Iindlela zokuziphatha zabazali ezenza ukuba imfundo ibenzima

Bonke abazali bafuna ukuba abantwana bethu bafundiswe kakuhle kwaye bakhule bekhula kakuhle ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Kungenxa yoko le nto sikhathalela ukuba baye kwisikolo esihle, imisebenzi yasemva kokuphuma kwesikolo ukuba bayazenza zikumgangatho kwaye ukongeza, sifuna ukuba bazive ukuba banakho ukuphumeza nantoni na abazimisele ukuyenza ebomini. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha siyalibala into ebaluleke ngakumbi ... Ukuziphatha kwabazali kunokwenza imfundo nayo yonke imigudu ibe nzima.

Nokuba ufuna ngamandla akho onke ukuba abantwana bakho babe nemfundo elungileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba uneendlela ezithile zokuziphatha kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla okuthintela imfundo elungileyo yabantwana bakho. Yiyo loo nto namhlanje ndifuna ukuthetha nawe ngezinye zezi ndlela zokuziphatha ezinokuba nazo nabazenza nzima imfundo.

Zikhusele kakhulu

Siphila kwihlabathi apho ingozi iya kuhlala ikho kwaye abazali bayazi ukuba ukhuseleko luza kuqala. Abazali abaninzi bahlala kuloyiko olungagungqiyo ukuba kukho into eyenzekileyo ebantwaneni babo kwaye benze konke okusemandleni ukubakhusela. Kodwa ngaphandle kokuqonda sizibekele bucala iindlela zokuziphatha ezisemngciphekweni kwaye oku kube nefuthe elibi kwindaleko yabantwana bethu.

Iingcali zengqondo zifumanise ukuba ukuba umntwana akadlali ngaphandle okanye akaze avunyelwe ukuba awele kwaye akrobe idolo, baya kukhula bakhule babe ne-phobias njengomntu omdala. Abantwana kufuneka bawe ukuze bafunde ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo, abafikisayo banokuba sothandweni kwaye baya kufuna ukukhula ngokweemvakalelo ukuze babe nolwalamano oluhlala ixesha elide. Ukuba abazali bawuphelise ngokupheleleyo umngcipheko kubomi babantwana babo kwaye babakhusela kakhulu, kunokwenzeka ukuba bazithembe kwaye azikhuli ngokuchanekileyo kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, zikubangela iingxaki zeemvakalelo kwixesha elizayo.

Sukuvumela ukuba basombulule iingxaki zakho

Isizukulwana solutsha esikhoyo asikaphuhlisi izakhono ezifanayo nezenziwa lulutsha kwiminyaka engama-30 eyadlulayo. Oku kwenzeka kuba baninzi abazali abakhathalela ukusombulula iingxaki zabantwana babo kwaye babathintele phantse ngaphandle kokuyiqonda ... ithuba lokukhula kwaye bazive bonelisekile kukuba bekwazile ukuzisombululela okuthile.  Abazali kufuneka babe ngabakhokeli, hayi abahlanguli abaqhubekayo. 

Xa abantwana nabakwishumi elivisayo behlangulwa kwaye bengavunyelwa ukuba bafunde ekusombululeni iingxaki, ususa isidingo sokuhamba phakathi kobunzima nokusombulula iingxaki ngokwazo. Nokuba ucinga ukuba kulungile, isebenza kuphela okwethutyana elifutshane kuba kwixesha elizayo uya kube usenza okubi ngakumbi kunokuba ulungile. Kungekudala, abantwana baya kubaqhela abanye ekusombululeni iingxaki zabo kwaye baya kucinga ukuba akukho mfuneko yokwenza umzamo kuba abanye baya kuzicombulula. Baza kuqala ukuba neendlela zokuziphatha ezimbi kuba 'abanye' baya kuba noxanduva kuloo nto. Xa enyanisweni, ayisiyiyo indlela elisebenza ngayo ilizwe kwaye usenza ukuba umntwana wakho angakwazi ukukhula njengomntu omdala ofanelekileyo.

Ukugqithisa

Kukho abazali abadumisa abantwana babo amaxesha amaninzi ngeenzame zokukhulisa ukuzithemba kwabo okanye ukungaziva kakubi ngexa elithile. Kodwa inyani kukuba xa abantwana benconywa kakhulu benza ukuba abantwana bazive bebodwa kodwa ineziphumo ezingalungelanga ukukhula kwexesha elizayo kwabantwana.

Abantwana baya kuqaphela njengoko ixesha lihamba ukuba ngabazali babo kuphela abacinga ukuba bayoyikeka kwaye abekho abanye abantu abacinga njalo. Bazakuqala ukuthandabuza ukungakhathali kwabazali babo kwaye nangona beziva kamnandi ngalo mzuzu, abayi kudibana nenyani. Abayi kwazi ukuba ngenene mabazame ngamandla ukuphucula okanye hayi… Xa benconywa ngokulula kakhulu, ukungakhathali kwihambo embi nako kuneziqhamo ezibi. Abantwana ngokuhamba kwexesha bafunda ukukopela, ukubaxa izinto nokuxoka ukunqanda ubunzima obunzima kuba abafundiswanga ukujongana nabo.

Musa ukunika into engento ukuphepha ukuziva unetyala

Abantwana bakho abasayi kukuthanda ngawo wonke umzuzu wobomi babo. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukulawula ukuphoxeka okanye ukukhathazeka ngenxa yokuba akusoloko kufuneka bafumane yonke into abayifunayo. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuthi 'hayi' okanye 'hayi ngoku' kwimfundo yabantwana, kananjalo, rhoqo. Abantwana kufuneka baqonde kwaye bahlule ukuba yeyiphi iminqweno kwinto efunekayo.

Uninzi lwabazali banotyekelo lokunika abantwana babo yonke into abayifunayo okanye ukubanika umvuzo ongaphezulu kokufunekayo ukuze babone bonwabile. Xa umntwana esenza into kakuhle, sikholelwa ukuba kufanelekile ukumdumisa kwaye simvuze ngalo lonke ixesha. Oku kuyinyani kwaye kubangela ukuba umntwana aphoswe lithuba lokuqonda ukuba impumelelo ixhomekeke kwizenzo zethu, ekufuneka zichanekile. Nokuba yeyiphi na imbuyekezo okanye indumiso, kuba lulwaneliseko lomntu olubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba imfundo kunye nabantwana bakho isekwe kwimbuyekezo yezinto eziphathekayo, abantwana abayi kuba nakho ukukhuthazeka okungaphakathi, abayi kuva ubizo okanye uthando olungenamiqathango kuyo nantoni na.

Sidida ubukrelekrele ngokukhula okanye ngetalente

Ubukrelekrele buhlala busetyenziswa njengenyathelo lokukhula komntwana kwaye ngenxa yoko, abazali bacinga ukuba umntwana wabo ukrelekrele kwaye ukulungele ukungena kwihlabathi… kodwa oku akusoloko kunjalo. Abanye abadlali abaziintshatsheli kunye neenkwenkwezi zeemovie banetalente enkulu okanye ubukrelekrele kwindawo enye, kodwa ziintlekele kubomi babo babucala.

Inyaniso yokuba ubukrelekrele bukho kubomi babantwana ayithethi ukuba igcwele kuzo zonke iindawo. Akukho budala besininzi esinobugqi okanye obubonisa ukuba umntwana unelungelo lokufumana inkululeko engakumbi okanye engaphantsi ... kodwa kuyafuneka ukubajonga abantwana ukuze bazi ukuba banako na ukuba nenkululeko okanye inkululeko engakumbi, okanye hayi.

Ukongeza, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ukuze imfundo yabantwana bakho ingachaphazeleki kakhulu, kufuneka ube ngumzekelo wokuziphatha. Cinga ngeendlela zokuziphatha ezinokuthi zingamncedi ukuba akhule kwaye aphucule, kwaye uziphucule kuwe kuqala.