singalujonga olu luhlu lufutshane ku bancede ukuzithemba kwabo ngaphandle kokuba ngabantwana abonakele:
- Ndiziva ndikhethekile. Kubalulekile ukunceda abantwana bafumane ezabo iitalente kunye neempawu, kwaye ngakumbi ukuwaxabisa. Oku kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka ubafundise ukuba bazive bebodwa ngenxa yeempawu zabo, kodwa hayi ngenxa yokuba beziva bhetele okanye bengaphezulu kwabanye.
- Zibekele iinjongo. Kukwabalulekile ukufundisa abantwana ukuba basebenze ngokubonakalayo, iinjongo ezinokufikelelwa, kwaye bazive benelunda xa bezifezekisile.
- Unganikezeli. Abasayi kuhlala bezifezekisa iinjongo zabo, ke kubalulekile ukuba ubakhuthaze ukuba baqhubeke bezama de benze, bazingise. Ukuba abafezekisi iinjongo zabo ngenye indlela, baya kuyiphumeza enye ukuba abayeki. Ngale ndlela bayakufunda ukujongana nemvakalelo yokudana, kunye neyokoyisa imiqobo.
Ukulandela olu luhlu, makhe sibone ezinye iingcebiso kubantwana ukuze bakhule bezithemba.
Ukuncoma abantwana kakhulu kwenza okubi kunokulungileyo
Ukuncoma abantwana ngayo nantoni na abayenzayo akukhuthazwa. Kungenxa yokuba, ngokunganyanzelekanga, siyehlise ibha kubo, oko kukuthi, sithumela umyalezo wokuba awudingi kwenza mzamo kuba yonke into oyenzayo uyenza kakuhle. Kodwa Ukuzithemba kuza ngokwenza, ngokuzama, ukusilela kunye nokuzama kwakhona, oko kukuthi, kukuziqhelanisa.
Kananjalo, ukumxelela rhoqo ukuba ungoyena ulungileyo, okrelekrele, oyena mhle, eyona… yonke into, umenzela isimanga esibi kwixesha elizayo. A) Ewe umntwana uba ngumntu ocinga ukuba yonke into ayenzayo yeyona ilungileyo, kwaye xa ufumanisa ukuba oku akunjalo, kunokubangela ukuba ube mkhulu Imiba yokuzithemba.
Ukuzincoma ngokugqithileyo kunokubenza bacinge ukuba bagqibelele, okanye kufuneka bahlale begqibelele, into engenakwenzeka. Xa umntwana enconywa nokuba wenza into engalunganga, umntwana uyazi ukuba wenza into engalunganga kodwa afumane ihlombe, lonto iyamdida. Le ndlela funda ukungazithembi iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ukuncoma akukho nto ngaphandle kokuxoka.
Nangona kunjalo, indumiso esetyenziswe kakuhle yintsika ebalulekileyo yokuzithemba. Oko kukuthi, ungancomi nantoni na eyenziwa ngumntwana. Ukuba abantwana bakho bayasokola ukufezekisa into, ke ukubancoma kuyinto eqhelekileyo kuba baya kuyifumana. Oku kuyakomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho ngakumbi kunokudumisa rhoqo.
Vumela abantwana bakho benze izigqibo zokuqiniseka ngeziqu zabo
Abantwana akufuneki basindiswe kuzo zonke iimeko eziyingozi abajongana nazo. Abantwana kufuneka bazenzele izigqibo, kwaye bafunde ukuthatha uxanduva kubo. Ukuba abazali bahlala bethatha uxanduva ngezigqibo zabo ezimbi, emva koko abafundanga kwaye ngekhe bakubeke emngciphekweni wokucinga ukuba abazali babo baya kubakho ukusombulula iingxaki zabo.
Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ufuna amanzi kwaye uthatha ijagi okanye ibhotile yokubeka iglasi, kodwa inkulu kakhulu kwaye inzima kuye, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kuye ukuyigalela ayigcwalise ngamanzi. Kule meko, uninzi lwabazali luya kungxama ukuya kuthatha ibhotile okanye ijagi ukunqanda intlekele. Kodwa ukuba umntwana uphalaza amanzi, emva koko ucoca ukungcola akwenzileyo ngesigqibo sakhe esibi, funda ukuba xa ungenakwenza nto, ungacela uncedo kubantu abadala.
Khuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba bagqibezele imisebenzi ukuze bazithembe
Ukuphuhlisa ukuzithemba kwabo, abantwana Bafuna amathuba okubonisa ubuchule babo kwaye baziva ukuba uncedo lwabo luxabisekile. Izinto ezilula njengokulungisa igumbi lakho, ukulala, ukubeka itafile, njl. are imisebenzi elula Banokuthi bathathe uxanduva kwaye bazive beluncedo. Kananjalo, ngamaxesha athile, ungabacela uncedo xa usenza ukutya okanye uyokuthenga isonka, kwaye ubabulele ukuze bazi ukuba baluncedo kakhulu.
Ukubakhuthaza ukuba bathathe imisebenzi ababonisa umdla kuyo kwaye baqiniseke ukuba bayayigqiba yenye indlela yokunyusa ukuzithemba kwabo. Umzekelo, ukuba bayincutshe kwezemidlalo, bakhuthaze ukuba baphucule indlela abaqhuba ngayo, badlale umdlalo wevidiyo, okanye bazobe into abayithandayo. Injongo kule meko yile ukuba baqala into abayithandayo kwaye abayishiyi isiqingatha, ukuze bazive bonelisekile ngokufikelela usukelo.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa abantwana besilela
Xa ukuzithemba kwabantwana kuyehla ngokungafumani into abayifunayo, abazali bayoyika. Kusengqiqweni ukukhathazeka ucinga ukuba baya kuphulukana nokuzithemba kwabo., kodwa enyanisweni lithuba lokuba abantwana bancede ekuphuhliseni. Ke ngoko, musa ukothuka xa oku kusenzeka, kungcono ukuba usebenzise ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo.
Yenza kucace ukuba uthando lwakho alunamibandela
Yenza umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba ukusilela okanye ukwenza iimpazamo akuphazamisi kuyo, kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kuthi sonke. Unokuziva ukuba ngokusilela kwinto uyaphoxa abantu obathandayo, ngakumbi ukuba ucinga ukuba banolindelo oluphezulu kwimpumelelo yakho. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba ulahlekelwe lukholo kwixabiso lakho, kungoko kubalulekile ukuba uyijongele phantsi intsilelo oziva ngayo. Umsebenzi kukwenza ukuba abone ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akhe, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo iziphumo ziya kuba ngcono kakhulu kwixesha elizayo, kuba ufundile kwiimpazamo zakhe.
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana abone ngaphezulu kwesiphumo, into ebalulekileyo ngumsebenzi owenzileyo ukuzama ukufezekisa injongo yakho, kwaye yonke into ayifundileyo, Kwaye ngenxa yoko, abazali bakhe bayazingca ngomzamo wakhe. Oku, okuyakuthi kubeyinyani, kuya kwenza ukuba umntwana abone ukuzithemba kwakhe komelele, kwaye afumane amandla okuqhubeka nokuzama ade afezekise injongo yakhe.
Qiniseka ukuba iinjongo zabantwana bakho ziyinyani
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bazibekela iinjongo ezingafikelelekiyo kwaye oku kubangela ukuba inqanaba labo lokudideka lenyuke ngendlela eyothusayo. Kungoko kubalulekile ukuba abazali babe nomdla kwinto abantwana babo abafuna ukuyiphumeza. Ukuziva ukhathalelwe kwaye ukhokelwa ngabazali kuya kuyomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho. Nokuba abantwana bathatha uxanduva ngezigqibo zabo, nokuba bayaphumelela okanye akunjalo, kwaye yonke indlela yokufezekiswa kweenjongo zabo, abazali babo bahlala bekhona.
Ukuziva bexhaswa ngabazali babo kuya komeleza ukuzithemba kwabo. Ke ngoko, isikhokelo sakho kubalulekile. Ukuba ubona ukuba abantwana bakho baneenjongo ezingafikelelekiyo, bakhuthaze ukuba bacinge ukuba ngaphambi kokuba bafezekise le nto bayifunayo, banokufikelela kwizinto ezincinci abaziphumezayo apha endleleni, ezibasondeza kwinto abayifunayo kakhulu.