Ukufunda malunga nokuncancisa akufani nokuziva ngendlela esondeleyo.
Baninzi kuthi abalwela ukuncancisa kwaye zisanyisa ixesha elide, kwaye ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa umbono wokuba umama nonyana ngabo banegama lokugqibela ngalo mbandela. Indima kamama kule nkqubo inokubandakanyeka kwiimvakalelo ezinzulu xa abanye bephazamisa. Uya kufumanisa ukuba zeziphi ezingezantsi.
Kukho iimvakalelo zokuba lusizi kunye nesizungu xa ngoomama, kungasathethwa ke xa ukhetha ukuncancisa umntwana wakho. Umtya wokuntywila owasetyhini kunye nomama unokudina, hayi kuphela ngenxa yayo yonke into ayithwele ngasemva: ikhaya, umsebenzi, ukukhulisa umntwana ..., kodwa ngenxa yokuba imeko yosapho kunye noluntu lubekwe phambi kwakhe ukuba anike uluvo, gweba kwaye uthathe isigqibo, okanye ubuncinci uzame rhoqo.
Xa owasetyhini ethatha isigqibo sokuba ngumama, uyaqiniseka kwaye uqinisekile ukuba ufuna ukujongana nenqanaba elitsha, elihle kwaye kwangaxeshanye linzima kakhulu. Xa uthatha isigqibo sokuba ngumama nesibini, kuyacaca ukuba niyathetha phakathi kwenu nobabini. Phakathi kwezi zimbini, uninzi lweemfundiso ezilandelayo eziza kusetyenziswa emntwaneni zigqityiwe, kodwa akufuneki silibale ukuba zonke ziingqikelelo kunye nemibono yangaphambili. Ukuba ngumama, ukuqonda, ukuxabisa, ukwenza umthambo ..., ude umbambe umntwana, umjonge kwaye uyazazi, awazi kwanto. Kude kube lelo xesha kanye, awunakukhetha enye indlela okanye enye.
Kulapho ingxaki isekiwe. Kwelinye icala, abo babelindele ukuba wenze ngendlela, okanye ababevumelene nawe ngezigqibo ezithile, Banokuziva bekhohlisiwe emva kotshintsho abalubonayo kwizenzo zakho. Njengoko ndithetha, umfazi unokucinga ukuba uya kwenza izinto ngandlela-thile, kodwa oku akunakuqina ngokuxabiseka kobuso, ngaphandle kokubala kwizinto ezaziwayo ukusuka ekuzalweni kosana.
Umfazi unokucinga ukuba uya kuncancisa iinyanga ezintathu okanye ezine, ukuba akazukuba naye ebhedini yakhe, kodwa Ayifani nokucinga ngayo njengokuphila, ukuziva, unoxanduva lokuba ngumntu. Ukuncancisa kubonakala kubanda xa kuthethwa ngaye, kodwa umama, oqala ukuncancisa, uhlala esiya kwelinye icala leemvakalelo kwaye angafumani sizathu sokwenene sokuyeka ukukwenza.
Indalo esingqongileyo kunye noluntu malunga nokuncancisa
Ukuba ngumama yeyona nto intle ikhona, kodwa kunokuba nzima. Kwabasetyhini, amandla engqondo nawomzimba kufuneka angqinelane, ukuze angabi buthathaka. Ukuba, ukongezwa kwinqanaba elitsha ngokwalo, wongeza ukuncancisa umntwana, umthwalo weemvakalelo unokugqitha kwimida engalindelekanga. Ngenxa yoko kwaye yonke into iyanyamezeleka, indalo kufuneka ihlale inentsebenziswano kwaye owasetyhini omelele kwaye azithembe.
Emva kokuba ngumama kwaye Lonke utshintsho olwenzekayo emzimbeni nasengqondweni, umntu wasetyhini angangena kwi Ukudakumba emva kokubeleka, kwaye imvakalelo yakhe yokuziva enetyala inyuswa ngokungafumani mpendulo kwinto eyenzekayo kuye. Uluntu kufuneka lwenze uhlalutyo lwesazela kwaye lusebenze ukuze ngexesha lokuba ngumama kwaye ngakumbi ukuncancisa, umfazi angaziva exhaswa kwaye akukho tyala lokuba nesizungu nokwaliwa.
Kubuhlungu ukuba abo bakuthanda kakhulu abahlali ecaleni kwakho kwaye bazixhase izigqibo zakho.
Kuba unomntwana wakho kwaye uhlala kwiimeko ezithile kulusu lwakho, imeko yakho iyatshintsha. Ukufunda malunga nokuncancisa, ukuva malunga nezibonelelo zenu nobabini, akufani nokuziva usondele kangaka. Uninzi lwethu luyazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuncancisa, ibhondi yinto engachazekiyo kwaye ikhethekileyo, ngenxa yoko, Abo bangababukeli nje banokungayiqondi into esivakalelwa ngayo njengoomama. Kungoko isithukuthezi sikamama ogqiba kwelokuba akhethe ukuncancisa.
Iintsapho, izibini ezitshatileyo ..., abo babethethile ngalo mbandela ngaphambi kokuba umntwana afike familia, zenziwe zinelungelo lokuyalela amanyathelo athile kamva. Ingxoxo eqhubekayo yenziwa malunga nayo, iphefumlelwe emoyeni. Kumama ogqiba ekubeni aqhubeke nokuncancisa, akukho nxaso kwezentlalo kwaye uhlala ekhatyiwe okanye evezwe kuvavanyo. Kuluntu lokuncancisa umntwana ngaphaya kweenyanga ezi-6 okanye unyaka sele umde, ye-WHO, ukuncancisa kufuneka kuhambisane kude kube kubudala beminyaka emi-2 kwaye ukusukela ngoko ukuya kuthi ga kumama nomntwana.
Xa oku kusenzeka, umama akusafuneki ukuba ajongane nengxaki yeemvakalelo ebandakanya ukuba ngumama, kodwa kufuneka jongana nezimvo ezingapheliyo ezikuxelela ukuba lixesha lokuba uyeke ukuncancisa yonke imihla, ukuba umntwana umkhulu kakhulu kwaye umenza kakubi ukuzimela kwakhe, ukuzenzela umfanekiso kunye nokukhula komntu, akukho nto iqhubekayo kwinyani. Kubuhlungu ukuba abo bakuthanda kakhulu abahlali ecaleni kwakho kwaye bazixhase izigqibo zakho.
Ukuziva ulahlwa ngabanye kukuzingca kwaye ukhohlakele, ngokucacileyo ipesenti yokungazi okanye ipasotism inokugqitywa. Kunzima ukuba bangazibeki ecaleni konina okanye bavelane naye kunye neminqweno yomntwana, ngakumbi nangakumbi xa esi senzo singonzakalisi mntu. Oomama kufuneka babenamandla okujongana nokujongana nabo basirhangqe ngezimvo zabo kwaye bazimisele njengabasindisi be isenzo esiqhubekekayo kuba sesona silungileyo sinokusinika abantwana bethu.
Singomama kwaye ke singabafazi, ekufuneka kuthi, njengakwimibandela emininzi yobomi bethu, azithethelele ngezenzo zethu kwabanye, ngokungathi asinakuzenzela izigqibo. Kufuneka sikhumbule ngendlela eyoyikekayo ukuba bangabantwana bethu. Ayizizo zonke izinto ezilula kangaka. Oogqirha babantwana, abazali, oomakhulu ..., akukho lula kangako ukuqala inkqubo okanye ukwenza isigqibo kunye notshintsho ngobusuku obunye okanye usete ixesha elimisiweyo. Ukuba wonke umntu wanelisekile ukuya kwiinyanga ezi-6 ubudala, kwenzeka ntoni emva koko ukutshintsha izimvo zabo? Sisebenzela ukulungelwa kwabantwana bethu kwaye kufuneka sinoxanduva kwaye sihambelane neenjongo zethu. Le ndlela yile sifuna ukuba abantwana bethu bayithathe.