NgoLwesibini iphephandaba I-Telegraph ityhile ibali elinomdla kunye no-Thomas WhittenKwiminyaka emi-2 eyadlulayo enye yeentombi zakhe (uFox oneminyaka emibini ngoku) wafumana i-salmonellosis, kwaye ngaxa lithile, wangena eshaweni kunye naye: ukwangana nokucoca konke kube kanye (uyazi ukuba izifo zendlela yokwetyisa zinjani). UHeather, ongumama, kwaye umfoti (ukuba uchanekile) uthathe umfanekiso wabo, lowo umbona entlokweni.
Emva kokwabelana ngeprofayile yakhe kuFacebook, kuye kwafuneka ayirhoxe kabini, xa abanye babasebenzisi benethiwekhi yokuncwina bekhalaza. Ekuzithetheleleni, umama kaFox, onabantwana abathathu, ubanga ukuba uyavuma ukuba umntu othile angaziva engonwabanga ngefoto, kodwa leliphi ilungelo abanye abanalo lokumxelela ukuba zeziphi izinto abanokwabelana ngazo (kwaye yintoni) ngobomi bentsapho. Ingxaki ephambili ibonakala ngathi umxholo wawutolikwe gwenxa, kubangelwa imixholo yesondo okanye yokuxhaphaza abantwana (Oko kukuthi, yintoni?).
Yintoni ephosakeleyo ngokubonisa ubuze esidlangalaleni?
Masibone ukuba ndiyazichaza na: ubunqunu bubonakala buyindalo kum kwaye buhluthwe naluphi na uluvo olugqwethekileyo, nangona uninzi lwabantu lunyanzelisile ukuba lundifundise ukuba ndiqwalasele inyani yokwenza umzimba ubonakale (njalo, hayi ngaphezulu) ngaphantsi kwesenzo esingcolileyo . Nangona kunjalo, Ndiyayiqonda into yokuba abanye abantu baziva bengonwabanga okanye bacinga ukuba ayifanelekanga umbono wento elula uhamba ze kwinethiwekhi yoluntu okanye kwimagazini. Isisombululo kula matyala asikokuya kunxweme lolwandle okanye ungakhangeli kwifoto ngaphezulu kwemizuzwana emi-2, ngaba ilula, akunjalo?Okanye hayi?
Ndidiniwe kukungakwazi ukwabelana ngamaxwebhu endiwafumanayo njengeevidiyo zokuzalwa, iifoto zokuncancisa, kuba kuhlala kusoloko kukho umntu onengxaki yokudana ingxelo (nokuba ufunda iimeko zenethiwekhi ethile kuyaqondakala ukuba akukho lwaphulo-mthetho). Bayakuvimba, bacime umxholo, kwaye ukuba uyazingisa, uya kuba ziintsuku ezininzi ungakhange upapashe. Kusafuneka ndijongile ukuba abazali abahlamba namantombazana okanye amakhwenkwe abo abafuni na ukwabelana ngamava nawo! Masibone, andikuthandi ukuxelela abantwana izinto zam kuba ndiqonda ukuba banelungelo lokuzimela ngasese kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abazali sidlula kubo, kodwa elowo enze into ayifunayo kwezi meko.
Ndiyazibuza ngenye impoxo, ingaba ingxaki yokubona umzali eshaweni nenzala yakhe okanye ukuba ibingumama endaweni katata, ngekungekho mntu ubekhalaza? Kungenxa yokuba ndiyazi ngaphezulu koyise omnye nangaphezulu kwesibini esihlamba nabantwana, kwaye kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele loo mava, kuba ixesha liyadlula kwaye xa uqaphela ukuba abasengabantwana abancinci kwaye abafuni nokukubona xa upeyinta.
Uze ze.
Ndiyoyika into efanayo eyenzekayo ukusabela ekuphenduleni ekuncanciseni esidlangalaleni: "Ndiyakuthanda ukubona loo modeli kunye namabele akhe evezwe kwindawo yokukhusela ibhasi, kodwa oh hayi, umama oncelisayo, oko kungaphaya kwam!" Kule meko kuya kuba "jonga ukuba yeyiphi ifoto entle yomfazi ngaphandle kwempahla egone indoda enxibe impahla yangaphantsi (kubalulekile ukuba amantombazana abonise yonke into, ngelixa banokunxiba kwanezinye iimpahla - ndiyitsho ngokuhlekisayo, kulungile-) ukuba bathengise ikholoni kodwa hayi, ayinguye loo tata weenwele esifubeni owanga intombazana yakhe encinci, nceda! Bakholelwe ntoni?"
Ndicacisa ukuba ndinamathandabuzo malunga nokulunga kokuba nezinto ezinomdla kakhulu kubudlelwane neqabane okanye nabantwana, kuba yile nto ikwi-Intanethi, ihlala apho ngokungenammiselo, kwaye kwimeko yabantwana, Ndiyoyika ukuba ngaphezulu kwesinye nesinye aziyi kuhlekiswa kakhulu kwixa elizayo ngumnqweno wokubhengeza ukuba babenabo abazali babo. Kuphela kwam "kodwa".
Nangona kunjalo, ukujonga ngolunya kuyo yonke indawo, kwaye bafuna ukubona i-pedophilia (umzekelo) apho kungekho nanye; Ngapha koko, sele yenzekile igcisa laseDenmark uTorben Chris ovele emfanekisweni ehlamba ngokutyebileyo kunye nentombazana yakhe encinci, kwaye baxhoma isanbenito "bengayityanga okanye bayisele". Yiyo leyo, kufuneka uyibone! njengoko sibaxa yonke into.
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Ndikopa ngamazwi kuba kukho izinto eziqondwa ngcono ngolu hlobo:
Umxholo ohamba ze ngamanye amaxesha kwabelwana ngawo ngenjongo ezithile, ezinje ngemikhankaso yokwazisa okanye iiprojekthi zobugcisa. Sithintela umboniso wabanquli ukunqanda ukuba amanye amacandelo oluntu lwethu abonisa ubuntununtunu obukhethekileyo kuwo anokuziva kakubi; ngakumbi, ngenxa yemeko yenkcubeko okanye ubudala.
...Siphelisa iifoto ezibonisa amalungu esini okanye iimpundu xa zizonke kwaye ngokuthe ngqo.
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Ke babhekisa kokungalunganga kokubonisa izenzo zesondo, njl. Ndicinga ukuba icacile, akunjalo? Bathi bathintela ubuze kwaye basusa iifoto ezibonisa amalungu esini okanye iimpundu xa zizonke; bakubona kufanelekile ukubonisa izenzo zesondo. Ukuthatha ingqalelo kwimithetho yoluntu yenethiwekhi yoluntu (kunye nokuqonda ukukhangela ibhalansi xa umsebenzisi ekhalaza), kubonakala ngathi lo mfanekiso ungathathwa njengongalunganga.
Ngokoluvo lwam, umbono ogqwetheke kakhulu ngobunqunu, kwanokwabelana ngesondo, uphambene ngokupheleleyo, kwaye inegalelo kuphela ekugcineni iitabo ezithile ekuya kufuneka ukuba zigxothwe. Kwaye ndiyishiya apha.
Hi ndlela leyi (ungalibali) emva kokupapasha okwesihlandlo sesithathu, usapho lukwazile ukoyisa izihluzo zokuhlola, kwaye umfanekiso uhlala okomzuzwana.
Umfanekiso - UHeather ubethwe