Uxinzelelo lwesikolo lubi kakhulu kubantwana abaphethwe lulo nakubazali ababona ukuba abantwana babo banzima. Kodwa inyani kukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo nangona bengasoloko benendlela efanayo yokuzibonakalisa. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana babonakala begula (intloko ebuhlungu okanye isisu) kwaye ngamanye amaxesha inokubonisa njengomsindo, isimilo sokuvukela, okanye ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezingalunganga.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abazali abayazi indlela yokwahlulahlula yintoni ixhala kwaye kufuneka bayazi ukuba yintoni kwaye ayisiyiyo. Kodwa ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into kufuneka beyazi indlela yokujongana nayo ukuze unyana okanye intombi yabo iphinde incume ngolonwabo kwakhona kwaye bonwabele ubuntwana babo obuhle.
Yintoni oxhalabisayo HAYI
Ukwahlukana koxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lwesikolo akunanto yakwenza nokuziphatha, indlela yokuziphatha evukelayo, okanye ukuba ngumzali ongalunganga kwaphela. Nabani na owaziyo ukuba umntwana wakho unexhala, into yokugqibela ekufuneka ayenze kukuziva kakubi ngayo. Baza kuzama nantoni na ukwenza abantwana babo bazive bonwabile kwakhona. Kodwa Unxunguphalo asikokuziphatha nje okungalunganga okanye isimilo semvukeloInento yokwenza neemvakalelo ezingenakuqondwa kwaye eziva zisoyikisa okanye ziyingozi, nokuba akukho bubi bokwenyani.
Ukuba nomsindo akusebenzi
Ukuxhalaba esikolweni ayisiyonto yokungafuni ukusebenza okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle, luxinzelelo. Yimpendulo yomzimba ecinga ukuba kukho ingozi. Ngamanye amaxesha unxunguphalo luqhutywa luloyiko lokuba into embi izakwenzeka nokuba phakathi kwesikolo okanye kubazali kuba bengekho. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhalaba kubonakala kwaye akubangelwa nantoni na. Nokuba akukho ngozi yokwenyani ayinamsebenzi, uninzi lwabantwana abanexhala abazi ukuba akukho nto banokukhathazeka ngayo, kuba nangona beziva ngokwahlukileyo. Ingqondo yabo ibashukumisela ukuba bazive besoyikisa ngokungathi iyinyani.
Xa oku kusenzeka, "ukulwa okanye ukubhabha" impendulo yenza umzimba kunye nee-neurochemicals zibonakale zijongana nesoyikiso esityholwayo. Ngesi sizathu, unxunguphalo lunokubonakala ngathi kukucaphuka okanye ukungavumi kwinto ethile, kodwa kuphela kukuphendula komzimba apho ingqondo ithi qwa khona.. Xa ubona ukuba umntwana wakho unexhala lesikolo okanye ixhala, akufanelekile ukuba ube nomsindo ngaye Ngokuziphatha kwakhe, oku kuya kwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi. Kuyimfuneko ukuba umntwana azive eqondwa kwaye uyazi ukuba uya kuba ecaleni kwakhe ukufumanisa ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwaye afune izisombululo eziyimfuneko.
Abantu banomdla wendalo wokuzigcina sikhuselekile ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into, yinto ezenzekelayo kunye nethuku. Kungako kunjalo ukuba uyamcaphukisa umntwana wakho okanye ukohlwaya ngekhe kusebenze. Ukuba umntwana wakho akaziva kakuhle esikolweni, kuya kufuneka ukuba ufumanise ukuba kwenzeka ntoni na ukufumana isisombululo. Xa ujongene nomntwana oxhalabileyo uya kujongana nengqondo ekumlo okanye kwimowudi yokubhabha, kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba le meko inokubuyiselwa umva.
Kutheni le nto uxhalaba lubonakala?
Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uxinzelelo lwesikolo alunanto yakwenza neengxaki zokuxhatshazwa, iingxaki zobuhlobo okanye iingxaki nootitshala abafuna olunye uhlobo longenelelo. Ootitshala ngokubanzi bayazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwaye yiyo loo nto ke kufuneka kuqala kuthethwe notitshala ukuze babe nembono ecace gca malunga nokuba kungenzeka ntoni. Ukuba yonke into ibonakala ilungile kodwa umntwana wakho ukhathazekile, kukho into ngokucacileyo engahambi kakuhle njengoko ibonakala.
Ixhala linendlela yokwenza ukuba abantu bazive ngathi abalawulwa, ke ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuthaza ulawulo ebantwaneni kwaye bazive ngathi banokukhetha ezinye iindlela ezizezona zibalungeleyo okanye ezibenza bazive begqibelele.
Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo xa umntwana wakho enexhala lesikolo
Ukuxhalaba akuyiyo intshaba
Ixhala alilo tshaba kwaye abantwana kufuneka bakuqonde oku ukuze baqonde ngcono ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubo. Xa ixhala livela, ihlala isilumkiso sokuba kukho into engasenzi sizive sonwabile kwaye kufuneka sisombulule ukuze buyela kwimeko yethu yokuqala yokuzola. Ngale ndlela, ukuba unobangela ufunyenwe obangela ukungonwabi komntwana xa engafuni ukuya esikolweni okanye xa enexhala, kunokukhangelwa isisombululo kunye.
Awunyanzelekanga ukuba uphephe ixhala, kufuneka uyiqonde. Xa umntwana wakho ekuqonda oku, banokuziva bebhetele kwaye babe nesibindi ngakumbi. Umntwana wakho kufuneka aphumle kwaye ave ukhuseleko oluza kumenza azole, ekuphela kwendlela yokufezekisa oku kukuba aqonde ukuba ukhuselekile kwaye lo myalezo kufuneka uvele kuwe, njengotata okanye umama ... kufuneka ubonelele ngokwasemzimbeni. ukhuseleko kunye neemvakalelo.
Umntwana wakho kuya kufuneka aphumle kwaye angakwenza oku ngokuhamba nawe ukucoca ingqondo yakhe. Uya kudinga umbutho ngakumbi ekhaya nasesikolweni. Ukuba isizathu sokukhathazeka kwakhe kukuba akaqhubi kakuhle ezifundweni, kuya kufuneka umnike ngoncedo oluyimfuneko ukuze afikelele kubuchule bakhe bengqondo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho akhumbule yonke imihla ukuba ukhuselekile, nokuba yonke into ilungile. Iindlela zibalulekile, kodwa kunjalo nothando kunye nokufudumala kosapho, ke ungathandabuzi ukumbhalela amabinzana kwaye uhlale usendlini yakhe ukuze ukwazi ukuwafunda xa eyifuna. Amanye ala mabinzana anokuba:
- Abahlobo bakho bakukhathalele kwaye basesikolweni
- Unesibindi, womelele
- Utitshala wakho uya kuba ecaleni kwakho kwaye akuncede kuyo yonke into oyifunayo, akasayi kuvumela nantoni na ukuba yenzeke kuwe
- Isikolo sikunceda ukuba ubukrelekrele kwaye woyike ngakumbi
- Ungafezekisa yonke into oyicebisayo ngokuzimisela kunye nomzamo
- Thatha umoya omninzi ukuze uzolise ingqondo yakho
- Ndiyakuthanda mzuzu ngamnye