Ukuba umntwana wakho udlala noonodoli inokuba yinxalenye yemeko yendalo, ngokuqinisekileyo inxulumene naloo nxalenye yobudoda yokwenza uqheliselo lwakhe oluncinane ukuze kwixesha elizayo akwazi ube ngutata kwaye ube yinxalenye yosapho.
Bayeke abantwana badlale ngoonodoli ayinampembelelo ingako kuluntu lwethu, ekubeni iqhubeka isisiganeko esingaqhelekanga. Isenzo sokudlala ngamathoyizi afana noonodoli asiphumeleli inxalenye yabo yobudoda, kodwa kunokuba luncedo kuphuhliso lwabo.
Kutheni umntwana wam edlala ngoonodoli?
Besisoloko sizichaza okanye sizicalula izinto zokudlala “ngeethoyi zamakhwenkwe” “nezinto zokudlala zamantombazana.” ukuzimisela ekuhlelweni kakubi kakhulu. Indawo yethu sele ithathela ingqalelo indima yobutata ukwenza eminye imisebenzi enganxulumananga naleyo yabasetyhini.
Intengiso ibisoloko idala oku kwahlulwa kunye nokwahlulwa kwezini, apho kusenziwa ibhombu eqhubekayo yokudala iinyani ezingenabulungisa. Kancinci kancinci kukho iinkampani zokudlala eziqhelanisa amaphulo azo kwaye zinika ithuba lokuba abantwana badlale ngoonodoli kunye nayo yonke into enxulumene naloo njongo, ukuze Funda ukuba ngabantu abadala abangcono ngokudlala.
Ukuba umntwana wakho udlala noonodoli ziindaba ezimnandi, ekubeni bazidalela ihlabathi labo lentelekelelo, ukusungula indlela yokuziphatha kwabo nendlela abanokunxibelelana ngayo nabantu. Abantwana banako ukwenza sebenzisa intelekelelo yakho kwaye uyiguqule ibe yiyo nayiphi na into kwaye abaninzi babo basebenzisa oonodoli njengovavanyo lwezakhono zentlalo ukuba ikamva libagcinele, njenge ukusombulula iingxabano, intsebenziswano nentsebenziswano.
Oonodoli kunye nokunxibelelana kwabo nabantwana
Namhlanje kukho kwimarike iintlobo ngeentlobo zabalinganiswa abamele iindima nemisebenzi (ijaji, umsebenzi wezempilo, abadlali bebhola ekhatywayo, oogqirha, ootitshala...) zizinto zokudlala ezinceda abantwana ukuba bachonge ngoonodoli babo kwaye bacinge ngeemeko ezahlukeneyo ezingapheliyo. Ngoko ke, umntwana sele enikwa ithuba lokufunda ngokudlala kunye noonodoli. njengezinye iindlela zokufunda.
Ukudlala ngoonodoli ivelisa izakhono zokuqonda, idala ukukhula kwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo. Umntwana odlala ngoonodoli umtyhila ekwazini ukuba njani baqhube kwaye benze imisebenzi yabo kwilixa elizayo. Uya kuziqhelanisa nezakhono zemihla ngemihla ngento yakho yokudlala njengokuyihlamba, ukuyondla, ukuyihamba nokuyinxibisa.
Abazali bajongana nobukho obunjalo ekufundeni kwabo umdlalo okanye ulonwabo Akukho mfuneko yokuba bagqibe ngesini sabantwana babo. Kukho abafana abaninzi abadlala ngezinto zokudlala ezinxulumene namantombazana, kunye namantombazana adlala ngeemoto kunye neebhola. Emva koko bakhula beziva ngathi isini sabo.
Isiphelo luthando nentlonipho
Ukuba kamva umntwana odlala lo mdlalo uyawubonakalisa ngokuziqhelanisa nesondo ngokuba lifanasini, Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ujongane nengxaki yokwenyani kananjalo.. Kuyaziwa ukuba namhlanje kukho abazali abaninzi aboyikayo kwaye babhidekile malunga nokubonakaliswa kwabo ngokwesini. Kukho ucalucalulo oluninzi neengcinezelo zasekuhlaleni oko kusekho kwinkcubeko yethu kwaye ngoko sihlala singavumi ukuvumela "unyana wethu adlale ngoonodoli".
Kunzima ukucacisa ukusuka apha ukuba sesiphi esona sigqibo singcono. Ukuba iimpawu zicacile, into ekufuneka siyithathele ingqalelo uthando nentlonipho, yinyaniso yokwenene, kodwa kunzima ukuyila. Ukuba ubona naziphi na iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba umntwana wakho uthanda ukudlala ngoonodoli akufanele uhlekise ngaye, okanye udale amabinzana njengokuthi "abantwana."
Umntwana othanda ukudlala ngokukhululekileyo nabazali abamcinezelayo wenza ube neentloni ngento oyenzayo kwaye uzive udelekile. Ukuba kusenza sibe neentloni ukubona abantwana bethu benje, siphucula “bazakuthini” lo mbutho. Eyona nto ichanekileyo kukuhamba khulisa umntwana wakho ngothando nangentlonipho ukuze ufunde ukuzithanda nokuzihlonipha.
Abantwana bethu ngabona baxabisekileyo, simele sibathande ngenxa yokuba bengabethu, yaye abazali abaninzi benza izigqibo eziqatha baze babathande. Balahlekelwa ngabo ngenxa yeendibano ezicocekileyo zentlalo. Elona cebiso lilungileyo kufanele libe lelokuba iwela phantsi kwamandla ethu njengabazali ukunika uxabiso kunye nokudumisa.